In the square of the train station, a seven- or eight-year-old child kept saying "I'm sorry" to a begging grandmother.
That day, in order to catch the train, when the young Duoduo saw a begging grandmother on the side of the road, he casually threw down a few dollars and ran to the waiting room.
"Stop! Do you think that if you give someone a few dollars, you can be proud and high? People say thank you, do you hear that? Are you polite? The father, He Liesheng, loudly reprimanded his son.
At the strong request of his father, Duoduo found his grandmother and said to her 300 times, "Grandma is sorry, I was wrong."
At the crowded station, many pedestrians condemned He Liesheng's behavior:
"Who's this guy! What is so right for children? ”
"Yes, this is also too much, the child is still so young..."
What everyone didn't know was that He Liesheng had done "more" things to his son.
On January 22, 2012, the temperature dropped to minus 13 degrees Celsius and it was snowing heavily. He Liesheng asked Duoduo, who was only 4 years old, to strip naked and run outside naked. The child was all over, except for a pair of underwear and a pair of shoes, wearing nothing, the little face was frozen red, and the mouth shouted: "Daddy, hug me, hug me."
He Liesheng obviously did not have this intention, he said without changing his face: "Don't stop, it won't be cold when you run, come on!" ”
It is said that He Liesheng is a successful entrepreneur with a good living environment and economic ability, so why should he do this to his children? What kind of untold grievances are there? How are many people who have grown up in such an environment now?
Is life destined to suffer?
He Liesheng gave his own way of education a name, called eagle education!
When the eagle exercises the flight of the eagle, it will push the eagle down from the high cliff, and the isolated eagle will desperately wave its wings in order to survive, and under such pressure, the eagle will eventually learn to fly.
He Liesheng compares himself to an eagle, and his son Duoduo (He Yide's nickname) is a young eagle who needs to learn to "fly".
When he was more than 6 months old, He Liesheng let him learn to crawl. In general, it is normal for children to climb by 8 months.
There are many steps ahead, and walking is earlier than children of the same age, this is because, in order to exercise the child's ability to walk independently, many times He Liesheng will deliberately push Duoduo down.
The age that should be pampered is more than the children of the same age. Whenever he fell, He Liesheng would not take the initiative to help him.
When he was a year and a half old, He Liesheng took him to hiking training, first one kilometer, then three kilometers. The child sat helplessly on the ground and cried, and when the wife saw the child crying, she cried herself, and she yelled at her husband: "Are you the child's father?" Where is this for children? ”
When Duoduo's grandparents saw their son treat his grandson like this, they also sternly said that if they did this to their grandson, they would not recognize him as a son.
However, no matter whether the family members were kind words of persuasion or fierce words of resistance, they never wavered He Liesheng's determination to do anything.
So, what was the reason for He Liesheng to train his son so much?
In He Liesheng's own words: Life always has to suffer hardships, and if you train your son's ability to endure hardships early, you will not experience a little setback when you grow up and fall into a slump.
Why He Liesheng would express such an emotion should start from his own experience.
Unlike He Liesheng's education method, He Liesheng's parents were simply "free-range" to him. In that era, as a cadre's father and as a worker's mother, he was too busy to go to home every day, and the requirements for He Liesheng were simply obedient and pay attention to safety.
But He Liesheng had high requirements for himself, he studied hard, never slackened off, and successfully entered Nanjing Normal University. After graduation, he became an excellent physics teacher with his own efforts.
However, after being a teacher for a period of time, He Liesheng disagreed with the Chinese cramming education method, and he was no longer as passionate about teaching work as he had been.
After several entanglements, in 1994, He Liesheng quit his teaching job and chose to go to the sea to do business. When he first entered the business sea, He Liesheng not only lost a fine light, but also owed a bunch of debts. Every day, there were door-to-door debt collectors to collect debts, and during that time, He Liesheng couldn't sleep all night, and even had the idea of taking his own life.
However, he still climbed up by relying on tenacious willpower, from debt to re-entrepreneurship, to successful counterattack, He Liesheng's tenacious perseverance made him experience the wonderful "nirvana rebirth".
At work, He Liesheng not only has strict requirements for himself, but also for employees. If you can't complete the task, you will be punished, and you will not give up until you are done.
