The golden nest and silver nest are not as good as the small nest of love, and the good is not as good as the hobbies of parents.
From teeth and teeth to the top of the world, every child's growth is a limited edition song.
From being a parent at the beginning to being a hard worker, each parent's experience is also a collector's edition of memories.
It is better to raise rich and poor than to grow up with children.
1. It is difficult to have a future for the poor
It has to be admitted that with the popularization of quality education today, material conditions play an increasingly important role in the growth and learning process of children.
Without material foundation, children will not receive a good education, can not broaden their horizons, the acquisition of knowledge not only through books, but also need to rely on their own personal experience and experience.
A good saying is that poor sons and rich daughters, in fact, the poor support here is not really a material harsh treatment of children, but refers to the need to let children cherish and not waste.
If the child grows up in poverty, then his vision becomes narrower, but on the one hand, his psychology may also change, and the children who grow up in poverty are more sensitive and introverted than the average child, they often feel inferior, and they often cringe and shrink when doing things.
Children can not be poor, you can teach children the correct concept of consumption, you can tell children that parents love him very much, and what is currently provided to him is the best, but do not cry poor with children, do not plant the seeds of poverty in the hearts of children, and do not tell children that their families are worse than others' families.
The child is more sensitive than you think, and one of your words may be remembered in the child's heart for a lifetime.
Liang Qichao has done a good job in this regard, sending his children abroad, Liang Qichao is also facing a lot of pressure in life, but the children need to receive a better education, need to see the outside world, so Liang Qichao did his best to meet the children's wishes.
2. Enrichment pays attention to psychology
Rich support is not what the child says is what he buys, and rich care refers more to the spiritual level.
As far as possible to provide the best conditions for children within their own capabilities, but also let children realize the hardships and difficulties of parents, so as to be more considerate of parents.
Many rich second-generation people have grown up rich since they were young, but when they grow up, they are stubborn and miserable, and their character is worrying, which does not mean that there is a problem with rich breeding, but that in the process of rich raising, parents do not pay attention to ways and methods.
Many parents think that they provide the best material conditions for their children, and they have fulfilled their responsibilities as parents, but in fact, this is a one-sided understanding of the word parents.
Parents should not only care about the daily physiological aspects of their children's food, clothing, housing and transportation, but also pay attention to their children's psychology.
In the process of enrichment, parents can not be the treasurer, the child's growth issues are fully entrusted to the school and the child himself, if you choose to let go at this time, then the society will also teach you to be a parent again.
When you provide children with rich material conditions, don't forget to provide them with the same love and companionship, children without parental love are lonely, children will be more eager for love in a lonely atmosphere, in order to attract the attention and love of others will also do a lot of seemingly crazy things.
Although Liang Qichao always tries his best to meet the reasonable requirements of children, he is never ambiguous in the cultivation of children's character. He taught the children to be diligent and thrifty, and mentioned many times in the letters he wrote to the children that he hoped that the children would not pay too much attention to material enjoyment, but more importantly, they should learn good skills and have a good attitude.
3. Growth is mutual
Every child is a child for the first time, and every parent is also a parent for the first time. Parents and children are mutual, children feel love from their parents, because of the care of their parents and grow up, parents, parents are also in the care of children continue to mature, become better adults.
Growth is mutual, children need to grow, and parents need to grow. In this unknown process of growth, we will always encounter new problems and new situations, but as long as the hearts are close together, there is nothing that cannot be overcome.
In the process of children's growth, parents understand the child's difficulty, think of themselves as children, take the child as a shadow of their past youth, look at their children with an appreciative eye, do not nag and always hate to pick and see the good of their children.
In the process of growing up, parents may make mistakes of one kind or another, but no parent is really superhuman, they are the most ordinary but the greatest people. Maybe they have such shortcomings and bad habits, learn to accept them, and understand their parents with tolerance and love.
Growing up is a one-way street, but the process is not lonely because of the company of parents.
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