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Hetian Feige | original article
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In marriage, which is more important, love or materiality?
This is really hard to define. Because marriage is personalized, everyone's needs are different, and marriage will show a different trend. Even under the same conditions, different people will get different endings.
Whether marriage can be happy or not has a lot to do with people.
So what if you meet someone you love, are self-motivated, and have a good character, even if you're a poor boy? "Don't deceive the young and poor", husband and wife are in the same heart, not afraid of hardship, and good days will follow closely behind.
When you meet a person who is very rich, but idle and idle, even if you start with wealth, it is difficult to say that you can live a happy life.
Of course, everyone has desires, loves, and looks forward to having some more wealth; those who have wealth are expecting to have love.
Pursuit should be there, but not over, and once it is over, it is greed. Excessive greed will destroy the existing balance and harmony, and going to the opposite side will be counterproductive. Just as a fruit will fester when it is ripe, no matter how good something is done, it will have the opposite result.
The same is true in feelings, whether you want to pursue love or want to pursue material, you can't be too hard, too violent.
As Lao Tzu said: If things are strong, they are old, and they are not the Tao, and they are not already in the Tao.
Nothing can be excessive, too much, it is beyond the scope of common sense, and the result will inevitably be eaten back to oneself, which will inevitably lead to punishment for oneself.
Therefore, everything needs to be stopped in moderation, do not be too greedy, otherwise, the happiness that has already arrived will be destroyed by your own greed.
Just like Lu Qingming (pseudonym)'s girlfriend Nana (pseudonym), because the bride price rose again and again, Lü Qingming was really tired and turned to marry Nana's girlfriend. Nana's fourth marriage stopped before marriage.
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Lu Qingming is a private chef.
When he was a child, his parents were busy, and they rarely had time to make a careful meal for him, and often let Lu Qingming eat a meal casually. Lu Qingming, who was delicious, tried to cook his own food. Gradually, Pin Qingming fell in love with cooking, and after class, he took over the meals of the whole family, and showed his talent in the chef's profession.
After graduating from high school, he went to cooking school. After graduating, he has been working in restaurants and has slowly become a chef in restaurants. Later, his fame grew, and he was dug up by this private chef and became a gold medal chef. To eat the dishes he cooked, you have to make a reservation in advance.
He met Nana at the dinner table he had booked in his private kitchen. That time was a dinner party at Nana's company, and I arrived at Lu Qingming a month in advance. At the time of introduction, both of them looked at each other correctly.
In Lu Qingming's eyes, Nana is a very beautiful girl, still a college student. In Nana's eyes, this chef not only cooks delicious dishes, but also looks very handsome, and her polite appearance makes her very moved.
After that, Nana often came to this private kitchen to eat, and every time Lu Qingming would personally start to make food for Nana. One after another, the two established a romantic relationship.
In fact, in their love relationship, Lu Qingming is somewhat inferior. Nana graduated from undergraduate school and was a high school student herself. Although he has some fame in the catering industry, he still feels that he is not worthy of Nana, so Lu Qingming always responds to Nana's requests and spoils Nana, although Nana is three years older than himself.
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The two talked for more than half a year, and then decided to get married.
Lu Qingming's family is not rich, and since he has been working, he has been thrifty and desperate to save money. Now he has bought a house and made a down payment with his savings.
When talking about marriage, Nana proposed to add her own name to Lü Qingming's house book, and Lü Qingming agreed. Nana said that since the house is there, the bride price will be less, and Lu Qingming can give 100,000 yuan. However, the 100,000 yuan must be given to her parents, because it is not easy for her parents to raise her and send her to college, and she wants to repay her parents' kindness.
The bride price was given to 100,000 yuan, and Lü Qingming agreed; but the 100,000 yuan was given to Nana's parents, and Lü Qingming could not accept it.
Lu Qingming's parents are farmers, and he knows how difficult it is for his parents to earn money. In order to save money for Lü Qingming to marry his daughter-in-law, the old two were reluctant to eat and wear. Once, during a video call with his parents, Lu Qingming inadvertently discovered that his parents' lunch turned out to be steamed buns with pickles, plus a bowl of boiled water.
