【Peace of Mind】
At noon, the online shopping "I Love All the Dogs in the World" arrived, cheering and cheering, and it was time to spend a day of reading again. And let me have a good understanding of Mr. Ji Xianlin, who is kind, tolerant, and compassionate!
Drowsy, I read a hundred pages in one sitting. The memoirs of the old man also pulled me back into the memories of my childhood. In particular, he wrote about the queen mother, about the god-like poor mother he met when he went home to mourn, about the kind landlady in Germany, full of the love of ordinary women, and immediately, my neighbor's wife when I was a child appeared in front of my eyes.
Big lady, I don't know what her name is, the women in the village don't seem to have names, they are all called whose mother or whose daughter-in-law. The eldest lady's family name is Zhang, and her surname is Li, but her family is in the front row of my house, and when she has time, she often chats with my mother, so our two families are very close.
Her man is serious, does not smile, and cannot leave a large cigarette bag in his mouth every day. The eldest son works in the field, and the family seems very strange and foreign to the people in our small village! The second son and brother do not look like they were born to the same parents, absolutely peasant appearance!
The eldest lady is short, about one meter and five. Thin figure, as if there is no fat ground in the whole body. The back is a bit hunched, as if it is tired from work.
In my childhood memory, she was full of wrinkles, but also full of kindness, and every time she saw anyone she spoke warmly. My personality is a bit of a big girl and likes to treat all people warmly.
That's the kindest woman in the village! I remember that my eldest mother often gave my mother a needle to relieve the pain. I don't know why my mother had such a headache when she was thirty or forty years old, and my neighbor's eldest lady was so magical that she was able to temporarily stop the pain for my mother.
The eldest lady also has a special ability, that is, her crying. I don't know why the eldest bride will often get sick, crying as soon as she gets sick, and crying is a resounding sound. The content of the cry is the same every time the "grandmother on The Mountain of Tai'an". The cry of the eldest bride is a big drama in the village, pulling a long, long tone, and the voice floats over the whole village. I don't know if there is any sad story in this cry, which always makes me feel sad. But I think this crying may be a consolation for her own soul. For me as a child, this is the most unique, the most profound, the most heartfelt singing.
Perhaps because the eldest son works in the field, he has a little money and a little vision, so he opened the first grocery store in our village. I sometimes go and buy a 5 cent book, or a dime of soy sauce. The eldest uncle is very serious, the second brother is very picky, and only the eldest lady is always full of smiles. Now that I think about it, is she the embodiment of the grandmother on Mount Tai'an?
One evening, the eldest lady quietly pulled me aside and secretly took out a few ballpoint refills and a small book from her arms to me. I forgot what the eldest lady said at that time, and I didn't forget whether I said thank you, but I only remembered the eldest lady's loving smile, her small eyes narrowed into a slit, and my heart was full of warmth and joy. Later, the eldest lady gave it to me several times, until her son was not well run and the grocery store was closed.
Forty years have passed since this incident, just like the elderly mother bought a copy of the "Classic of Mountains and Seas" for little Lu Xun, which was imprinted in the heart and unforgettable.
The eldest lady planted a seed of kindness in my little careful field, and this seed has grown. In every educational report I went out, I always recalled this incident, and I was always willing to share my things with others, willing to give something to strangers and poor people, and I was influenced by the eldest mother. Be a kind person, give others a warm smile, and do something for others. The eldest lady is my life initiation teacher.
Like my mother, the eldest lady is an ordinary peasant woman who has not attended school for a day, although there is no knowledge and culture, but they have the simplest and kindest virtues, which cannot be compared with some highly educated and wealthy.
Nowadays, the eldest bride has long been driving to the west of the crane, the eldest son has not returned home, and the second son has long been a grandfather and enjoys the country's poverty alleviation policy. On the day that the eldest bride left, I could not send her off, leaving permanent regrets, but the image of the eldest bride will always be in my heart.
Whenever I think about this, my nose is sour and my tears are hot.
In my memory, in addition to the long and high-pitched crying voice of the eldest lady, it is her smile on her face, it is her kindness.
After writing this, continue to read Mr. Ji Xianlin's warm words, and continue to feel the beauty of everything in the world that he has discovered and felt. He can always accept those positive and beautiful things, forget or even abandon those ugly hypocritical guys, and be a smiling, warm heart, compassionate, open-minded, and bright-minded!
Life is short, where is so much time to grieve?
O loving Mother Earth, may her soul be forever in your arms!
(Author: Li Yuanlan, Outstanding Teacher of Dongping County Experimental Middle School, Member of the National Class Teacher Growth Research Association, Director of the Moral Education Research Branch of Primary and Secondary Schools of the China Education Association, Host of The Heart Language Home Visit Studio.) This article was published in the December 2021 issue of Dongping Lake)