Man is most afraid of being bound, both mentally and physically.
There was a young man who went fishing, and there were a lot of fish in the river, and there was a lot of fishing.
Strangely, he left the small fish behind, but threw away the big fish he caught.
Such an alternative behavior naturally attracts people's attention, and to put it aside today, it will definitely become an Internet celebrity.
Passers-by asked him, "Why don't you leave the big fish behind, but throw it away?" ”
The man replied, "My pot is only eight inches, so I can't fit such a big fish!" ”
Cough, very classic cold humor. But in reality, haven't you?
The opposite of him is the car king Ford. This guy was a mechanical fan, fiddling with machinery all day, and then someone invented the car, and he also joined in the fun and built his own car.
He built the car in the yard and prepared it for testing on the road. The assistant found a big problem:
"Man, the car you built is too big to get out!"
(It turns out that Ford wants to personally verify the idiom of "building a car behind closed doors")
What to do? Everyone was at a loss, and Ford rolled up his sleeves and ordered: Smash the wall, open the door! How could Lao Tzu be bound by a small doorway!
This is the pattern of Ford, you can't let the door block the car. Of course, the assistant also has a pattern, that is, he is afraid that if he smashes the door without authorization, Ford will find him to lose money.
People must have a pattern, have a vision, and cannot set a frame for themselves.
But what if the foreign box can't be broken? For example, you are isolated at home, you are depressed, you want to let go of yourself, what should you do?
This kind of thing can happen to anyone. What we encountered was a virus, and what Confucius encountered in those years was a war and chaos.
When traveling around the world, Confucius was trapped between the Kingdoms of Chen and Cai, probably in the area where Henan and Hubei meet today.
Confucius's travels were full of hardships, unlike the later Mencius, who was honored as a guest of honor by all nations.
It was impossible to advance or retreat, and the grain was cut off for up to seven days. Send someone to report for help, people can't send out, can't communicate with the outside world.
It's basically equivalent to being isolated.
What people fear is not to be isolated, but to be cut off from the news. Today we are at home to fight the epidemic, the reason why many people can stay up for a month or two without madness, on the one hand, because of sufficient materials, on the other hand, because the information is smooth, through the mobile phone can quickly understand the outside world information, and there is no sense of isolation from the outside world.
If you confiscate the mobile phone, you try, in less than 3 days, you can make a "other people laugh at me too crazy, I laugh at others can't see through" (feng) name (dian) chapter.
Although Confucius and his party were only "isolated" for seven days, the conditions were much worse than now, first, there was no food, they could only dig wild vegetables to fill their hunger, and the masters and apprentices were very disheveled.
Two days ago, I asked a question: Why did Zigong dare to repeat in front of Confucius that passers-by said that Confucius was like a "dog that lost his family"? After the separation, they encountered difficulties, so that the apprentices saw the teacher's awkward appearance and unconsciously lowered the teacher's position in their minds, which was an important reason.
War and chaos are revolutions that will dramatically alter the relationship between dignity and inferiority.
Tang Xuanzong encountered the Anshi Rebellion, on the way to escape, the grain was gone, and when he arrived at a village, the villagers sent some nests and nests and the like. Tang Xuanzong originally thought that in the future, he would repay the villagers who sent charcoal in the snow, and if an old man came out of the villagers, he would send the emperor to the ground:
You were a prosperous new century, how good it was! Look at what you have made now!
If it weren't for the war that changed the order of dignity and inferiority, and gave the villagers ten thousand guts, he wouldn't have dared to say it. The emperor suffered, but he became the savior, and naturally dared to say it.
The same was true of Confucius, who traveled around the world paying not only material costs, but also spiritual costs when encountering difficulties.
But how did Confucius do it? Very calm. Zigong silently mocked him through the mouths of others, and he took the opportunity to blackmail himself:
"This man's description of my appearance is average, but 'dog that has lost his family' is in the same word!"
How many people can have this belly?
Therefore, even if he was trapped for seven days and "ran out of food", Confucius not only could hold his breath, but also encouraged his disciples: "Generous recitation, string songs are endless" ("Confucius's Family Language: In Er").
The more the disciple lay down, sick and listless, the more passionate Confucius became, which is called the demeanor of a general. The enemy rushed up and panicked first, can he do it? Even if you sing the empty city plan, you must learn Zhuge Kongming and be calm.
Not only that, under this predicament, it is even more rare that he can pluck strings and sing. Singing when you have enough to eat and drink is called entertainment; singing and playing music in poverty is called realm, it is called pattern.
Gao Jinguo, senior editor, is the author of 26 books, including "Good Parents Raise Good Children - 35 Educational Thinking Lessons for Parents", "Interesting Chinese History for Children (12 volumes)", "Stories of Teenagers Reading History (3 volumes)", "Life is a Practice", "The Layer of Window Paper of the Tang Dynasty", "Those Things in the State of Qi" and so on.