In the past few years, "chicken babies" have been an indispensable topic in the parenting world, and many children are forced to study hard under the arrangement of their parents.
Raising a good child has become the life goal of many parents.
However, have you ever thought that when you ask your child to work hard and become "someone else's child", your child may also want you to become "someone else's mother/father"?
Junior high school students buy books "chicken mother"
Recently, a mother in Hunan received a "big gift", and her son, who was in junior high school, used his pocket money to buy 10 books on "successful parenting" and gave them to her.
"You just pretend to be with your child", "Don't yell, don't scream, a practice of your mother", "Nonviolent communication"...
When my son delivered these books, he did not forget to tell his mother: "Study hard, improve every day, and strive to become a mother who makes me proud." ”
This tone can not be said to be exactly the same as when the parents "chicken baby", can only say that it is completely consistent, this is the child can not move to choose another way out, began to "chicken mother"?
According to the child's father, the child's mother usually grasps the child's learning very tightly, and almost arranges the child's spare time, but she always loves to play mobile phones at home after work.
The son was dissatisfied with his mother's "double standard" operation, so he asked his classmates for the book lists that his classmates and parents usually read at home, and used the pressure money to arrange the same books for his mother that his classmates "successfully learned".
After the matter fermented on the Internet, many netizens were amused, and everyone laughed at it:
"'Chicken Baby' is not a 'chicken'?"
"Son: Anti-General I!"
"I hope my mother becomes a phoenix."
I have to say that this child is very thoughtful and intelligent, and uses roundabout tactics to remind the mother kindly: parents are the best role models for children, you play mobile phones all day, why expect your children to be excellent?
The mother is also an understanding person, after receiving the "big gift" from her son, she immediately said that she would study well with her son next.
Parents are the starting point for children
Parents and children are both parent-child relationships and mentor-apprentice relationships, and every word and deed of parents is an example for children to learn and imitate. If parents play with mobile phones all day, how can they expect their children to fall in love with reading and learning?
Throughout life, most of the excellent children stand behind them with a pair of excellent parents. "Ski genius girl" Gu Ailing, snowboarding teenager Su Yiming, Tsinghua talented female Wu Yishu... Behind it are all excellent parents struggling to lift up.
Parents are role models for children, and children are shadows of parents. What kind of person you expect your child to be, you must first be that kind of person yourself.
Do you remember the "fairy" mother and daughter who were both admitted to the examination and research institute? The daughter who failed to study for several times originally lost confidence, and then her mother led by example, using trivial time to prepare for the examination, and the strength to accompany the examination re-stimulated the daughter's fighting spirit, and finally the mother and daughter were both admitted and became classmates in the same window.
Education is a practice in which parents and children achieve each other, a process of influencing life with life and warming life with life.
Gu Ailing's mother never asked her daughter to take the Stanford test, but under the influence of her mother, Gu Ailing had high expectations and requirements for herself, and set herself a learning goal early: to be admitted to Stanford.
What you want your child to do and become what kind of person, the very simple way is to do it for your child to see.
Parents are the starting point of children's lives, your height is the starting line of children's lives, manage yourself well, in order to educate children.