Father takes 12-year-old daughter off from school to ride China! Tempering the child's will, or is the parent's self-touching?
In the past few days, the circle of friends has been brushed by two travelers, one big and one small.
Mr. Qi and his 12-year-old daughter from Hangzhou, Zhejiang Province, set out from home on June 1 and cycled 1,800 kilometers in 17 days, having traveled through Zhejiang, Jiangxi and Hunan, and have now reached Guizhou.
Why take your daughter for a ride? Aren't you afraid of delaying your studies?
It turned out that Mr. Qi felt that the current children were too volatile, and he wanted his daughter to go to music colleges and universities in the future, and the requirements for children's cultural course grades were not so high.
And in the words of Mr. Qi: the child himself does not want to learn, it is useless to stay in school, and if the daughter wants to learn, it is never too late.
Therefore, he directly gave his daughter a one-year sabbatical, intending to exercise his daughter's perseverance through cycling and adjust his mentality through this time.
For Mr. Qi's choice, many netizens expressed support, but more netizens couldn't help but complain:
"I think cycling is never too late, knowledge and accumulation are not enough, even if you travel thousands of miles, you can't feel a lot of things."
"Parents' self-touching, exercise children to do things and persist in not giving up, doesn't this even give up normal schoolwork?"
In fact, it is not uncommon for parents to ride with their children today, so there are not a few popular networks.
Most of the reasons are because children are tired of school, and parents want to let their children see a wider world, regulate their body and mind, and re-engage in learning through cycling.
As for children, whether taking a break from school to ride is good or bad, and whether it can play a key role as parents wish, I am afraid it is a matter of opinion.
But we can't deny that reading ten thousand books is not as good as traveling thousands of miles, sometimes children really can't learn, when conditions permit, a parent-child ride, is an option worth trying.
Cycling cured children's "school boredom"
Mr. Xu, from Dandong, Liaoning, had a similar experience.
The 14-year-old son came to the rebellious period, and his boredom was extremely serious, and he did not want to go to school at all if he did not do his homework.
In desperation, Mr. Xu made a decision after patiently communicating with his son:
After taking a break from school, the father and son went on a walk-and-go trip, and after seeing the world, they decided whether to study or not.
Mr. Xu said:
"Instead of forcing him to continue studying, let him think about it during this time."
After resigning from his job and completing the formalities for his son's suspension from school, Mr. Xu and his son set off from their hometown Dandong, passing through historical ancient cities such as Shanhaiguan, Jinan, Kaifeng, and Luoyang, and ending in Lijiang.
In order to make this trip more meaningful, Mr. Xu would consult the information with his son every place he visited, so that he could feel the charm of culture more truly.
In front of the Xi'an City Tower, Mr. Xu told his son that after 600 years of wind and rain, it still stands;
On Mount Tai, Mr. Xu and his son climbed from dark to dawn, and together on the top of the mountain, they ushered in the dawn.
Although they were not in the classroom at school, the father and son recorded everything they saw and heard along the way and realized a deeper meaning.
To Mr. Xu's surprise, halfway through the journey, the child has changed his appearance and took the initiative to say "I want to read".
At this point, the riding of father and son has come to a successful end, and the father has solved the rebellious crisis of adolescence in an extremely ingenious way, adding a strong stroke to the child's life experience.
It is true that sitting in a classroom is learning, but isn't a difficult but meaningful trip with a father also learning?
Being able to endure the hardships of travel, bear the wind, frost, rain and snow on the road, and the spiritual wealth obtained from it can also benefit children for a lifetime.
The most important thing in children's education is "money and leisure"?
Every time there is similar news, a voice that always appears in the comments is:
"Fathers don't go to work, children don't go to school, and families with money and leisure can do this."
There's no denying that taking your child on a parent-child ride is expensive, and for most parents, it can be difficult to achieve.
But what we should see more is actually the attitude and thinking of parents to their children's education in addition to the form.
If it is just a simple family mine, can Mr. Xu bring such a profound education to the child in this parent-child ride, and make such a big difference for the child?
Patience, love, and attention to children's education, which are more spiritual things, are the keys to educating children.
In life, some parents always feel that they are busy with work, have no time, and have little company for their children, and would rather pay a lot of money to send their children to tutoring classes than really pay attention to the problems in their children's growth.
Rudolf Derex, the founder of American child psychology, once said:
"If you really want to change your child's behavior, parents need actions, not words."
Many times children do not behave well and have such and such problems, in fact, the reason is due to the parents.
We may not be able to take our children on a long trip in 1 year, but we can value every day with our children and give our children a better education with real actions.
Epilogue:
Whether it is traveling thousands of miles or reading ten thousand books, it is a different form of learning, which is also of great significance to children's lives.
When children have seen the magnificent world and experienced more customs, their views on learning and life will be completely different, and there will be more different colors in life.
Today's topic: What do you think of this parent-child cycling?