□ Guo Wenbin
Once, my son asked me, who is the happiest person in the world? Some say that those who get love are the happiest, some say that those who get wealth are the happiest, some say that those who get power are the happiest... I said that you asked this question well, and I answered it with a sentence from Confucius. "The Son said: 'Those who are not kind, they must not be long-lasting, and they must not be happy for a long time.'" ”
It can be seen that Ren is the source of great happiness.
I would also like to help Confucius add that those who are not benevolent cannot be beautiful for a long time, because "Li Ren is beautiful", and living in Ren is the most beautiful and enjoyable. Once the vicissitudes of the sea were water, except that Wushan was not a cloud, and after tasting that great happiness, there was not much temptation in all the small emotions, and all the pain was not enough to hang on to the teeth.
In the Analects of Shuer, Confucius's disciples described the Master as follows: "The Yanju of the Son, Shen Shen Ruye, and the Death of The Emperor. "The applicant, stretched; the widow, the splendid; both stretched and splendid, great joy!"
After reading the Analects, a sentence popped up in my head: Confucius, the Great Happy One. He sees everything as so open, he is so free with fate, reasonable, not attached, not rigid, Shen Shen Ruye, Yu Yu Ruye, lively, happy, let people look at the heart and rejoice, so there are so many disciples willing to follow him for life.
Like Yan Hui, in order to be with his master often, he is willing to eat coarse food, wear cloth clothes, and live in a simple house without leaving the house. If Confucius were a rigid old man, an unlikable old man, would everyone follow him like a shadow?
Confucius's disciples were trapped in Chen Cai on the way to the Chu kingdom, and when they ran out of food, they could only fill their hunger with wild vegetables. Later, the wild vegetables were gone, and the disciples were all miserable, but Confucius was there to play the violin. What the disciples did not understand even more was that the sound of the piano was extremely cheerful and without sorrow.
Zilu finally couldn't hold his breath, so he asked, when is it, do you still have time to play the piano? Confucius listened and asked rhetorically, then what do you say I should do? Zilu said, at least you shouldn't be happy now. Confucius said that a true gentleman is a gentleman who cannot change his happiness under any circumstances; or that only a man who does not change his happiness in any circumstances, including when there is no food to eat, no house to live in, or even when he is killed.
This is my interpretation.
The real situation is that Zilu stood up and asked Confucius: Do gentlemen also have times of poverty? Confucius said that it depends on how you understand poverty, if a person cannot be in the Tao, or has nothing to do with the Tao, or misses the Tao, then he is truly poor; if a person lowers his ambition and pursuit of seeking the Tao because of setbacks, that is the real poverty. In short, the lack of way is poor, and the loss of way is poor. After listening to his master's words, Zilu wept with shame as he took the piano out of Confucius's tent and said, Master, you continue to play it for us.
Therefore, in the land of Chen Cai, in the starry night of the moon, accompanied by the sound of the master's piano, the disciples sounded, "Guan Guan Ju Dove, in the River Continent." Lady, gentleman". From this, we hear great wealth and great happiness, even though they are like vegetables. In my understanding, this "lady" is nothing else, "benevolence" or "Tao".
It is not difficult for a person to be happy, it is difficult to be "happy for good", always in happiness, in any situation in happiness.
Why was Confucius able to enjoy his strengths?
Psychologists say that people's suffering comes from the contradiction between ideals and reality, but in fact, it is more accurate to say that it is a contradiction between material attempts and reality, from wanting to live in a Chinese house but not being able to eat, wanting to eat delicious food but not being able to, and wanting to be beautiful but not being able to do so. Just imagine, when a person positions his life goal as Confucius said, "There is no food to eat, there is no need to seek safety" and "there is a way and a right way", then how many troubles will there be in his life?
After Alexander the Great's crusade to India, no one wanted to see him, he wanted to see the great beggar Diogenes. He had heard that Diogenes was destitute, but he was the happiest man in the world.
Diogenes pursued the principle of great subtraction, he did not want a house, he did not want a wife, he did not want money, he did not even want clothes, and finally he had only a begging bowl left in his hand.
On this day, an incomparably important "teacher" in his life appeared, that is, a dog who went to the river to drink water. Diogenes was shocked to find that a dog went to the river to drink water without a bowl! He threw the last piece of "family property" into the river, and the dog could drink water without a bowl, so why couldn't I?
The contrast was so brilliant that Diogenes saw it as his final revolution. After throwing the bowl, he danced happily by the river, and the dog was stunned. Now, he has finally become an authentic proletarian.
On this day, Alexander found Diogenes by the sea, saw Diogenes lying naked on the beach basking in the sun, and asked Diogenes in the tone of an incomparably superior savior: "Mr. Diogenes, what can I do for you?" ”
His men said to Diogenes, "Do you know who he is?" He was Alexander the Great. ”
I didn't want Diogenes to even lift his eyelids, and said, "There's nothing to worry about you in the next step, just please move around, don't block my sunlight." ”
Alexander's blows are conceivable, but his heart is clearly envious and revered. The murderous Alexander left Diogenes with a little respect, and he said to himself, If my happiness and wealth are rivers, his happiness and riches are the sea, and in the next life, I will be Diogenes.
This picture is really interesting: one is the super rich in the world, and the other is the super poor in the world, but at this time, the super rich person takes the initiative to raise the white flag in his heart.
Compared with Alexander, Diogenes was indeed poor, but he was not troubled by man seeking a country, not troubled by a wife, not troubled by a man seeking wealth, not troubled by a man seeking his life, and he could sleep anywhere with his eyes closed.
But Alexander couldn't. He had to keep his eyes half open even when he slept, he had too many things on his mind. If there is no idle thing in mind, it is a good sun and moon in the world. He had too much of a chore in his mind that D'Orgonne thought. He has the most beautiful wife in the world, afraid of being stolen; he has the most wealth in the world, afraid of being stolen; he has the greatest power in the world, afraid of being robbed. It was especially pitiful that it was impossible for him to give up all this, that he could not even be a poor man. He was afraid that once he lost the power in his hands, someone would take his life, and he would truly be "deprived of political rights for life."
Now, who do you say is the richest person in the world? This is the difference between a hero and a sage: the king conquers the world, the saint conquers himself; the king enjoys great glory, and the saint enjoys great freedom. Play their proper role.
Of course, I do not call Diogenes in this way to instigate the world to do nothing. The fact that very few people are able to become Diogenes, my fears are certainly superfluous. But I'm sure there's no one who doesn't like Diogenes, especially in an age when lust and speed rub against Mars, and Diogenes' "alternative" is undoubtedly a cooling agent.
If Diogenes' joy comes from great inaction, then Confucius's joy comes from great achievement. Inaction and action are connected through that "big."
Gan said: "Only the belief of never stopping can be exchanged for real rest, and having a passion that never slacks off can finally reach an indescribable peace." ”
Although Confucius was running non-stop on the earth, because of his selflessness and selflessness, the earth became his beach, faith became his sunshine, and the sound of horses' hooves became his wind.
If we pay a little attention, we will find that Confucius has an incomparably classic and incomparably beautiful action like Eugenie throwing away the begging bowl: the little home in the hearts of the world, the ease, just like the bowl in Diogenes' hand, was thrown into the river of death by him again and again. "The Son in Kawakami said: 'The deceased is like a sifu, who does not give up day and night.'" ”
Therefore, it is useless to block people from desire, and when people find a higher happiness than desire, desire will inevitably terminate automatically.