People's life, never regrets, is not easy.
As the old saying goes, the old man of chance will send you its hair first, and when you don't catch it and regret it, you can only touch its bald head.
There is no regret medicine in the world, and the Northern Song Dynasty's "Six Regrets" is the preventive medicine for this problem.
Although the whole text is only six sentences and 42 words, it has said six major regrets in life.
Zeng Guofan, the first minister of the late Qing Dynasty, also admired this article, enshrined it as a classic, and used it for self-examination at all times.
"Six Confessions"
Officials act privately, and regret when they are lost.
Rich do not use thriftily, poor regrets.
I have learned a lot of art and regretted it out of date.
See things and do not learn, regret when used.
Drunk and crazy, regret when you wake up.
Rest in peace, regret when you are sick.
01
For the sake of official favoritism and fraud, regret when it is lost.
In ancient times, there was a saying that "when officials do not make decisions for the people, it is better to go home and sell sweet potatoes".
Zeng Guofan also said: "Those who are officials should read the next scene when they go to the field." "In his position, he must scrupulously fulfill his duties, be loyal to the superior, be fair to the subordinate, and be friendly to the people around him."
Yan Song was the first assistant to the cabinet during the reign of Emperor Jiajing of the Ming Dynasty. During his reign, he persecuted loyal subjects, eradicated dissidents, enriched himself, and bought and sold officials.
In the end, Yan Shifan was cut down and raided, Yan Shifan was beheaded, and Yan Song himself died in the thatched hut of the cemetery in his eighties, without even a coffin.
We are all ordinary people, although we will not all have the opportunity to become officials, but everyone in life, should also behave decently, not for selfish interests, not according to their own likes and dislikes.
In this way, there will be no regrets.
02
When you are rich, you don't save frugality, and when you are poor, you regret it.
As the saying goes: "I don't know how to be diligent and thrifty, so I have to sit and eat the mountains and the sky", which means that it is easy to go from poor to rich, and it is difficult to go from luxury to thrift.
Zeng Guofan once said: "To be a human being is to 'think about prosperity and decline'."
The modern writer Qi yannian also said: "Frugality is too important for the meaning of life, not because it is noble, but because it means that happiness can come from very small things." ”
Accustomed to a comfortable life of big hands and big feet, suddenly the days become embarrassing, thinking back to the previous scenery, some people respect when they are rich, and some people praise them when they are expensive.
Now the world is cold, sad and sad, and it is too late to regret!
03
Crafts are not mastered at a young age, and they will regret it after the years have passed.
The proverb says, "If the young man does not work hard, the old man will be sad." "I didn't learn the ability when I was young, and when I had to face survival, I regretted the beginning."
When Mei Lanfang was four years old, she was lonely, with no brothers and no sisters. Fortunately, he also had a grandmother. She pitied her loneliness and raised her.
Lan Fang began to learn drama when he was seven years old, and his well-known "Yutang Spring" was taught by his uncle, and at a young age, he insisted on daily arduous basic training, and before he was ten years old, he would sing "Sixteen years old is the king".
Learn the art at a young age, and do more with less. As a teenager, the mind is sharp, energetic, and easy to accept new things, which can lay the foundation of a lifetime of knowledge and skills.
If you are lazy and desolate when you are young, until "a gray hair will go, and you can't buy back the gold", how many people think of the wasted time of youth, and regret it to the end of the tears.
Echoing the old saying, "If you don't learn now, you will regret it later." ”
04
When you see that you don't learn the skill, when you use it, you will regret it.
It is often heard: "When the book is used, there is less hatred." In fact, it is not only the "book" that is used to hate less, the wisdom of dealing with the world, and the ability to do things, it is the same.
In the Analects of Gongzhichang, Confucius asked Zigong, who is better between you and Yan Hui?
Zigong said, "How dare you look back?" Back also smell one to know ten, give also smell one to know two. ”
Zigong replied, where do I dare to compare with Yan Hui, Yan Hui can always smell one and know ten, but I can smell one and know two.
The so-called "smell one know ten" means that you can realize ten things from one thing. It is very rare for people to "cite one against three", let alone "cite one against ten".
These two advantages of Yan Hui are the best attitude of life.
If you don't learn, you will miss the opportunity to learn in vain. When the matter came to an end, the mind was naturally empty, helpless, and annoyed.
05
After drunkenness, gibberish, regret when sober.
I often hear elders say to drink less and not drink alcohol, why?
It is precisely because wine is a thing that makes people lose their minds. After getting drunk, people have no control over their emotions.
During the Three Kingdoms period, The Wei Emperor Cao Pi had a courtier named Wu Qian. When he returned to Beijing to worship, Cao Pi asked the generals to drink from him.
Who knew that Wu Tian had drunk too much and actually quarreled with the great general Cao Zhen. It is said that Cao Zhen "swallows without nibbling his throat, and chews his teeth without nibbling his teeth.".
The meaning is probably, you are something, I swallow you don't have to open your throat, chew you don't have to move your teeth.
Cao Zhen was an idle man, he was Cao Cao's adopted son and Cao Pi's brother.
The bane of this "drunken and crazy speech" caused Wu Tian to be called "ugly marquis" by the imperial court after his death.
Therefore, the small drink of wine is appropriate, and the drink can not be controlled when it is large. The wild words spoken, the faces thrown out, and after the wine wakes up, it is useless to regret it.
06
When you are healthy, you don't rest and maintain well, and you regret it when you are sick.
To this end, zeng guofan set himself the "thirteen lessons of self-cultivation", one of which is "self-preservation".
Many times, in order to calculate fame and fortune and work day and night, to their own body on a heavy burden, the hidden dangers of health have become inevitable, but at this time, how to regret, is in vain.
But if we know in advance which "regrets" can be avoided, we will reduce the chagrin and grief that comes with a lot of regret.