Lu Qingming was very sad, he advised his parents not to prepare anything for him, he himself was saving money, he did not need his parents to treat him so harshly, let them eat something good.
But after all, Lu Qingming has not worked for a few years, and after paying the down payment, the dowry money needs to be subsidized by his parents, and he really can't bear to give this money to Nana's parents. But thinking that in the six months of getting along with Nana, everything was very good, and his parents had been persuading him, Lu Qingming finally agreed to give the bride price to his parents-in-law.
Many matters were negotiated before the marriage, and the families of both sides were preparing for the wedding.
At this time, Lu Qingming's old home house was demolished and more than 4 million yuan was compensated. It was originally a great joy, but it led to Lu Qingming's breakup with Nana, and also led to the failure of Nana's fourth marriage.
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While preparing for the wedding, more than 4 million yuan in compensation money was paid to the account of Lu Qingming's parents. The family only wanted to pay off the mortgage first, and before they could do much planning, Nana was already playing the idea of the money.
Nana said directly to Lu Qingming: "Your family has been demolished and demolished more than 4 million. Now that your family has money, my bride price should also go up. I don't want much, just give me 1 million. ”
Lu Qingming was suddenly stunned and did not react: "How did you change your mind?" Invitations have been sent out, don't you make a fuss? ”
Nana said, "I haven't changed my mind." We still got married as usual, just give me more bride price. ”
"Nana, don't change the things you've already said." My family is my son, won't this money also be ours in the future? You really don't have to do that now. ”
Nana muttered, "Why not?" I'm going to give this bride price to my parents. ”
Lu Qingming was a little angry: "Before the 100,000 yuan dowry, you said to your parents, I didn't say anything." Now 1 million, you also want to give your parents, why give your parents my family's money to your parents. Sorry, I can't agree. ”
Nana was not happy either: "You are the only son, and I am also the only daughter." I honor my parents for some money. In the past, when you didn't have money, I didn't want much, now it's not your family that has money, of course, I also want to give my parents more money. Besides, I'm a college student, marrying you a high school student, how can it be a good deal for your family? And I am in contact with big rich customers, I am willing to marry you, but also the blessing of your family, I can't ask for more? ”
In their town, there are not many girls like Nana who are 28 years old and not married. The reason why Nana has not yet married is that Nana asks for too much, and the three boyfriends in the past are yellow before the wedding.
Before, Lu Qingming did not believe it, but now he finally believed in the truth of the rumors.
Lu Qingming smiled angrily: "Well, you have a high degree of education, you know many rich people, you hurry to find rich people to marry." You, I really can't afford to marry. ”
After speaking, Lu Qingming turned around and left.
Nana shouted from behind, "Don't you even ask your parents?" ”
"No, I did the Lord. Wedding cancellation. ”
Lu Qingming left without looking back, and he was glad that he agreed with Nana's suggestion of obtaining a certificate after the wedding first, and also insisted on taking the certificate and then going through the formalities for adding a name. Otherwise, the marriage wouldn't have ended so well.
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Want to know the outcome of the story?
After another six months, Lu Qingming got married, and the bride was a classmate of his high school classmates and always liked him. After learning that Lü Qingming canceled the wedding, he confessed to Lü Qingming.
The girl only needed a dowry of 100,000 yuan, brought 50,000 cash and a dowry of a car.
Nana insisted on not bowing to Lu Qingming, and when the news of the wedding came, Nana regretted it, but it was too late.
If Nana knew how to stop at the right time, her destination should be happy, after all, Lu Qingming really liked her. The fault is that she is too greedy.
A person who is greedy and insufficient ends up fooling himself. Because human desires are endless, when you get a part, you want more. And greed will make people eventually lose everything, calculate the organs, and reverse the wrong marriage. I tried my best to get nothing.
Everything is still good to stop in moderation, so as to maintain relative balance and harmony.
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