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The first impression of a good child is usually confident and radiant.
For example, Gu Ailing, the "top stream" of the recent Winter Olympics, and Su Yiming, a talented teenager, are facing the game and life with full vitality, and this emotion is the manifestation of the child's inner quality.
The first point we want to talk about today is the influence of family atmosphere on children's emotions.
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Upgrading your child's "cognitive system"
Create a low-stress family atmosphere
The developmental state of the child's brain, especially the emotional part, mainly depends on the atmosphere of the family.
Mom and dad and children often chase and play at home, and the family often eats food, does sports, watches movies, and plays games, in such a family environment, the child's cognitive system will feel the "highly cooperative" and "highly motivated" environment of the environment.
Therefore, the nutrients absorbed by the child, the brain will not be used to develop "stress organs" at all.
Behavioral psychology believes that a person's emotions are largely a physiological response. People with sensitive stress organs will create many non-existent obstacles for themselves in life, and the heart is like a sponge full of childhood trauma, and the slightest pressure will flow out of a lot of heavy, cold liquid.
And when the child grows up in a sunny and emotional environment, his stress organs will be relatively "insensitive", and he can be calm and confident in a real high-pressure environment.
We look at the "radiant" children around them, basically in high school, they still hook up with their parents, call their fathers handsome, call their mothers beautiful women – because their cognitive systems come from a low-stress family environment.
Let us envisage a family environment in which orders, controls, strict control, apathetic parent-child relationship, indifference on both parents, and accusations and cold violence in the home.
In such a family environment, the child's cognitive system becomes extremely sensitive in order to "be alert" to the dangers that may come at any time.
The emotional system itself is a "survival defense mechanism," and an extremely sensitive child usually has only two paths to go, either infinitely evasive or violently out of control.
Therefore, more than 80% of a person's personality is a projection of the family environment. There is absolutely nothing – my family is fine, but the child is cold, inferior and tantrum – it's just that parents are reluctant to face up to the family environment.
It is said that "character determines life", the first step in cultivating excellent children is to optimize the family environment, upgrade the child's cognitive system, and optimize the child's personality and emotions, which will become the strongest driving force for children's future life.
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How to discover your child's talent
Cultivate core strengths for future competition
As for the discovery and cultivation of children's strengths, it is not difficult and very simple.
Due to the difference in the development of various brain regions of the human brain, each child is good at different things.
How do you discover your child's strengths? It's not that when you see a child who wants to play basketball and want to draw, he begins to cultivate these tendencies of his liking.
In order to develop the perceptual ability of the brain and form the basis of logical thinking in early childhood, children will be interested in many things. He is also interested in playing with mud, so should he be trained to learn civil engineering when he grows up?
What the child wants to do, give him the opportunity to understand, and don't care about the three-minute heat – it's normal for the child's cognitive system to be uninterested in an event after it's able to mimic it.
And the child's specialty will appear here - he knows a thing and can do it well, but he "did not give up".
The child is obviously very good at it, and his parents do not have clear requirements and encouragement, and he will often engage in this hobby. This hobby, generally speaking, is the advantage point of the natural distribution of the child's brain, which can be cultivated.
For example, Gu Ailing began to contact skiing from the age of 3, and her mother did not have special expectations, and as a result, when she was 8 years old, Gu Ailing was still insisting on skiing - Gu Ailing began to cultivate seriously and applied for a professional ski club for her daughter.
After finding a specialty, how to cultivate children's self-discipline? In fact, parents can lead by example.
Children are environmentally learned, and children often say: "Why can't the children next door play, but I can't play?" This shows that he judges how to restrain himself from the characteristics of his surroundings.
Therefore, parents can adhere to their hobbies, such as reading, watching movies, learning, etc., and children can gain self-discipline in the development of their own strengths.
Xiong Bao said
The competition of the future, or the competition that today's children have to deal with in advance:
One is the cognitive system – a comparison of personalities and emotions , and the other is a contest of talent – the racetrack of life.
Therefore, it is crucial to create a high-quality family atmosphere with love and find out the true strengths of children with discernment.
Let's work together to cultivate a confident and talented future teenager
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