【Peace of Mind】
After school on Friday, it's not very late, go to the nearby children's home to see.
Zhenshu's mother rode an electric car with her child to pick me up, and in a few moments the kung fu arrived. Compared with the home visit of Principal Zhang Guimei, this is also too close.
During this home visit, I plan to use Teacher Liu Limin's questioning guidance method.
First of all, I ask the child's mother: How is the child doing at home?
Mom was satisfied! It is said that children can work at home, can read, and love to learn.
I asked the child: How is Mom and Dad doing at home?
Zhenshu replied; Mom is also great! I always consulted my mother when I couldn't learn anything, and my mother could teach me Chinese and often asked me questions about English. Dad taught me math. My quilt is warm every day, and my mother made it for me.
My comment: The child's consultation is sent from the inside, not by the parents, so this kind of consultation is valuable.
I ask the child's mother again: Is there anything that the child needs to improve?
Mom said: I like my children to read extracurricular books, and I hope that after my children have done their homework every day, even if it is only ten minutes, they will read good books.
The child was very satisfied with the mother's evaluation and did not have any suggestions.
I asked, "Didn't you write before that Mom has some deficiencies?" ”
The child replied, "Mom has improved a lot, it's perfect."
The father came over after finishing the work at hand, and I asked him what the child thought.
The child's father smiled and said: He rarely manages his children, and the child's learning is not very tight, but now it is much better. She now knew the importance of learning, and she was more serious.
I asked the child, "Do you have any requirements for daddy?" ”
The child said: "I have nothing else, I just want my father to drink less and smoke less, smoking and drinking is not good for the body." ”
I commented: Children's reading can also be another way, that is, to tell parents a favorite story in the book every day, or to say the main content or feelings of the book. The child's feelings for the mother are now perfect, there is no perfect person, and we also need to constantly improve ourselves. The child hurts his father very much, which is a blessing for his father! The father's family education is a bit missing, and the father's responsibility is unshirkable.
I ask a third question: Your homeschooling seems to have changed, what is the reason for this change?
Mom said: "When I was in elementary school, I was really too harsh on my children and hit them often. Now that my child is in junior high school, we have been separated for a long time, and I miss her in particular. Besides, she has also grown up, and I think that I will not spend a lot of time with my children in the future, so I cherish her even more. The school has also done a lot for family education, and many of our parents are learning and growing. ”
The mother was talking, but the daughter next to her had tears in her eyes, and she couldn't help the tears.
I asked Zhenshu, "Child, why are you crying?" Is it for the beatings of the past, or for the love of the present? ”
The child slowly stopped sobbing: "My mother has changed a lot for me, paid a lot for me, if I don't study well, I will be too sorry for her, too disappointed to her!" ”
At first, the mother still laughed and listened, and then the mother also shed tears, holding her daughter's hand tightly and holding the child to wipe the tears.
I was also touched by this face.
I let the child take out the Chinese textbook: "Our unit of accumulated ancient poems "Ren Hitachi Spring", you come to read it!" "Spring returns to infinite spring, and today Fang Jue begins to become an adult." From now on, self-denial should be followed, and Yan and Plum Blossom are both renewed. "The child misread two places, and we corrected them together. I tell my child that you are like this poet, in the spring you change, you grow up, you feel life, and the teacher believes that you will become better!
Teacher Li's words: Don't put too much pressure on the child, don't let such a small child feel guilty, we are parents, the responsibility is to help the child grow up healthily, give the child a safe and happy childhood, and give the child a warm harbor.
I finally asked the child's mother: "In the WeChat group during the winter vacation, I saw that you were also satisfied with your daughter's winter vacation, right?" ”
Mom said: "Except for getting up a little late in the morning, everything else is very good, every day she is reading and studying, after writing homework, she will come to the store to help, especially sensible." ”
Before parting, I said to my child, "Congratulations on your growth." Now we are working hard and remembering what Comrade Li Dazhao said -- playing happily when playing, and studying in a down-to-earth manner when learning. When you grow up, you can choose the way you want to live, you can repay the love of your parents well, and you can be a useful person! ”
Every family contains rich family education resources, and we should try our best to dig up and be the leader of children's growth, and also to be the learners of family education.
Husbands and wives are industrious, husband and wife love; parents love, parents lead; children understand things, children work hard. This is a blessing for your family!!
The family is the cell of society, and when the family is healthy, the society will be harmonious! You are the healthy cells of a harmonious society and a contributor to positive energy!
Home visits, into the soul of the home-school co-education. Home visits will always bring warmth and sunshine to homes and schools! Questioning is a kind of respect, a kind of excavation, a kind of awakening, the shaking of one tree to another.
I would like to visit my home like Principal Zhang Guimei, change parents, and achieve children!
(Author: Li Yuanlan, Outstanding Teacher of Dongping County Experimental Middle School, Member of the National Class Teacher Growth Research Association, Director of the Moral Education Research Branch of Primary and Secondary Schools of the China Education Association, Host of The Heart Language Home Visit Studio.) ）