Legend has it that as long as they have not met for more than ten days, even the most familiar relationship will become awkward.
I always heard that long-distance love did not come to bed for three days, until these two days brushed to the vibrato on the long-distance couple to meet, found that it is true that it will become strange after too long.
The first day of the off-site meeting was a large-scale no-talk scene.
Someone made an appointment to meet at home, and after sitting down, the boyfriend scratched his head and asked "Have you eaten?" Someone met in the hotel, and when the girl opened the door, she said "You're here", and after saying it, she vaguely felt that something was not right.
Long-distance love makes the boyfriend become a netizen, obviously talking every day, meeting or like strangers as awkward.
Before chatting with my boyfriend, talking about the longest time we didn't see each other for about two and a half months, at the beginning we were in contact almost every moment, and in the evening, the two people would secretly video in the bed because they missed it too much and wiped their tears.
Later, after a long time, I hardly think of him when I go to work, I will reply to his messages, and every night I will video say "I miss you".
But to be honest, his image in my mind is no longer so "concrete", and I don't think about him as much as I did at the beginning.
When we met again, he changed his hairstyle, his skin darkened, and the smell on his body was somewhat strange. Before we met, we said a lot of riots on WeChat, and we all thought that we would do a big job.
As a result, we didn't expect to meet without the excitement we both thought, but slightly embarrassed, we talked about his travels, and talked about my work, and we didn't know what to say anymore.
It was only on the third day that we began to slowly regain the feeling of not saying anything before, and the memories seemed to be awakened, and the misses returned.
Later, looking back on this experience, both people felt very wonderful and "dangerous". Obviously, they had been together for two years at that time, and just separating for two and a half months would actually bring strangeness.
And this strange feeling, like when we were just together, it was like we were about to break up.
In fact, it is normal for two people not to see strangers for too long, as if they are isolated into two circles, there are no common friends around, and they cannot experience some things together, so naturally there is no topic.
Being away from home fosters nostalgia and freshness, but at the same time, not seeing them for too long can also weaken the sense of missing and familiarity.
Before listening to friends complain about "I haven't seen my boyfriend for too long, I suddenly don't want to see him" I think it's outrageous, and then I experienced it once and found out that it was true.
Being in love seems to be more of a habit than a feeling, and if you always see each other, you will not be used to being separated, and if you are always separated, you will not be used to being together.
I know that this juncture and long-distance relationship emphasize the meaning of meeting is really weak, but the reality is that if you want to eliminate the strangeness of each meeting, you need to meet as much as possible, or be more familiar with the process of meeting and separating, and then the next time you meet and separate, you will not be particularly strange and sad.
I have not experienced a long-distance relationship, and I know that long-distance is really difficult, but I still do not agree with the online "long-distance relationship is the love of four people" and "I would rather be alone than talk about long-distance love".
There are very few people around to talk about long-distance relationships, but the sense of faith in them for the sake of their lovers is really moving.
I once asked my friend who had been in a long-distance relationship for three years how he persevered, and she said that in fact, there were several times in the middle of the meeting that they felt that they could not maintain it, and the two people were getting less and less able to talk, and they felt that they were no different from being single.
But it is amazing that even if you don't meet him, you rarely think about him, but when you meet, you will find that you still love this person. Later, she was used to being separated after each meeting, and she was used to living alone, but if she assumed in her mind that there would be no next meeting, she would be very afraid.
Of course, you can also find a "companion" around, but if it is not that person, it is meaningless.
I have advised everyone not to talk about different places before, the reason is that different places are really hard, and many people start with a strong sense of faith at the beginning, but eventually they are diluted by time and loneliness.
Long-distance relationships are difficult, not enough to love, whether there is an effort for the relationship, long-distance relationships have to pay double or even more than ordinary people to persevere.
But it turns out that if you love and love in your heart, and you have the determination to redouble your efforts, then everything is not a thing.
Illustration / "I Probably Won't Love You"
Head image / Aren