Introduction: Children grow up to a certain age inevitably contact with the external environment, deal with other children or people other than their families, from taking the first step to get along with people, this social process, children will encounter confusion. I don't know if your child is like this?
For example, playing in public places, not being able to find a partner to play, not being able to integrate into classmates as soon as possible in school, and not knowing how to deal with friction with children, etc., this is the stage of growth, but it is also a child's trouble.
Although adults understand that this is a trivial matter, it is not possible for children to get along with people, and not knowing how to interact with people is their big trouble, and even affects life and learning. Social skills are an important skill that needs to be possessed, if the child is strong in social skills, there will be more and more friends and stronger self-confidence.
Child psychologist Ma Laudis Callandan said that poor social skills are worse than not going to college. Man is a social social animal, no matter how powerful a person is, he is always inseparable from interacting with others and from the collective.
There was once a man named John. Psychologists in Mali conducted an experiment with young monkeys, keeping several young monkeys in cages, leaving the monkeys who had been chasing and playing together without companions.
As they grow up, these monkeys become sluggish and can't even court, and it's not hard to understand that spending time with their partners makes monkeys grow up happily. People are inseparable from social interaction, and from an early age, they need to pay attention to cultivating children's social skills.
01, the development of children's social skills
Children enter kindergarten and begin a real sense of collective life, at which point social skills are particularly important. Because before that, most of the time will be with adults, even if you need to socialize, once you encounter problems, there are adult guidance and replacement, and when you get to kindergarten, you mainly rely on yourself. Depending on the age of the child's psychological development, social skills are also at different stages of development.
1-2 years old: unconscious about social interaction
When the child is very young, the object is the goal, and there is no awareness of interacting with people, this stage requires parents to meet their necessary needs, so that the child feels the warmth of the growth environment and has a sense of security in their hearts.
Children from 1 to 2 years old gradually learn to speak and walk, have the opportunity to go out and contact with children of the same age, at this stage, take more children to play outdoors with their friends, and establish a preliminary social awareness.
2-3 years old: social desire
With the development of language ability, there are more opportunities to contact the external environment, children will be curious about others, instinctively exercise language skills, have a strong desire to communicate, but also the embodiment of social desire.
This age group should give children the opportunity to get along with others, satisfy his social desires, and lay the foundation for the collective life of kindergartens.
3-6 years old: socially sensitive period
After the age of 3, you need to gradually adapt to the group life, play with your classmates, cooperate in games, and make good friends according to your own wishes in kindergarten. It is necessary to listen to the teacher's arrangement and communicate with the teacher, this stage is a socially sensitive period, and it is also a stage of rapid improvement of social skills.
02. Seize the sensitive period and cultivate social skills
Every child has the opportunity to become a social talent, and parents need to guide them during social sensitivity periods and exercise their children's social skills.
First, provide a social environment.
Children who stay at home every day do not have the opportunity to contact the outside world or play with their peers, so they cannot talk about socializing.
At a certain age, take children out of the house, to public places, places for children, and create an environment for children to communicate and play with others, in order to cultivate children's social awareness.
You can also invite a good friend to come to the home, take the child to participate in more public activities, and encourage him to communicate with people.
Second, provide social opportunities.
In daily life, children should be provided with opportunities to communicate with people, such as going out to ask for directions, going to the restaurant to ask the waiter for napkins and so on. Playing with children outside, encountering friction or wanting to integrate with other children, encourage children to communicate on their own.
Every little thing is practice, parents can guide, can correct, and gradually children will know how to use polite language, how to greet people and other social skills.
Finally, get guided by a picture book story.
For young children, sometimes the parents may be difficult to understand in terms of reasoning language, but through some image stories, it can be realized that it is ineffable, and the child will understand, so it can be guided graphically with the help of picture book stories about social aspects.
epilogue:
Socializing with people is an instinct promoted by age and thinking development, but initially they do not know what method is most harmonious with people, how to solve problems encountered in getting along with people, how to make like-minded friends, and so on. These need to be in the social sensitive period, that is, the stage when the child is confused or uneasy in social activities, and the parents need to give help and guidance to improve his social skills.
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