1 child, two grandparents, no grandmother, the only child implements "two-headed marriage", has two children, one with the father's surname, one with the mother's surname is it good?
In the New Year, I went to my hometown in Hunan to transfer relatives, and found a strange phenomenon, a little boy said that he had two grandparents, and said that the grandparents on his mother's side were good to his sister and not as good to him as his grandparents on his father's side.
Because the grandfather on the father's side gave him 1,000 yuan in red envelopes, and often bought him various toys, he would buy whatever he wanted, and the grandfather on the mother's side gave him 200 yuan red packets, but gave his sister 800 yuan red packets, often buying toys for his sister.
After inquiring about it, I learned that the parents of the original children were only children, so when they got married, they implemented a "two-headed marriage", that is, the man did not marry, the woman did not marry, and both sides decorated the house, which is equivalent to equality between men and women, and both sides live. And it was agreed to have two children, the eldest and his father's surname was Li, and the second was surnamed Zhang with his mother.
So the children have two grandparents, there is no grandparents' name, and the first child with the father's surname, so the man's grandparents especially hurt their grandchildren, usually toy snacks have never been broken, and the woman's grandparents are relatively flat for this grandson, because the boy is not their surname, the girl is, so the elderly on both sides pay special attention to their own children.
Because the parents of the child usually go to work, the child is left to the elderly on both sides to take care of, the brother and sister because of the different surnames, but also because the educational concepts of the elderly on both sides are different, the personality and style of doing things are completely different.
His parents said helplessly: "At first, I didn't think about it so much, but as my children grew up, I found that there were many drawbacks." For example, my brother and sister are not close at all, and they usually stay at their grandparents' homes, often quarreling and grabbing toys. The old people on both sides obviously love their grandsons with their own surnames, which is also unfair to children. ”
And the elderly on both sides made it clear that their property would definitely be left to their grandchildren or granddaughters in the future. It also means that brothers and sisters who were originally close will also have gaps due to the unfair distribution of parents.
The husband and wife also decided to live in the man's family for half a year and the woman's family for half a year, so that they can take turns to take care of both parents, and there is no problem of snubbing anyone.
The "two-headed marriage" that has become more and more popular in recent years is actually the rise of feminism, but it is also the beginning of the struggle between resources and power distribution. There is no bride price and no fighting, it seems that harmony is harmonious, and it is fair and the fairest distribution of resources.
Some people say that this is the progress of the times, at least it is a sign of women's progress, no need to seek perfection or look at men's faces, two people sit on an equal footing, have the same right to speak.
And the woman's parents do not have to worry about their own inheritance, because they also have successors, so that the best of both worlds, everyone is happy. This new situation is more popular in Jiangsu and Zhejiang, and it is also a product of the one-child era, with advantages and disadvantages.
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