People who have experienced suffering always have more compassion. In 2008, when the Wenchuan earthquake struck, He Liesheng donated 7.5 million yuan of supplies to the hardest-hit areas. At the time of the Yushu earthquake, He Liesheng donated another 3.5 million yuan.
Usually, He Liesheng will also lead the whole family to do public welfare activities together, the foundation set up by his company has helped many difficult families and poor students, and honorary titles such as "Model Worker", "Good Chinese Man" and "Excellent Volunteer" are the best proof of his good deeds.
The life experience full of suffering can not make He Liesheng "so cruel" to his own son, there is a saying called "the deep responsibility of love", He Liesheng is so cruel, there is one of the most important reasons.
Premature babies can not express the pain
February 12, 2008 is the day of Duoduo's birth, the family added a new population, should have been happy, But He Liesheng frowned bitterly, miserable.
On this day, He Liesheng anxiously waited outside the door of the delivery room, his wife was more than three months away from the due date, and now he was suddenly about to give birth, in addition to worrying, he was more afraid, afraid that his wife and children were in danger of life.
A few hours later, the door of the delivery room opened, and He Liesheng rushed forward to ask the doctor about the situation. The doctor's words were like a thunderbolt on a sunny day, and it hit him hard: the mother was safe, the child had four major cardio-cerebral diseases because of the premature birth of more than 3 months, and then further examination was needed, and it was likely that he would have cerebral palsy!
At that moment, He Liesheng felt that the sky had collapsed, he felt that fate had given him a joke, he had experienced hardships when he was young, and it was difficult to have children in middle age, but it was likely that he was cerebral palsy, and he did not know how to face it.
In the face of such a result, He Liesheng was somewhat difficult to accept. But even if there is a glimmer of hope, he is willing to try and change.
He began looking up information online and consulting doctors. Doctors said that in general, cardiovascular and cerebral diseases include chest palsy heartache, stroke disease, dementia, epilepsy, madness, etc., and another way of cerebral palsy is "living vegetative person".
"At present, we are not completely sure that we will be cured, and we can only use conservative treatment." As the doctor spoke, he handed He Liesheng a multi-check report sheet:
"Jaundice, left ventricular hemorrhage, hemangioma, low brain protein density, small brain volume, cerebral edema..."
"If you want to be cured, you must be mentally prepared, the cost of treatment will not be a small amount, and some parents will give up treatment as soon as they hear that the possibility of cure is very small." The doctor told He Liesheng solemnly.
"We govern. As long as there is a glimmer of hope, we will not give up. He Liesheng said firmly.
However, things are always harder than expected, in addition to the large daily cost of treatment, the most important thing is that the child is particularly guilty. When He Liesheng saw his newborn child lying alone in an incubator full of medical tubes, he could not help but cry bitterly, who had never shed tears.
During those days, every day was very painful. The doctor did not allow parents to approach the child, and He Liesheng could only look at the child through the thick glass at a time. After two months of staying up like this, one day, the doctor told He Liesheng that the child was in stable condition and could be discharged from the hospital and slowly raised.
But the doctor also said: "At home, you can't take it lightly, and children still have the possibility of cerebral palsy." ”
Although the child went home, He Liesheng's whole family was trembling and trembling, and he carefully took care of the child every day, afraid of making a mistake.
He Liesheng has heard doctors say that the reason why premature children have various complications is because the child is not fully developed, and the other is because premature babies do not have high resistance to children born at term.
In order to improve the child's resistance, He Liesheng learned through the reference information that swimming can exercise the child and enhance the resistance.
On the same day, He Liesheng went to the mall to buy an inflatable swimming pool. When he got home, inflated it into warm water, and then put Duoduo into it, watching the child's two calves fluttering in the water and making a rattling laugh, He Liesheng also showed a long-lost smile.
However, after swimming a lot, he had a fever that night, and He Liesheng's mother and wife kept complaining about him, saying that he should not swim for his children, and that he was weak, which was good, and he was even weaker when he fell ill.
But He Liesheng did not think so, he told his wife and mother, the doctor said that as long as the child is not fever to more than 38.5 ° C, can not feed the medicine without feeding the medicine, physical cooling on the line, in fact, every time the child is sick, it is fighting with the virus in the body, as long as the virus is defeated, the body's resistance will naturally increase.
