Hello everyone, I am a big strong brother, recently there are often parents to the big strong brother message, complaining that the child is not learning well, their own study with the child is angry, a thought of the child's grades are so poor, what can be done in the future is sad!
But in fact, the big brother wants to say that getting angry with the child and too entangled in the results of the moment is not the desirable way, and a good education to cultivate the child's good character is the key to success.
When they grow up, really good children often come from these educational concepts.
Optimistic mindset
Optimism is a state of mind. Things are already like this, and neither sadness nor joy can change. But that's why a positive or negative mindset, which can lead to great optimism about future situations, is also important. Advocating optimism is to cultivate the positive side of children. An optimistic mindset can push things in a positive, favorable direction, and on the contrary, negative actions will make things worse.
In the process of growing up, children will inevitably encounter setbacks, and if they cannot be optimistic, they will be hindered by failures. Looking for hope in difficult situations, finding vitality in desperate situations, and doing things with an optimistic attitude, children can move towards success as soon as possible.
If the child lacks optimism, any small setback will become a disaster. Those who live because of small things are precisely because of the lack of optimism. Therefore, parents must cultivate their children's optimistic attitude towards life from an early age.
Love to learn
Parents often focus on their children's academic performance, for example: how many points this exam has been tested, which school has entered the school, how many places are ranked in the class, etc., so that it is to teach the child that all the learning you do is to obtain these external affirmations. In other words, you are telling the rabbit, "You are running for carrots, that is, you are cultivating rabbits that run for carrots."
If parents could teach their children to focus their learning on the sense of accomplishment of learning, the feeling would be very different. The difference is that the child is not compared with others, the child should only compare with himself, learn more knowledge, he will make progress, of course, it is worth being happy. In this way, children can get great satisfaction and achievement from the knowledge they have gained.
Parents exert the power of example, adhere to the "lifelong learning" to the end, guide the child in the right way, and in a strong learning atmosphere, the child naturally falls in love with learning.
Have love
Most of today's children are only children, they enjoy love in the arms of their parents all day long, but they suffer from "lack of love", self-centered, selfish, indifferent to parents, others and society, cold as frost, no love, gratitude and gratitude, only know how to take and do not know how to give.
Only by knowing the truth of life, children will understand their parents, understand their parents, know how to care for their families, parents should learn to become friends with their children, let children properly understand the real situation of some life, some parents are always tired and tired, but the various requirements of children are unconditionally satisfied, so that children will be more and more lack of love.
In the process of cultivating children's love is a little bit of daily behavior, to plant the seeds of love for children, as children grow up, it will sprout and grow, so that your children have a good quality, so as a parent still need to adhere to patient training, do not give up lightly.
Follow the rules
Cultivating children's sense of rules is very important, abiding by the rules can help children develop good behavior habits, which is very helpful for the growth of children and future development, but how to cultivate children's awareness of rules, parents must use appropriate methods.
There are no rules, no squares, and loving children and telling rules are not opposites.
In the process of raising children, parents must remember that the goal of our rules is to help children grow, not to abuse their rights as parents or vent their emotions. Respect children, use reasonable rules, and help children develop a sense of rules.
Making rules for children and establishing a sense of awe are also the basic skills of family education.
The clearer the rules and boundaries of the family, the more it helps children to develop good habits from an early age, understand what behavior is right and what behavior is wrong, clarify the rules of doing things, and know the etiquette.
Living in a family that pays attention to rules, children will develop a good character of abiding by the rules, understanding politeness, learning to distinguish between right and wrong, and having independent judgment and thinking about things under the education and influence of their parents, so that they can grow up to a better and brighter future and have a happier life.
Social skills
How can you develop your child's social skills?
First, parents should lead by example. Parents are the most important teachers in a child's life, as the saying goes, "three years old to see the old", early childhood education is the foundation of children's future growth. If parents are a warm, confident and polite person in life, the child will have a kind of learning and will not be bad at treating people and things. On the contrary, the children raised by parents who talk dirty all day and complain about others can also imagine what they are like.
Second, encourage children to take the initiative to solve problems. Some children are born introverted and dare not talk to people, parents should be encouraged at this time, rather than criticizing or nitpicking in person, encouraging children to start from greeting and slowly cultivate their baby's social skills.
In ordinary life, it is also necessary to create scenarios for children and exercise children's social level. For example, when checking out at the supermarket, let the child take the money to the cashier, which will not only improve social skills, but also exercise the child's logic and mathematical skills.
Third, create a good family atmosphere. The impact of the family on the child's development is obvious, a relaxed and pleasant family atmosphere can increase the child's self-confidence and self-esteem, and family members who respect and understand each other are also good examples for the child. Such a family can make children feel that socializing is a happy thing, and they can play with their peers with less arguments and more calmness.
Children's growth and family have an inseparable and close relationship, parents always play the role of guides, in the parents' education and family atmosphere nourished, children grow up healthily under the nourishment of love.
Therefore, as a parent, what kind of person do you want your child to become in the future, please create a corresponding good family environment for your child from an early age, and be a role model on the road of your child's growth!
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