Text/Little Snow Mom
How hard it is to take a child, every mother has a stomach full of bitter water to cry, you say that such a small child can do what? How tiring can it be to take care of a child? But in fact, children are so naughty, so that every parent who takes care of their children is exhausted, and they are eager for their children to grow up faster and rush to kindergarten to relieve themselves.
For young parents to take the baby so hard, for the elderly is also the same, although the elderly with the baby experience, but in the face of bear children sometimes seem to be weak.
"Buddhist grandmother" took the baby to become popular, and turned a blind eye to the demolition of the bear child
I saw a video on the Internet, a grandmother at home with two children, but also two or three years old "dog hate" age children, you can imagine how chaotic the scene should be.
This should be the parents have to go to work, the child entrusted to the grandmother to help bring, two or three years old children are naughty time, this day the mother came home is also surprised by the scene at home, do not know also think that the home was stolen.
Only to see two children step on the sofa, one will throw the mattress to the ground, the living room has long been a mess, all kinds of toys thrown everywhere, the other child may be tired of playing, lying on the sofa to rest, the TV set is also playing Ultraman, want to come to the child to watch cartoons excited, at home and jumping and imitating to fight monsters.
If the parents are at home, the two children have already been "beaten", but the grandmother seems to be more "Buddhist", not only did not criticize the child, but sat alone on the edge of the balcony, covering his ears with one hand and playing with his mobile phone with the other.
For the bear child's misdeeds, the mother said that the mother-in-law still has to manage a tube of children, but the mother-in-law said that there is no one living downstairs anyway, let the children play and then clean up, and sure enough, after the two children play tired, they clean up the toys, although the living room is still a bit chaotic, but the child can do it himself, or let the mother be very happy.
For this video, netizens have also said: learned! Through this Buddhist way of bringing a baby, the elderly cultivate their own hands-on ability, and at the same time release the child's nature, which can be described as killing two birds with one stone.
It is normal for two- and three-year-olds to be naughty and playful, and it is more effective to change it when they know their mistakes than to preach
Children at this age are lively and playful, they like to "imitate", like to get the "attention" of parents through some naughty ways, parents are angry and criticized is not a good way to discipline.
If you are angry and angry every time, the effect will become worse after a long time, but it is not as good as the Buddhist system, and the way of preaching is replaced by actions, which is more helpful for the growth of the child.
It's like a child "demolishing the house" at home, making a mess of the house, you can let the child clean up by himself, it is his own mistake to bear the consequences, this practice is better than you reprimand the child, and then follow behind the child's ass to help clean up more to educate the child to develop good habits.
After all, the effect of two or three-year-old children in reasoning with him is not so obvious, and if you have been restraining the child to suppress the child, it will also have a certain impact on the child's personality growth.
What should parents do in the face of their children's "demolition and fun"?
First, don't rush to criticize, first observe the reasons behind it
Two- and three-year-olds belong to the stage of rapid learning, and they are accustomed to "imitating" and "destroying" to learn what they are interested in. Just like a child tearing down toys and demolishing a home, the child is not deliberately making trouble, he is just curious to understand, so parents should not severely criticize the child because of some of the child's housebreaking behavior, but should observe the motivation behind the child's behavior.
Second, set certain rules for children
To understand the law of children's growth, parents should also slowly establish some rules for their children to help children develop some good habits, that is, let children have some sense of rules.
For example, after playing with the toys to learn to clean up, what dangerous behaviors can not be done, can not affect others because of their own behavior, do not noisy to others in public places, etc., the establishment of these rules, in fact, is to cultivate children's good living habits, to help children grow better.
Third, don't be constrained when it's time to play
Just like children like to "tread water puddles" on rainy days, some parents strictly prohibit it, and as a result, children secretly play with mud. Some parents take their children to wear raincoats and rain boots to play with their children, which not only enhances the feelings between them and their children, but also teaches their children to release their nature when the rules allow.
In fact, two or three-year-old children are this "characteristic", if you really manage the child at every moment to prevent him from making trouble, unrealistic also makes parents tired, so it is better to develop some good habits for children on the basis of playing, so that parents can learn a lot of good habits.
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