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There is a local saying in the countryside: "Eat a hundred meals and wear a hundred clothes." ”
In the era of poverty, whenever there is no connection, it is necessary to go to the homes of relatives and friends to borrow food, or to go to the neighbors' homes for a meal to drive away hunger.
In terms of dress, we will not pay attention to it, nor will we pay attention to it. After all, being able to wear warmth and not be clothed or covered is very satisfying. A piece of clothing, three years old and three years old, sewing and mending for three years, this is a common thing, it is easy to be accepted.
When I was a child, I was the child of my parents, so my brother and sister's clothes could not be worn, and after changing them, they became my "new clothes".
With the development of the times, more and more people reject old clothes. Wearing one's own old clothes is a sign of poverty, and wearing other people's old clothes means being very poor. The fact that the child wears old clothes reflects the low economic level of the parents.
There is a saying in the "Awakening to the Everlasting Word": "The Buddha is dressed in gold, man is clothed, and the eyes of the world are much shallower, only the skin phase, not the bone phase." ”
Positioning life on "clothes" is obviously superficial. A person's true nobility is in his bones, and it is impossible to be 100% sure with his eyes.
Realistically, people who are willing to wear other people's old clothes are not necessarily poor, but the following kinds of people, for admirable reasons.
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First, thrifty and thrifty people cherish their belongings.
In the spring and autumn, Zilu wore gorgeous clothes to class and met Confucius.
Confucius frowned and said, "Fluttering clothes, like the water of the Yangtze River, come from the mountains, the source is very small, but in the middle reaches, several boats can go side by side." As a person, if you can't block the source of luxury, your demeanor will be arrogant, and who will dare to say your fault in the future? ”
Zilu hurried to change into a simple set of clothes.
Confucius said, "A gentleman cannot know that he cannot do it, and he can do it to the best of his ability." ”
Arrange your life according to your own strength, at any time, do not show off yourself, and use gorgeous appearance to get the praise of others.
In this society, it is easy and difficult to make money. If the family lives a luxurious life, then the pressure to make money will be great. In the final analysis, the person who enters the gold bucket is still poor, because his family cannot make ends meet.
Cover the money bag, no matter who sends the clothes, it is acceptable. After all, the clothes that can be given away must not be very cheap, nor will they be very worn, but others do not fit, or the style is a little outdated.
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Second, people who are born beautiful are confident in what they wear.
Napoleon said: "One should develop the habit of trusting oneself, even in the most critical times, in one's own bravery and perseverance." ”
If a person is very confident, then he will not be depressed about what he wears; if a person is always staring at his clothes, then he is always looking down, but he loses confidence.
Many peasant women, working in the fields, have dirt on them, and we don't think she is ugly, but we smell the fragrance of the soil. The beauty of nature, except for the carvings, amazes the four seats.
Once upon a time, Mei Lanfang, a master of Peking Opera, learned painting from Qi Baishi.
One day, someone invited Mei Lanfang and Qi Baishi to dinner. Qi Baishi arrived first, he dressed plainly, sitting quietly in the corner, very inconspicuous.
Mei Lanfang walked into the dinner room, and everyone quickly gathered around and said hello. Mei Lanfang only responded simply, and then respectfully aligned with Bai Shi and said, "Teacher." ”
At this moment, everyone knows that the person in the corner is a master of painting.
After the meal, Qi Baishi gave Mei Lanfang a calligraphy and painting and said: "Remember the former dynasty enjoyed Taiping, and the cloth dress was honored to move the secretary of state." Now that it has fallen into Chang'an City, it is fortunate to have Mei Lang's name. ”
A person's appearance can be seen through dress, but a person's heart needs to be reflected through something. Lower the expectation of appearance, the face will look good, the heart will be calm, and you can really meet the "person who confides".
If you care too much about your appearance, then the people you meet will be similar, they are not connections, but hypocrites who eat and wear with them. After leaving the circle of hypocrisy, you will find that you are nothing.
A piece of clothing cannot hide a person's talent, but it can show a person's hypocrisy and be cautious.
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Third, people who are more casual are not picky about life.
The ancients said, "Qi, there will be a bright garment, a cloth." ”
Dress up neatly and make yourself comfortable. If you originally liked to wear cotton clothes, in order to express yourself, you put on satin clothes, but you are uncomfortable and feel that something is playing tricks on you.
In other words, you care too much about the eyes of others, and you don't know what to wear.
Let's say you go out early in the morning wearing a red coat. Neighbors say that red does not deserve to be faced. You go home right away and change into gray clothes. Walking to the unit, a colleague said that gray can make a person's skin become gloomy. Such an ending is speechless.
The things you care about are often the things that are "eye-catching".
People who are willing to wear other people's old clothes are dressed casually and know how to please themselves, rather than living in the eyes of others. For life, there is no need to pick and choose.
A person's true ability should be used in "career development, fierce money, and good door cutting", rather than over-dressing themselves, especially middle-aged people.
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There is a story in the "Surging Paper": Teacher Zhang Guimei of Huaping County often visits his home.
During a holiday in 2011, she went to several farmhouses in Chuanfang Township. Ma Hai, director of the school office, and a county bureau chief accompanied him. Everyone went to a student's house and found that there was no decent furniture in this home; the student was crouching on the side of the fire, and his clothes were very worn.
When Zhang Guimei was leaving, she took off her clothes and gave them to the students.
Next, when I arrived at the second student's home, the family was even worse off. Ma Hai did not hesitate to leave his clothes behind.
The third student got the clothes sent by the director and left another five hundred dollars.
On one home visit, three pieces of old clothes were sent. But no one was disgusted, no one complained, only a piece of truth and emotion.
In society, we can always meet people who do not have umbrellas, but they are running, sending an old dress, it is nothing, but what you send out is an umbrella in the wind and rain, the sunshine at the low point of life.
The writer Feng Jicai said it well: "Some people are willing to lend you an umbrella on a sunny day." When it rained, he quietly walked away with an umbrella. ”
I understand the writer's words this way: Some people, when they are happy, have forgotten the painful time and the road of life. Stand yourself in the sun, laughing at the people running in the rain.
Look at ourselves, either the poor or the descendants of the poor. Maybe your parents are rich, but what about your grandparents? Five or six generations up?
Don't forget, relax your mind, accept the present and the past, and allow for the rich and the poor.
Author: Cloth coarse food.
Follow my words and go into your heart.
The illustrations in this article come from the Internet.