"Do not listen to dissuasion before marriage, and suffer miserably after marriage", those whose parents do not allow them to marry, it is best not to marry.
Many people regret that they did not listen to their parents at the beginning, and now they are not good, and they cannot be separated.
Many people always lament the conservative thinking of their parents, complain that their parents have delayed their happiness, are dissatisfied with each other's parents for beating Mandarin ducks, and hate each other for not being able to maintain their original intentions.
You can not marry the person whose parents want you to marry, but you must not marry the person whose parents do not let you marry.
I have a visitor who is in this situation:
Female, 28 years old, graduated from graduate school, did not listen to the advice of her parents and married a ma bao man.
A man who listens to his mother and always thinks that his mother is right, and the man who is centered on his mother has suffered all kinds of unfair treatment from his mother-in-law, and his parents were very opposed to this marriage.
But this visitor still can't resist the temptation, with the other party, the man's handsomeness is not in the face, but in the wisdom and calm accumulated over the years.
Every day, before contacting his mother countless times and making a decision, he will definitely ask his mother and listen to his mother, and never dare to say "no".
This feeling is like falling in love, getting married, and having children with each other's mother.
When one person is alone, be kind to yourself; when two people, be kind to each other, and the woman only needs to do what this sentence says.
When a person is good at themselves, make themselves better and better, and wait for love to fall from the sky at any time, we must understand the good intentions of our parents.
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Why oppose?
Adopting daughters is afraid of such a love brain, and most men will not ignore the family for love.
And women on the love of the head will really abandon their parents, directly abandon the family to find the person who says they love themselves.
There are many reasons why parents oppose it, such as family environment, character, development potential, education, emotional intelligence, IQ, and so on.
Many times, we only find out that our choice was wrong, because our parents have a lot more experience and experience than us, they have taken many more roads than us, and of course, they have taken many detours.
Sometimes we are deeply involved in the fire of feelings, and it is easy to be confused by the smoke in the fire and lose the ability to judge.
However, my parents experienced the human accident of chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, and they also saw all kinds of people.
So, they know if a man can really give you happiness.
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I hope you are happy
We always don't understand the love and kindness of our parents, feeling that they are destroying our happiness by preventing ourselves from getting married.
But know that all relationships in this world are derived from interests.
But the love that comes from parents is always selfless and great.
In psychology, there is a "Romeo and Juliet effect", also known as the "forbidden fruit effect", the more things are prohibited, the more people want to get.
Some parents who see through human nature, even if they are not optimistic, will not be strong against their daughters. Only when the time comes, when there is a problem, I will comfort my daughter.
All parents want their children to live happily ever after, and the person who loves you the most will always be your family.
Parents are the people in the world who want you to be happy, and they oppose love, please think twice.
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What if I already regret it?
Maintain a positive and optimistic attitude, you can raise a kitten or puppy, maintain physical exercise and facial skin care, and increase the diversity of your work.
Brave to live, there are many wonderful things in life that I have not seen, and many landscapes that I have not seen.
Don't live in the malice of others, can't go away in a roundabout way, so that you will slowly forget the original despair and regret, and find new hope and future.
Conclusion: If you are independent enough, have the ability to solve problems, and can be wonderful alone in divorce, then stick to your choice.
If you are incompetent or unwilling to face difficulties, choose an easy path and have an easy relationship.
May you be sober and rational when choosing a mate, and then find a good person to accompany you to the end of your life.
I'm Chongyang, we'll see you next time
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