After confirming that the child was not much trouble, his wife and mother still explicitly forbade He Liesheng to let him swim more. He Liesheng said that he finally obtained their consent, and as long as after a week, Duoduo was still not accustomed, and he resolutely would not carry out this kind of training in the future.
It has to be said that children are born with a strong ability to adapt. After five days of swimming training, my spirit is indeed much better than before, the amount of food is longer than what I have seen before, and I sleep longer at night.
In addition to swimming, He Liesheng also prepared other training for Duoduo, such as listening to music more, recognizing color cards and so on.
Looking at the change of one more day, the happiest thing was that He Liesheng had won. In the process of training, He Liesheng found that the potential of children is infinite, but some parents do not carefully observe.
As Duoduo's body got better and better every day, He Liesheng also changed from initially expecting him to be healthy to being able to grow.
He formulated more "challenge" plans for Duoduo, hoping that Duoduo could fly to a broader sky under his own education.
In November 2010, He Liesheng took Duoduo, who was only two years old, to climb the Purple Mountain in Nanjing.
Climbing the mountain is a bit difficult for adults with poor physical strength, let alone a two-year-old child.
Facing the rugged mountain road, step by step, the young Duoduo climbed very hard, crying to find his mother. But He Liesheng was not impressed, he supported him behind Duoduo, helping him to step up a higher step.
When they finally reached the top of the mountain, He Liesheng turned around excitedly with Duoduo, and Duoduo was also infected by this happy emotion and laughed happily.
Subsequently, He Liesheng took the child to do a physical examination, and the report showed that many indicators had tended to normal values. This made He Liesheng more convinced that "eagle education" is very suitable for Duoduo.
After returning home, He Liesheng made a detailed plan, and when he looked at the plan and wrote the sentence "If the child does not enter the world's top five famous schools before the age of 15, I will admit that I am a failure", his wife called him crazy.
But the wife's blocking didn't seem to be of much use.
Later, in an interview, Duoduo was asked about his relationship with his parents, and he said this: "Dad is the big boss in our family, Mom is the manager, and I am the employee." Employees can only listen to the boss, although sometimes the manager will have different opinions, but in the end they still have to listen to the big boss. ”
Toto summed up their family relationships very well. His wife's opposition did not prevent He Liesheng from carrying out "eagle education" for his son.
Do you want to have such a life?
In 2011, He Liesheng sent his son to Nanjing Experimental Kindergarten, where he hoped his son would learn to share and asked him to bring a gift to his classmates every day. Gifts don't have to be expensive, the most important thing is to learn to share.
January 22, 2012, is the night of China's Chinese New Year's Eve. He Liesheng took his family to the United States for a vacation, when it was snowing heavily in the United States, He Liesheng wanted to exercise some of his son's willpower.
So there are many videos of naked running in the snow, the video has attracted the attention of many netizens on the Internet, most of them are condemning He Liesheng, saying that his education method is too extreme, and some even say that he is abusing children.
In the face of netizens' questioning, He Liesheng said: "I myself am engaged in education, and I know what is good for children. ”
Regarding He Liesheng's method of educating children, Wang Linghua, chief physician of the Department of Psychology of Guangzhou Children's Hospital, said: "He Liesheng did not suddenly put his child in the snow and run naked, he has been encouraging children, and there is also theoretical guidance, which is no problem." ”
After being recognized by experts, He Liesheng was even more "crazy" about his son Duoduo.
On February 6, 2012, He Liesheng sent Duoduo to the International Department of Youfu West Street Primary School in Nanjing, and the reason why he transferred here to study was that he believed that his son was obviously much taller than children of the same age and could learn a higher stage of knowledge in advance.
In June, he signed up Duoduo for extracurricular activities in the sailing club, and when other children still rely on the guidance and help of their parents, they can load the rudder and load the sails, and Duoduo is operating the whole time, and He Liesheng is only responsible for cheering up next to him.
Later, He Liesheng signed up for the extracurricular activities of assembling aircraft models for his son, and he was interested in airplanes since he was a child and liked this course very much.
