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There is a saying of "three no men" in the blind date market, and it is a few words to expand: no house, no car, no deposit. So everyone basically has to go around.
But you know what? Now the blind date market has also begun to avoid the "three noes" girls.
Xiaoli, 26, doesn't look very old, but she is already an older young woman in the countryside, and she has also been pushed into the blind date market by her parents. Originally, Xiao Li thought that she was not old, she was not ugly, and there should be no problem in casually seeing them.
Who expected, after seeing several blind dates, the other party expressed no interest in her. This made her wonder very much, and it also made her parents start to worry: what is wrong with my girlfriend, why is she so uncompetitive?
In fact, Xiao Li does not know that the "three noes" girl's several standards, she is just one does not land on the thunder.
What are the characteristics of the "three noes" girls who are avoided in the blind date market? As parents, whether they are parents of boys or girls, they actually need to be vigilant.
◆ No concept of savings
Now many young people like to spend ahead. Obviously, his monthly salary is three thousand, and he is interested in a bag or brand-name sneakers of several thousand, and he will first borrow some money to buy it. This has also spawned many "moonlight families", and even many "exquisite poor" girls who are in debt.
Xiaoli is such a person. She likes to buy designer clothes and usually dresses herself up brightly, but in fact, her little income can't cover such a high cost. For this reason, she is often assisted by her parents, and of course, she has some debts.
On a blind date, her designer outfits always attract the attention of the other party, but she also grinned and said the source of income for buying these things. The other person's face changes as soon as he hears it.
Nowadays, the economy is tightening, and some employees in some positions have also been laid off and unemployed, which shows the preciousness of saving habits.
However, young people who are accustomed to eating and eating grain will find it difficult to change this habit after becoming a family, which will be detrimental to family building.
Therefore, people who do not have the concept of savings and spend money like flowing water will not be popular.
◆ No sense of independence
Today, unlike before, ancient men liked weak women, after all, they could hold up a piece of the sky. But nowadays, men are also under pressure, and many men hope that their other half is the kind of person who can be a strong arm, rather than being weak and unable to take care of themselves.
Therefore, women who are not independent enough have less charm in the blind date market.
Take Xiaoli as an example, after choosing to borrow money for her own exquisite life, she did not think of increasing her income by improving her ability to work, but begged for help from her parents when she was not enough, so it can be seen that people who are not very independent are not favored.
◆ No sense of responsibility
To be honest, after having children, women's responsibility to the family and children will increase visibly, even more than men. But there are also irresponsible women.
Have you ever heard the saying "little grandmother in the countryside"? It refers to a type of woman, after having a child, do not bring a baby, do not go out to work, the child is watched by the elderly, the husband goes out to work to support the family, plays cards and rubs mahjong at home, and has a bad temper. He often quarrels with his family.
This is actually a manifestation of a lack of responsibility.
During the blind date, the man inadvertently asked, "Who do you think should take the child after giving birth?" Xiao Li blurted out: It must be the child's grandmother, I am still a child, how can I take a child?
It is also this kind of reaction that makes the man feel that Xiaoli's sense of responsibility is not enough, so that he will no longer talk deeply.
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