Every day before dawn, the children would climb on top of us, drag and drag us to get up, and then the day's battle would begin.
Wash and dress your child, prepare breakfast, do housework, and play with your child. Repeat again, lunch, dinner, until the evening shower, brushing teeth, coaxing to sleep. After the child falls asleep, he also has to clean up the toys on the ground, and then take a bath and wash his clothes...
After doing this, the mother is usually physically and mentally exhausted and exhausted. Even if I still have a little time, I just want to lie in bed and look at my phone. If nothing else, just to reward yourself for your hard work on this day.
The same is true for working mothers, busy working during the day, busy with babies and housework at night, and sometimes with overtime, without a chance to breathe. Although I also want to enrich myself and do something interesting, my body is very honest with you: "I'm tired, so relax, and talk about it tomorrow." ”
Therefore, every time the rice cake mother shares the itinerary to go to the gym and learn English on Weibo, the question asked the most by the mothers is: How can you still have time, how to do it?
Yeah, after so many meetings, business trips, and two hours to spend with her children, how can a mom of rice cake still do so many things?
Mom Rice Cake tells us in "Your Parent-Child Relationship Is Worth Tens of Millions" that the answer is four words: time management.
If you want to do time management, you must first figure out where time comes from.
When it comes to personal plans and interests, many mothers will block back with children and housework, because these are time-consuming.
But have you ever thought that many times you want to do something, but you always don't do it, maybe it's not that you don't have enough time, but you are trapped by perfectionism and mindset.
For example, when the rice cake was still small, the mother of the rice cake took him at home while writing WeChat public account articles.
How did she do it?
First, turn the pieces into a whole + act immediately, and use time efficiently
For the mother of the rice cake at that time, all the articles could only be written after the rice cake fell asleep and in between doing housework.
So from the very beginning, the mother of the rice cake paid great attention to the cultivation of the work and rest rules of the rice cake: sleeping, playing, and eating time were as fixed as possible; give him an independent small bed, rather than sleeping in his hands... In addition to making children grow better, scientific parenting methods will also make mothers more worry-free and labor-saving with their babies.
As for doing housework, the rice cake mother is even more lazy. For example, save dirty clothes for three days and then wash them, buy a rice cooker that is thrown into the raw materials without worrying about it, cook a variety of vegetables and meat in one pot, which is a relatively fast way to cook, or make a whole pot of stew that is enough to eat several meals separately.
MomMyo felt at the time: I don't want to waste time on the kitchen and housework, but to do more meaningful things.
We must recognize that after becoming a mother, time is saved from these gaps in taking the baby and doing housework.
When you wait for the washing machine with ten minutes to wash your clothes and the twenty minutes to get up of the children, there is an important principle of these fragmented times that you feel can only do the fragments to make better use of the time, which is to act immediately.
Don't always think about the whole time, perfect preparation, and don't pursue 90 points, as long as you start to do it, you can do 60 points first.
Second, plan ahead and use time efficiently
Mom Rice Cake read a book and made a detailed table outlining how a person's life is wasted. For example, it takes six months to wait for a traffic light, and fifteen months to find something.
However, compared with brushing a mobile phone, these are nothing.
Some people have calculated in detail that their meaningless time spent brushing mobile phones for more than three hours a day.
If you could stop swiping your phone, wouldn't there be a lot more time? How?
Since time needs to be "managed", the way to do more with less must be to plan in advance.
Usually there are many meetings, what should I do if I can't get in line? That would allow you to book your meeting two days in advance.
In addition to work, the rice cake mother also has to ensure that her fitness and study plan are booked with the coach a week in advance: which day to work out next week, which day to swim, which day to take English class, are all listed in the schedule.
This is an experience that benefited her a lot from "7 Habits of Highly Effective People" that her father recommended for mochi mom: different things take time like stones and sand of different sizes. If you put the sand first, the big stone will not be stuffed in the end; if you put the stone first, the sand can be filled in. Therefore, the mother of rice cakes will definitely put away her important "big stones" that need a full time first.
In this way, the biggest feeling of the rice cake mother is that there is no less to do, and what is cut is only the time of meaningless brushing mobile phones.
In addition, develop some more efficient habits, such as quitting WeChat at work.
When you need a complete piece of time to write an article, the rice cake mother does this, once you leave WeChat, there is no distraction, you will write very fast. All kinds of emails, messages, rice cake mother will focus on a time to deal with the reply. Because there are not so many "urgent military information" that must be replied to immediately.
In the end, you will find that after you get those "big rocks", your time utilization may double.
Someone once asked the mother of the rice cake: "Although it is said that time is like cleavage, there will always be squeezing, lying down is gone." But it's very comfortable to lie down! What do you think about this? ”
Mom's answer is: It depends on whether you choose to be comfortable now or more comfortable in the longer term. Lie down, only now comfortable. If you don't do time management and let every day be wasted so aimlessly and happily, you will inevitably fall into a dead cycle of exhaustion-complaining-disappointment.
However, if you choose to plan your time and discipline yourself, you will get more long-term comfort. For example, when the child sleeps, I still have to bury my head in writing and checking information; others are chasing dramas, I hold up barbells in the gym... It was hard at the time, but looking back, I've been getting better, and that's what time management has rewarded me.
Mom Rice Cake once posted a sentence in the circle of friends: Exercise should be to celebrate that your body can do these things, not to punish the food you eat.
In fact, time management is also like this: not to compensate for the waste of the past, but to make the present better.
If you think about it, a busy day without a destination other than being tired and complaining doesn't actually make you better; and when you schedule your time better and more rationally, you'll find that everything becomes smoother, easier, and happier.
After all, time is the fairest and most reasonable, it never gives more than one, whether time is valuable or not, depends on how you use it.
The essence of time management is not to squeeze ourselves to do more, but to find the initiative of life, to find inner peace, so that we can enjoy life calmly.
As Yoshida Hokuha, a Japanese mother, said, "If you have free control 24 hours a day, you should not be able to read so many books in a short period of time." If there are no children to take care of, there should be leisure to drink coffee, and it will not be so full of morale and blood. ”
While raising and caring for five children, Yoshida was admitted to Harvard University and received a master's degree. Compared to her, we don't have that much time, right?
To sum up, the mother of rice cake told us in "Your Parent-Child Relationship Is Worth Tens of Millions" that the mother who gets everything will manage time.
The time management method of the rice cake mother: one is to turn the pieces into a whole + act immediately and use time efficiently; the second is to plan in advance and use time efficiently.
The point of our time management is that we can regain the initiative in our lives.