Text: Xi Xihuan
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Humans are social animals, and even if they like to be alone and alone, there are still times when they need to deal with people.
Some people may say that the people I don't like to meet are hiding a little, and I think that the talents who can talk about it are more in contact, although this is the truth, but sometimes the helplessness of special circumstances forces us to bow to reality.
There are also some people who are still simple in heart even in middle age, even if others are using him, he can't detect it, and finally regret it when he suffers losses and is deceived.
Sometimes, some of the troubles and troubles we encounter are actually found by ourselves, if we are not so soft-hearted, if we look at the problem with foresight, if we can make ourselves "fierce", maybe a lot of unnecessary trouble can be avoided.
Therefore, if you don't want to find trouble for yourself, don't see these types of people again, especially after middle age, because being a person requires continuous accumulation of experience with age.
01 Take advantage of your people
Human nature is actually selfish, but most people have a good grasp of this degree, or to draw a boundary, within the boundaries to protect their own interests, even if they fight for their own interests is also on the premise of not hurting others.
However, people's hearts are complex, even if you don't use others, it is inevitable that others will use your heart, maybe you have the resources he wants, and maybe working with you will bring him some things he needs the most, so using you has become a shortcut to his success.
When you are young, because you have little experience in the world, or because you are impulsive and reckless, sometimes you are easy to be used.
Being a person is not afraid of making mistakes, nor is it afraid of failing to do things, the most important thing is that from the process of doing things, we must learn lessons and grow.
As the saying goes, one cannot fall in the same place. If we always make mistakes on the same kind of problem, it only means that we have problems with ourselves.
Zhang Hang is a famous "good old man", in the unit anyone can make him call him, even if he has just joined, employees younger than him are free to instruct him to do a lot of things.
The most ridiculous thing is that Zhang Hang has never rejected others, because he feels that it is okay for him to suffer some losses, but it is always not good to reject others.
In this way, knowing that sometimes colleagues are using him, he does not care, perhaps some people think that he is generous, but Zhang Hang, who is always used by others, finally lost his marriage and happiness.
Zhang Hang has several friends and colleagues who always manage him to borrow money, although the number is not much, but the number of borrowings is more, and he has accumulated a lot of money.
What his wife could not accept the most was that Zhang Hang never took the initiative to ask for money, because he felt embarrassed, and if his wife was angry, he always made excuses for friends and colleagues, saying that they must have encountered difficulties.
Zhang Hang actually did not earn much himself, the couple saved money, sometimes wanted to take their son to travel to hesitate again and again, and Zhang Hang's "poor generosity" completely angered his wife, and finally proposed a divorce.
In fact, perhaps Zhang Hang himself knew in his heart that, as his wife said, those people were just using him, whether it was borrowing money from him or instructing him at work, they were trying to take advantage of him.
If Zhang Hang knew how to refuse, he might not cause trouble in his own life, so from another point of view, in fact, the difficulties and troubles he encountered were self-inflicted.
We all know that to be a person, we must talk about conscience, the so-called gentleman loves money and has a way, you can have ambition, you can have material desires, you can also have fighting spirit to achieve greater success, but you can't use others.
In the same way, even if we are kind,we must protect ourselves and not let ourselves be used by others, otherwise we will find unnecessary trouble for ourselves.
02 People who play with feelings
People live a lifetime, can not do without a "love" word, and even many people are heartbroken on this word, once full of sincerity for that person to pay everything, in the end found that their feelings are actually played.
No one wants to meet a liar in love, true love is difficult to find, but everyone has a yearning for true love, which is the common sentiment of people.
The passion and throbbing when in love seem to be often only available in young people, after all, when the love sinus first opens, they have a more innocent yearning and longing for love, but with the growth of age, especially after middle age, after experiencing a lot of wind and rain in life, although love is not looked down upon, but the heart also has its own choices and judgments, knowing what kind of feelings you want.
So, if you're middle-aged, stop playing ambiguous, and don't let those who play with feelings have a chance to hurt you.
Neighbor Sun Sister is forty years old, once had a failed marriage she is slightly vicissitudes, appears to be much older than the actual age, people who know her past will not be surprised, because she once paid everything for love, even at this age, she still looks forward to love, but people dare not agree.
Sister Sun is like a young girl in her heart, looking forward to beautiful love, willing to listen to men say sweet words to her, she feels that those love words are like the spice of life, which can satisfy all her fantasies about love and make her feel at ease.
Yet we all understand whether a man is worth a lifetime, not to listen to what he says, but to see what he does.
A man may not have the slightest sincerity about this woman, but if a man is willing to do a lot of things for women silently, at least it shows that he is willing to hold up women for the rest of his life.
Obviously, Sister Sun does not understand this truth, every time she makes a new boyfriend, she can't resist the sweet words of the other party, and finally she is either cheated of money, or just becomes an ambiguous object of the other party.
As an adult, especially a middle-aged person who has been emotionally injured, you should understand what your inner desire for feelings is, rather than making the same mistake every time, allowing yourself to be hurt again and again, and face those troubles again and again.
The person who plays with feelings may never be sincere, so you can't expect yourself to be the favorite in his heart, using his feelings as a bet, which seems a little immature for middle-aged people and irresponsible for his feelings.
People's life is actually very short, so short that there are too many people who want to cherish it, and there are too many things they want to do, but when they finally come to the end, they find that there are many regrets.
Therefore, we must know how to protect ourselves and stay away from those who will only hurt and consume us, so as not to cause trouble for ourselves.
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