On August 16, He Liesheng signed up for his son to participate in the Qingdao International OP Sailing Camp and OP Regatta. Among the more than 400 contestants, the average age of the children was 7 years old, and toto, 4 years old, was the youngest contestant.
Duoduo was not optimistic because of his age, but he proved his ability to everyone with practical actions.
After the competition, IOC member and president of the International Sailing Federation, Joron Peterson, and vice president of the International Sailing Federation, Alberto Predejeri, personally received Toto, and Duoduo and He Liesheng also became popular throughout the Internet.
Under the education of He Liesheng, Duoduo opened his extraordinary life like a hanging!
On October 1, He Liesheng took Duoduo to climb Mt. Fuji at an altitude of 3,776 meters.
Mt. Fuji is not only complex in terrain, but also has a lot of pristine volcanic rocks, some slopes up to 60 degrees, which is somewhat difficult for an adult who does not often engage in outdoor activities, and Duoduo and He Liesheng climbed for 15 hours to finally reach the summit.
After reaching the top of the mountain, He Liesheng took out a banner prepared in advance and took a group photo with his son. The banner reads "Teenagers are strong, China is strong" and several large characters are very eye-catching. He Liesheng later said in an interview: "I just want to prove to the world that even China's premature babies are not physically inferior to Japanese children!" ”
In July 2013, He Liesheng took Duoduo to do a big thing, refreshing more people's cognition.
After coming to Gu'an County, Hebei Province, joining the "Warrior Flying Club" and training for a month, at 17:20 on August 31, the 5-year-old Duoduo boarded the ultralight plane called "China Junior" "Little Bee-3", and with the order of the coach, the plane took off and went straight to the Beijing Wildlife Park 15 kilometers away.
During the flight, Toto had a calm attitude that did not match his age, and he has been flying the plane at a flight altitude of 150 meters. After 35 minutes, Toto successfully returned.
Toto broke the record for the world's smallest flyer and shocked China and foreign countries!
However, this was not the most glorious moment of duoduo at a young age, and He Liesheng had not forgotten the promise he had made.
At the age of 6, he published his autobiography "I Am a Naked Running Brother";
7 years old, three successful crossings of the Sea of Death Lop Nur;
8 years old, self-admitted to Nanjing University;
9 years old, won the beijing world robot competition champion;
10 years old, completed the self-study exam;
11 years old, graduated from Nanjing University;
At the age of 12, he was admitted to Nanjing University with an undergraduate major.
This resume, which crushes many peers and even adults, is amazing enough for ordinary people. But He Liesheng's expectations for Duoduo are far more than that.
In September 2021, Duoduo completed all the courses of the Master of Business Administration at The University of Wukang in Spain, and he was only 13 years old.
On December 19, 2021, Toto received a doctoral acceptance letter from the University of São Paulo in the Philippines, making him the youngest doctoral student at the University of São Paulo!
From premature babies to mountaineers, from almost cerebral palsy to doctoral students at famous universities, He Liesheng spent 13 years. According to He Liesheng's plan, the life of Duoduo should be able to go further, not higher!
However, things are often two sides of the same coin, and there are gains and losses. Under the strict requirements of He Liesheng, Duoduo also missed a lot.
He didn't have time to play games, couldn't brush videos, and even grew so big that he didn't even drink a mouthful of carbonated drinks.
When the reporter asked Duoduo if he wanted to drink, the child thought for a moment and said: "I thought about it before, but now I don't feel it." ”
In response to some people's doubts, He Liesheng explained: "Isn't education to revolutionize the old and welcome the new? If life has been going according to the order, many things can not be understood until the age of 30, isn't it already too late? Before the child was 10 years old, I was in the role of 'coach'. The coach is going to make you run a kilometer, you have to run a kilometer. After the age of 10, I am the 'chief of staff', the child already has his own ideas, I just have to give him directions on the side. ”
Although He Liesheng gave an explanation for his own way of education, many parents still said that this method is too aggressive and even too cruel to their children. There is still a long way to go in life, and you can't exhaust all your energy at the beginning. Children should have the appearance of children, and having a happy and happy childhood is more important than any trophy and certificate.
Which statement do you agree with on this?