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Giving birth to children at an advanced age considers not only the health of mothers and children, but also the follow-up parenting of children. After all, because the parents are old, when the children reach the age of college, the parents will also retire, where will the money to raise the children come from? Whether parents can still provide the help that children need when they start a family are all things to consider.
Because of this, many people in their 40s want to have a second child, they will be entangled.
But do you know that in 2010, the 60-year-old Sheng Hailin who resolutely gave birth to twins?
Now that 11 years have passed, what is her current situation? Ever regretted your decision?
◆ In the 11 years since giving birth to the twins, Sheng Hailin has experienced various ups and downs
Sheng Hailin originally chose to do IVF and gave birth to twins because of her independence. At the age of 60, it is successful to do a test tube and successfully give birth to a child, which can also be regarded as a small miracle in medicine.
But Sheng Hailin did not expect that the birth of the child was only the first hurdle she had to survive.
After the child is born, the incubator costs 6,000 a day, and it is all at his own expense. The family's savings soon cost more than half.
Rao was that at that time, she and her wife had more than 10,000 pensions a month, and they couldn't stand such flowers.
In 2016, her wife suffered a stroke, and the aunt at home took a leave of absence to go home, and she had to take care of her wife who was paralyzed on the bed and take care of her two children.
In 2019, the youngest daughter had another serious illness, and the hospital issued several critical illness notices, and she cried so much that her eyes were almost blind.
Fortunately, all this survived. In the past 11 years, Sheng Hailin has made money by holding lectures across the country, and has saved 7 million yuan, which has her daughter's education fund and the couple's pension, she feels comforted in her heart, and slowly reduces the rhythm outside and prepares to return to the family.
After all, he is now the "needle of the sea god" of the whole family. Only when you are in a good state can the whole family live well.
◆ What enlightenment does Sheng Hailin's experience give us?
I don't want to talk about the burden of advanced childbirth on mothers and families from the perspective of fertility, and you should have heard a lot of similar views. I would like to talk about Sheng Hailin's "death and rebirth" and "11 years to save 7 million" after giving birth to twins at an advanced age.
To tell the truth, according to the thinking of ordinary people, a 60-year-old man can save 7 million in the decade of 60-70 years old, which is simply a fantasy. But Sheng Hailin did.
How did she do it?
The goal is clear, combined with the advantages, the method is specific and operable
In fact, at the beginning, she wanted to be rehired by the hospital before she retired. But if she was rehired, paid more than three thousand a month, had to work overtime, and could not take care of her family from energy and money, this road was simply abandoned by her.
So what is the way to make money, and it is to make a lot of money? Combined with the fact that she was once a dean and a doctor, with the advantage of rich medical knowledge, and the ability to tell boring medical knowledge interestingly, she chose to give lectures all over the country.
What's the point? Talk about the prevention of high blood pressure and diabetes that everyone cares about.
Lectures are much more profitable, with an average of four or five thousand per lecture.
Moreover, because of the advanced age of having children, she is well-known in the country. Holding a lecture can also be regarded as using this fame to monetize, which is not bad.
Don't set limits for yourself, overcome difficulties when you have them, and don't shrink back
In fact, what we are most afraid of is the fear itself. A 60-year-old man travels all over the country on business, sometimes even going abroad, and ordinary people often feel "how much tossing" and "how is it possible". But Sheng Hailin did it, and even when she traveled a lot, it was as high as more than 20 times a month.
There is also a husband stroke, the family nanny took leave to go home, these most difficult times, Sheng Hailin said that she did not have time to complain and worry, just thinking of what solution, do not spend energy on unnecessary emotions.
There are no two things in the world, and "trade-offs" means that if something is gained, there is a loss
There was once a TV station interviewing Sheng Hailin, and several parenting experts were brought along. Experts told her that you can't run out like this, and it's not good for the child's growth. How can a child be accompanied by his mother?
But Sheng Hailin is very determined: I also want to accompany my children, but the current situation does not allow it. I also have a big task to earn money. Before, my family was well-off, had a lot of savings, and didn't need to worry about tomorrow. But now my situation has changed, my concept has to change, I just want to make more money.
Where in the world is there a two-pronged law? Sometimes, when faced with a choice, figure out which is more important to you, and do it without hesitation, regardless of what others say, even if that person is an expert. Because your difficulties, your will, your most urgent needs, only you know.
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