We all know that the company of parents is particularly important in the process of children's growth. But what kind of companionship is effective companionship? How to accompany children with high quality?
If parents just stay with their children, but do not really accompany their children, but look down at playing mobile phones, doing their own things, not participating in children's games, no interactive communication from language to emotion, and no emotional connection between parents and children, such accompaniment is ineffective.
The so-called effective accompaniment is that when accompanying the child, the father or mother is wholeheartedly interacting with the child, patiently listening to what the child says, expressing the feelings, responding in time, without distraction, and with the heart to achieve that only you are in my eyes. High-quality companionship requires a dedicated 15 minutes of daily companionship, so that children feel love and attention, feel safe inside, and get emotional nourishment.
Put down the mobile phone, carefully accompany many children have such a feeling, "although mom and dad are around, but I still feel lonely", some parents feel that there is no time to accompany their children, or do not know what to do when accompanying their children. In fact, the child is very satisfied, as long as you take a walk with him, or take a nap together, the child will feel very good. Parents must pay attention to the fact that when accompanying their children, putting down the mobile phone and work, the companionship of the heart is the most important.
The use of warm meal time to eat is a very warm period of time for the family to be together, parents go to work during the day without time to accompany the child, then eating at night is a good companion and communication opportunity, use this room can be together to talk about what happens every day, increase parent-child feelings. However, when eating, parents should not nag and reprimand their children, so as not to make the children resist.
With the help of toys to play children's creativity to play toys on the child's hands-on ability, fine movements to improve the improvement of obvious effects, in addition, puzzle toys help to enhance and expand the child's intelligence level, can give children more play, play in the process, parents can first participate in it, play with children, provide certain guidance and assistance, so that children get a sense of success, children will be more bold to create.
Doing housework together with children is not to let parents do nothing, just a simple child, parents can let children choose to wipe the table with themselves, pick vegetables and clean and other housework activities, these activities are parents accompany the child's opportunity, both to meet the child's curiosity, help the child love labor, but also enhance parent-child feelings.
Parent-child reading 1. Look at your children more and smile more.
Telling your child a bedtime story is an important opportunity for quality companionship. Every time a story is told, parents apply eye contact to the children, sometimes with a small smile and sometimes with an encouraging look. When children feel this kind of communication and interaction, they are more receptive to you and more likely to fit into the context of the story.
2. Physical acceptance is important.
Reading picture books is a great opportunity to improve the quality of parenthood, let the child sit on your lap, burrow into your arms, scratch your hand, which will make them completely relaxed, and the person's ability to accept things in a completely relaxed state will be greatly improved. This also explains why many children do not learn what the teacher teaches in class, but they usually learn what they hear.
3. Move when you can.
It is the nature of the child to move. The picture book itself is more static. The balance to solve this problem is to find the moving points in the book and let the children move. We can go with our children to imitate the little animals in the book, imitate them to talk, imitate them to do things. Make the whole process dynamic.
Outdoor sports parents often take their children out to play, and children do some outdoor parent-child activities, let children contact the outside world, contact a lot of new things, take children into nature, go to parks, lakes, lawns, let children see, listen, smell, to touch this colorful world, share feelings with children, have a lot of help for children's growth, and can also enhance parent-child feelings.
In short, the child's world is very simple, and no temptation can resist the love and companionship from the parents!