More than ten days have passed since the annual Spring Festival, and even the Lantern Festival has passed. Adults who need to return to work have already returned to work, and students who are studying will gradually return to school.
To say that today's children are indeed really happy, growing up in the good times of quiet years, not only have no worries about food and clothing, but even have a special bus for parents to pick them up and send them out every day.
Some people may not believe it, because adults also have their own feelings, today's survival pressure, employment competition pressure is not small, where there is so much time to accompany children, the so-called pick up the job can not accompany the child, put down the work can not afford to accompany the child.
In fact, nine times out of ten students are picked up and dropped off from school every day, if there is no believer, it is recommended to take advantage of the time when school is out of school, go to the gate of major primary and secondary schools to stay, and see that the school gate is blocked by parents who come to pick up and drop off their children, and they know that very few children go to school alone.
There is a friend who has been a full-time mother wholeheartedly since her child fell to the ground, whether it is the child's diet and living, or the child's study, she has taken good care of it. After 15 years of picking up and dropping off children from school, even if they are uncomfortable, they have lived as hexagonal warriors gritting their teeth and insisting.
To borrow a well-known sentence from the university: happy families are mostly similar, unfortunate families have their own similarities, and 11-year-old Xiao Teng, who is in Ganzhou, Jiangxi, is not so happy. Just like "poor children are home early", just a few days ago at 5:00 a.m., he went out alone to register and go to a school 15 kilometers away.
At 5:00 a.m. in Jiangxi, although it is not cold, the temperature is only 3 to 8 degrees, and the outdoor is not only black and numb, but also the cold wind is cold from the head to the soles of the feet. People are still sleeping in the warm bedding, but Xiao Teng, who is only 11 years old, carries a light and walks alone on the cold school road, with only a small dog next to him.
Xiao Teng's hometown is located at the junction of Jiangxi and Guangdong, because his parents went out to work after the Spring Festival, and his grandmother, who was dependent on him, was old and inconvenient. As rural schools declined, he had to rush to schools 15 kilometres away.
At five o'clock in the morning in the countryside, there is a lot of black and hemp everywhere, and the children who grow up in the countryside know that the legend of "ghosts" has been there anytime and anywhere. To say that walking alone during the day will feel creepy, not to mention that the sky is not yet light. To ask Xiao Teng if he would feel afraid, it was inevitable!
Walking in the dark at night, in addition to being accompanied by a small dog, there is no parental care, there is no peer of classmates, only himself, the father who works hundreds of kilometers away, looking at the back of his son away from home in the monitor video installed at home, he is in tears.
When he spread this scene to the Internet, countless netizens burst into tears. When other people's children are still lying in the arms of their parents, Xiao Teng has to carry everything on his own. Seeing this scene, a netizen said without any obscurity: I don't want my children to be so independent.
Some people do not think that the learning conditions of rural children are like this, and going to a long distance to study is not enough to make a fuss. And they empathize and say that they were like this when they were young, and they had to rush to schools a few miles away every day. Whenever there is windy and rainy weather, that part of the road is particularly difficult.
So, what is the difference between an overprotected child and a child who grows up barbaric?
We just took a lesson on homeschooling, and the teacher assigned an assignment to explain the difference between the green plants raised indoors and the trees that grow in the wild. In fact, it can be compared from three aspects:
The ability to survive alone
Indoor green plants have poor self-viability, which can also be said to be almost non-existent, because they need artificial watering and fertilization maintenance, and once they leave the care of others, the survival time is very short.
The trees that live outdoors do not need to be taken care of at all, as long as they are given enough room to grow, the right climate and soil, it will root deeply into the ground and grow freely.
Courage to overcome difficulties
The indoor green plants look leafy and shiny, but because the roots are not solid enough due to the size of the pot diameter, when encountering harsh environments, it is easy to be crushed.
Outdoor trees blossom and fall in the cold and summer of the year, no matter how bad the weather is, they can withstand the wind and rain, all kinds of challenges.
Space for future achievements
Indoor green plants, due to the restrictions of root system, soil, space and other conditions, are doomed to become towering trees.
The outdoor trees are nourished by the sun and rain, and show their strongest vitality, and will eventually grow into towering trees.
In fact, the growth law of each child is like a tree, if the parents give excessive protection, it will restrict its free growth and affect its best self.
There are four major parts of a child's development: affection, personality, interests, and schoolwork, and are carried out in order. The family connection that children need in their growth is like the soil that small trees need, as long as there is enough nutrients to nourish the roots, the trees can get enough nutrients.
An 11-year-old elementary school student is not enough to survive independently, and when he faces difficulties and setbacks, he does not know how to face them correctly. From the perspective of security and belonging, it is precisely when parental love is needed to give life confidence, and it is also the time to get inner strength from the family, and parents should not let go or even be absent.
The trunk is like the personality of a child, only by getting enough love from the soil can a thick and straight trunk grow, then the branches and leaves are a matter of course.
Personality consists of three main parts: self-confidence, personality, and emotions. Family is the beginning of the child's family affection link, but also the origin of inner abundance, only the child has established a good sense of security, belonging and value, in order to achieve enough self-confidence, develop a good character, and emotional management skills. And these three aspects are the core factors that affect the child's ability to be happy.
In short, parents give their children enough love, not only can nourish their entire life, but also make the children more powerful and confident in their hearts. A confident person is not necessarily successful, but a successful person must be confident.