Hello everyone, I'm Seven Joy Mom~
One mother was directly intimidated in the parent group, sending several messages in one breath, and the contradiction pointed directly to another parent and teacher.
Looking at the mother's message, she probably guessed the meaning, her daughter was bullied by another classmate in kindergarten (currently in a small class), because this is not the first time she has been bullied, and the mother can't help but yell at the parent group in anger.
The mother first angered another parent (bullying child), and told her how her child usually bullied her child, and then the mother @ 2 teachers in the group, she believes that the reason why her child is bullied is largely because the teacher supervision is unfavorable, and it does not work at all.
Because her child is often bullied in the kindergarten, the mother admits that now the child has a fear of the situation, every morning is not willing to go to the kindergarten, when the school door began to cry, because the child is afraid that she will be beaten by other children.
In the whole process, there were other parents in the group to talk and mediate, suggesting that the mother was discouraged and had something to communicate with the teacher privately, not to vent her emotions in the group, but she was directly and sternly rejected by the mother.
The teacher's attitude has always been very kind and explains that the beating incident is indeed unaware.
The teacher also admitted that after all, there are more than 20 children in a class, only 3 teachers, take the children out to play a trip to pay special attention, but the children will inevitably have some bumps in the play, sometimes the teacher did not notice that the children themselves will have some small events in private.
Kindergarten is a small society, children are the first time to leave their parents and step into this society, children with strong adaptability can quickly integrate into the collective sense of existence, on the contrary, children with weak adaptability are likely to face various problems.
For example, children are afraid, cowering, being bullied, not being sociable, afraid to express themselves, and so on, if the child is really facing these problems, what will you do?
Will you be like the "domineering" mother in the parent group like the above?
I think this method will not only not solve the practical problems that children need to face, but also cause the relationship between parents and parents and teachers to break down, bringing a series of troubles related to follow-up communication problems.
Because interpersonal relationships are like a mirror, once broken and cracked, even if you use the strongest glue to paste, it will not help.
Mom's approach is a demonstration
Most children enter kindergarten at an age of about 3 years old, and children in this age group do not have a strong ability to distinguish between right and wrong, and the best way for them to learn is to imitate.
Imitate the way the teacher speaks in class, imitate the behavior habits of the children, and imitate the style of the parents.
Parents' attitude and emotional control ability have a great impact on children, if you find that your child is more irritable, you must try to introspect and think back to whether you often have this negative emotion.
In the same way, when children are bullied in kindergarten, it is recommended that mothers first keep calm thinking, maximize the comfort and relief of children, and reduce children's psychological trauma. At the same time, let the child narrate the whole process completely (the child's thinking in early childhood will be confused, and the narrative before and after the event will intersect), and the way the mother asks during this period should not be deliberately guided, otherwise the child's narrative is likely to deviate from the facts.
The second is to communicate with the teacher in time (pay attention to the way and tone of speech during the communication process), let the teacher help himself to understand the real process of things, and let the teacher become a good helper for solving problems.
The third is to communicate effectively with the parents of the other child, listen to some views and opinions of the parents of the other party, and find the final solution to the problem.
A mother who can maintain emotional stability in the face of trouble and actively look for solutions to problems will invisibly bring great mental strength to the child and let the child learn how to deal with things.
If you want your child not to be bullied, effective prevention is the key
The reason why children will be bullied in kindergarten, in addition to some external reasons, more often than not, children do not have a sense of self-protection, children do not know how to distinguish what is bullying, and there is no self-protection mechanism in the brain.
For example, the child was pushed on the back today, he did not realize that he was bullied, the other party saw that the child did not fight back, he would think that the child was cowardly and good at bullying, and he would find various opportunities to bully the child in the future, and over time it would form a bullying phenomenon.
Children always encounter injustice, they will be more timid and afraid, dare not tell teachers and parents, and will form introverted and inferior personality traits when they grow up, thus affecting the handling of future interpersonal relationships.
When the child is about to enter kindergarten or has already entered kindergarten, it is strongly recommended that parents instill a sense of self-protection in their children (I often do this myself), and the best way for young children is to take their children to read picture books.
I have selected a lot of theme picture books before, and recommend this set of "Children's Anti-Bullying Picture Books", which is both practical for children and loves to watch, which is very meaningful (I read with my children every night before going to bed, and children look at it as a story).
This set of 10 picture books teaches children what they can do, what they can't do, how to protect themselves, and so on, starting from 10 themes. The 10 volumes are:
Don't be afraid in the face of bullying! 》
"When I'm Angry"
"NO, You Can't Do This"
"You can do it!" 》
"I Have a Dream of a Soldier"
"Bad Boys" Become "Good Kids""
"Hands Can't Be Used to Hit People"
"Happy in Kindergarten"
"Say No to Ridicule!" 》
"I am the protagonist today"
This set of picture books is suitable for children aged 2-6 years old, especially for children who are about to enter kindergarten or are already in kindergarten.
The content of the book is bilingual in Chinese and English, with large pictures with simple text, and the colors are very bright, which is in line with children's reading habits.
Each book sets up a small story (the small stories are derived from life scenes), the sense of substitution is very strong, so that children can integrate into the artistic conception of the protagonist, understand while watching, and slowly learn how to protect themselves.
Entering kindergarten is a very important moment in the life of children, the first time that children leave their parents to face the world alone, which requires children to have strong psychological qualities and the ability to protect themselves.
Parents can't always accompany their children, but we can teach children basic skills in some ways, and it is better to protect children than to teach children, which is the key!
I am Qiyue Mom, a mother of a three-year-old child, and I hope that some of my parenting experiences can be conveyed to you through the platform to provide a little help for your parenting road! You can follow me to learn and grow together!
I am @Seven Joy Mom, follow me and I talk about parenting easily together!
Image from the network, infringement please contact to delete!