It is already a very difficult thing to meet in this world, if you can go further and enter the palace of marriage. That would be really lucky. However, the road ahead is long and the wind and waves are not stopping. The road to happiness is not calm. Among them, if they experience these three things, they will be more unafraid of the changes of the years and grow old together.
First, there are roughly the same views between husband and wife
In fact, the process of getting along between husband and wife is not always calm or want to talk and stop. If you learn to cultivate a common view or three views of both parties, the relationship between the husband and wife will develop rapidly. In society, people will make friends to have a basic understanding of the world and the value of life.
Couples can also gain a new understanding through each other's social methods or lifestyles. Love is mutual, and it is most unrealistic to simply say that one of them is to adapt to the other. Of course, there are the same values in life, and the life pursued by husband and wife is consistent with the goal of life, which will be helpful to get along after marriage.
Second, fully understand and trust each other
Mutual understanding is a basic prerequisite for interpersonal communication. As a husband and wife, "understanding" is of course the most basic premise. And the premise of understanding begins with her (his) personality, family, and living habits. Maybe sometimes everyone thinks that we are already married, and we don't know each other well enough? Don't know each other's personalities and habits enough?
In fact, if you really want to get to know a person or to understand her (his) family, a few years or even more than ten years is not enough. And understanding is also tolerance and trust, mutual understanding and trust between the two sides can keep the road of love smooth all the way, through thorns.
When there is a contradiction, communication is easy
When there is a contradiction between the two sides, there will be two sides with the same personality, and neither of them will be humble to the other. It is also because of this mutual intransigence that they all want to suppress each other. There will be cold wars, quarrels, and may even develop to the least ideal side.
Of course, there will inevitably be some problems and contradictions between people and between husband and wife. But if you learn to resolve these contradictions, learn to deal with them, and learn to communicate. Instead of choosing a quarrel or choosing a Cold War approach, choose to use time to offset the problem. This coincides with greater friction and conflict.
And the emergence of contradictions and problems is not terrible. The terrible thing is that there is no communication between the two sides, and the contradiction develops to an uncontrollable level. Therefore, an important basic requirement as a couple is to be able to communicate in time when encountering trouble, and both parties work together to find a way to solve the problem.
Finally, I will leave you with a question that has no answer: Can you think that love can go to the end?
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