The language of parents is the child's eyes to see the world, and it is also the nourishment for the child to absorb love and energy.
When parents are quiet and understand and respond to their children's voices, they must also be willing to open their hearts.
A few days ago, I listened to my girlfriend complain:
"After becoming a mother, I always can't control the flood power in my body, and my voice is big enough to sing soprano."
There is no easy word in the adult world, it is difficult to be a mother, and it is even more difficult to be a gentle and good mother.
Many times mothers face their children's mischievous mischief, disobedience, or even "repeated teaching", can't help but be emotionally up, the volume increases.
He was also yelled at because his mothers were too anxious and loved him too much.
However, for children, the mother's high-pitched roar is terrifying, and the damage caused to the child's body and mind is indelible.
Because most of the yelling and scolding is punitive, it reduces the child's happiness.
Education expert Chen Heqin said:
"A child's young mind is extremely vulnerable to bruises, and any rough and arbitrary approach to education is out of place, and only in a gentle way can it enter the child's heart."
On the road to education, the biggest enemy is actually the volume of parents.
The "roar" method of education is itself verbal violence, mixed with inequality.
Think about it from the other side, when we parents make mistakes in life and work, do we like someone to give you patient guidance so that we don't make mistakes again next time, or do we like others to go online and accuse you?
When the child is still young, he needs his parents to guide him, wait for him, and do not rush to achieve success.
There is no right or wrong in the child's concept, and when you yell at the child, he does not know why he is wrong, and he feels confused and afraid.
After more times, the child will not know what he can do and what he can't do, look at the face of the parents, and do not have the ability to judge the right and wrong of things.
Parents use simple and rough loud volume to cut off the child's wings, but accuse the child of not flying, hurting the child's heart.
Experienced parents will communicate equally, guide their children to volunteer to do things, and make children feel respected.
The most successful education is to let the child do exactly what the parents want him to do.
Yelling, some children seem to be unresponsive, but in fact, in the quiet destruction of the child's brain structure, hurt the child, let the child's growth is hindered.
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