When you have been wandering in society for half a lifetime, people have unconsciously run four. At this time, looking back at the first half of life, I found that the efforts I had made had gradually been rewarded, my children had grown into adults, my work and career were becoming stable, and my life was getting more and more promising. But accumulating a happy life requires painstaking efforts, but subverting it is easy.
In order to make the family business prosperous, people still need to have some scruples when they reach forty or fifty, and the old ancestor once said when summing up the lessons of his life: "When a person is over forty, he should not manage two things; if he is over fifty, he should not manage two people." What exactly is this and who needs our special attention? The truth of this has to be obeyed.
People are over forty, don't care about two things
Forty years old is what ordinary people call "the year of not being confused", after tempering in society, I have understood the truth of how to behave in the world, and I have the ability to judge right and wrong, so I will not be confused by anything. But the greater the ability, the greater the responsibility, forty-year-old people are old and young, is the main backbone of the family, up and down must be taken care of.
In life, each has its own pursuits and has its own way of life, but everyone wants a stable and stable life. At the age of forty, it is a critical period for stabilizing the family, and at this time, in the face of trivial chores, special attention needs to be paid to these two things that must not be done.
First of all, forty-year-olds should not be "nosy" in life. More is better than less, and the real good news is that there is no news. In the year of confusion, the family and career need to worry, no matter how hard you try, there is always something that cannot be taken care of, so there is no leisure energy to care about other people's idle things.
"There is no grass by the river, don't be a donkey", self-righteous and kind, but if you can't take full responsibility, just put forward your own opinions on the side, it will not only not be appreciated, but will make people feel more mouthy.
There were many students under Confucius who were excellent in character and learning, and Zigong learned a lot of knowledge and was the most outstanding disciple among them. However, although Zigong is brilliant and has a full belly of knowledge, when he travels around the world, he always likes to be nosy and measure others from his own point of view. In dealing with such behavior, Confucius reminded: "What about giving also being virtuous? Husband I don't have time", simply put: Zigong, are you very smart and knowledgeable? If it were me, I wouldn't have the spare time to talk about others.
In addition to "idle things", people over forty years old should not care about "things that cannot be reached" in daily life. Some things are not done well, but they are easy to be self-defeating. Everyone has a competitive spirit, but before agreeing to others, you must first examine your own ability and respond to what you can.
Fifty people, no matter two
When the age reaches the age of fifty, in the face of various fame and fortune in life, it is already in an indifferent state of mind. At this time, you should pack your thoughts and prepare for your retirement. At this time, people no longer have too much management, but get along with people. But when interpersonal contacts, we must be like a mirror, understand who can help and who can not help.
For people who know how to reciprocate and have little demand, appropriate help can enhance relationships. However, if these two kinds of people come to the door, they need to pay attention to it, and they must retreat and avoid it.
Stay away from the "little people". Fifty-year-olds will encounter the flattery of many villains, but in the face of these rhetoric, we must be able to distinguish clearly. Because villains just want to steal benefits from you, not really respect you.
There is a generation of emperors in history who died tragically because of villains, and he was the Duke of Qi Huan, the head of the Spring and Autumn Five. In his early years, Xiao Yong was good at war and achieved hegemony, but in his later years, he listened to the rumors of villains, ignored Guan Zhong's advice, and faced with the rhetoric of the court ministers, he was complacent and did his own thing. In the end, under the plot of the villain, he was rebelled against, locked in the palace to isolate the day, and was about to starve to death several times, when he repented too late, and then he died depressed.
After the "little people", we must also avoid the "people who do not know how to be grateful". When a person reaches fifty, he already has the ability and prestige, and in the face of those who have a need, he will make a point or two in due course. But those who do not know how to be grateful should also stay away after knowing their nature. Even if such a person helps him, he will not remember your good, and will only dislike that you have not done enough, so in the face of such a bottomless pit, we must avoid it in time after discovery.
brief summary
"If a person passes through forty, he will not care about two things; if he passes fifty, he will not manage two people", this old ancestor still has great wisdom for the admonitions of future generations. It is not so easy to get people from ancient times, and such a method is not only desirable in ancient times, but also can be applied to life in modern times. Busy and busy for half a lifetime, no one wants their life to end up in vain because of these small things, so they still need to pay more attention to prevent problems before they occur.