Mom Mochi shared her friend's experience in "Your Parent-Child Relationship Is Worth Tens of Millions".
Her friend said that once the kindergarten asked the parent committee to organize a weekend autumn trip, and as a result, several parents openly opposed it in the group, saying that their children should take English classes, Go lessons, drawing lessons, Lego lessons, programming lessons on weekends... Can't miss class!
At this time, the friend of the mother of the rice cake realized that it turned out that the classmates in the child's class would take interest classes on weekends.
Looking back at her son who was playing with water guns in the community, anxiety immediately flooded her like a tide: "Is my child lagging behind?" Should I enroll my child in an interest class? What class should I apply for? How many newspapers should be reported? ”
With these questions in mind, the mother went to the mother of the rice cake, and the mother of the rice cake, after thinking carefully, sincerely replied: "I don't know." ”
This is the truth of Mommy Rice Cake.
The purpose of the interest class is to cultivate children's interests and hobbies and tap into his special strengths and potential.
A hundred children have a hundred different interests and hobbies, which will have a one-size-fits-all selection criterion?
Besides, for the matter of applying for interest classes, the mother of rice cakes really does not have much experience.
When Mochi was in the small class, Mochi's mother reported him to a hip-hop class; when he got to the middle class, he enrolled in a self-training class, and the cake father took him to play football and tennis.
Mommy Rice Cake has always felt that the key to reporting interest classes to her children is not when to report and report a few, but how to help children choose interest classes, and when he wants to give up, how to help him stick to it.
If you talk about interest classes from this perspective, the rice cake mother really has some experience.
Children go to interest classes, not only the child alone, it also requires a high degree of cooperation from parents.
When children are ignited by interest, to achieve brilliant results, on the one hand, children need to be willing to adhere to hard practice for a long time, on the other hand, parents need to invest a lot of money and energy.
If parents are not prepared to suffer hardships, enrolling their children in interest classes will not bring the "excess returns" they expect.
Therefore, no matter what interest class is reported to the child, parents should think clearly: Am I ready to enroll my child in the interest class? What is the purpose of my interest class for my child?
Therefore, it is not so simple to enroll children in interest classes, and the biggest challenge still falls on parents.
Parents should be clear that attending an interest class is not only a matter for children, it is a life challenge that parents need to complete with their children.
Only when parents are ready can they take their children to overcome challenges when they face difficulties; only by treating the interest class as a small boat with children to set off, it will not become a stone that overwhelms parents and children.
Selection criteria for interest classes: does not affect the quality of life of the whole family
Many parents apply for interest classes for their children, holding the idea that "children have a specialty and can enhance their competitiveness".
But truly competitive specialties cannot be cultivated by taking an interest class or attending one or two classes a week.
Every child is different, before the child is 6 years old, in the choice of interest classes, parents can be a little Bit, keeping in mind that the interest class is only to provide children with a rich experience environment, rather than to start professional training.
In fact, before the age of 6, children are easy to be interested in one thing, fresh and fun trial lessons can always attract his attention, these interest classes trigger interest is far more meaningful than let children master a certain skill.
Therefore, if the child is interested, and the parents feel that the training institutions and teachers are reliable and assured after inspection, the learning cost is also within the range of the family economy, and the most critical thing is that the training class is close to home and convenient to pick up and drop off, then the child is very good at what interest class.
In fact, the latter two conditions are usually ignored by parents, but they are actually very important: whether it is the distance to the interest class or its process, as long as the child does not feel pain, the parent will not be too painful.
Although many parents regard money as dung in the investment of interest classes, once you think about whether this 1 hour is worth 180 yuan in each class, you will inevitably chase after your child and ask what you have learned.
Not to mention, in order to save money, some families do not even dare to arrange travel and vacation.
These will bring great pressure to the child, and will seriously affect the quality of life of the whole family.
In the long run, children are not happy in interest classes, and parents will feel tired and tired, and the result is that they cannot achieve the goal of letting their children attend interest classes.
Before enrolling your child in an interest class, go through the experience
Many parents report training courses to their children, holding the mentality of "learning more is always right", but in fact, all the talent training that cannot be sustained is a waste of time and money.
Instead of blindly giving your child an interest class and wasting time and money, it is better to take your child to experience it together.
In this way, on the one hand, you can observe whether the child is interested in this interest class and whether it can be integrated into the environment of this interest class; on the other hand, after personal experience, parents can also feel the difficulties that the child may face in the future, so as to be able to understand the child, and then help the child face the difficulties encountered in the interest class, so that the child is more motivated to insist on the interest class, and will not retreat in the middle.
For example, learning piano, many mothers like to ask a question: How old is it appropriate for children to learn piano?
According to The Rice Cake Mother, the person who asked this question probably couldn't play the piano.
Once the mother of the rice cake also wanted to give the rice cake a piano class, because there was a little boy in the class, wearing a handsome little dress at the party, performed a piano solo, which attracted countless applause and envy.
It was really an old mother's highlight moment, and the mother of the rice cake was moved: Do you want to report a piano class for the rice cake? But Mochi never said that he wanted to learn piano, that was just the wishful thinking of Mochi's mother, what to do?
Mom Mochi has a good habit of going through it herself before deciding to let Mochi learn something new.
That day, Mom Mochi came to the piano training center, where there was a piano that could be tested and a short score of "Little Star".
With the help of the teacher, the mother of the rice cake found the position of the center C on the key and stumbled and played "Little Star" without chords.
Mom Mochi's only feeling at the time was: tired!
The piano has 88 keys, and when you press each key, you will feel a wave of resistance, the term is called "key weight". Different brands of pianos, the key weight is not the same.
Therefore, to play the piano, the fingers must have a certain strength.
As an adult, Mom Mochi feels very tired and hard when playing the piano, not to mention the child's tender ten fingers.
If it were not for her own experience, the mother of the rice cake would not have felt the children's resistance and fear of practicing the piano, and could not empathize with the children.
After the experience of the rice cake mother herself, she finally gave up the plan to give the rice cake piano class.
If Mochi takes the initiative to learn to play the piano in the future, Mochi's mother will consider it, but will not enroll him in class according to her own wishes.
To sum up, children going to interest classes is a challenge for parents.
The purpose of the interest class is to cultivate children's interests and hobbies and tap into his special strengths and potential. Each child has different interests and hobbies for each child, so there is no uniform standard for the selection of interest classes.
Reference for the choice of interest classes: One is not to affect the quality of life of the whole family, and the other is to experience the experience before reporting interest classes to children.