Every child has its own laws of development.
We should respect the law of children's growth and not be the one who promotes seedlings.
- Tiger Mom
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Author | Coke Mom
Do you remember what you were doing when you were 13?
For most children, that year, they should be in the second year of junior high school.
The university, for them, is still a somewhat distant place.
However, some time ago, I saw such a news:
A 13-year-old boy named He Yide is studying for a doctorate at the University of São Paulo in the Philippines.
At first glance, this name may feel very strange.
But in fact, he also has a more well-known title:
Naked running brother.
In 2012, at the age of four, he was photographed and posted online for running naked in the snow and doing push-ups.
Netizens then referred to He Yide, who was naked and frozen red, as a "naked running brother".
In 2020, the "naked running brother" once again triggered a hot discussion among netizens.
At that time, the 12-year-old was participating in a quiz program of Jiangsu Satellite TV, "One Stop to the End", and posted his resume in the program.
From this resume, we see what is called "the difference in the world":
1-year-old rampage, 2-year-old conquering the Purple Mountain, 3-year-old naked running, 4-year-old sailing, 5-year-old flying, 6-year-old autobiography, three crossings Lop Nur from the age of 7...
Among them, the autobiography titled "I Am a "Naked Running Brother"" has also been divided into three volumes: upper, middle and lower.
At the age of 8, the "naked running brother" was admitted to Nanjing University.
In an interview with the media, he said confidently:
"In fact, the primary school English test is even more difficult than this."
"My first, second, and third grade courses are all self-taught, so I still have a little self-learning foundation."
At the age of 13, he completed 12 courses of the MBA at the University of Bukham in Spain.
In the same year, he became the youngest doctoral student at the University of São Paulo in the Philippines.
At a young age, he went to heaven and earth, walked south and north, overlooked the Beijing Wildlife Park, and also enjoyed the scenery of the northwest desert.
From Nanjing to Spain, to the Philippines, all the way from a specialist to a doctorate.
What it took others 31 years to accomplish, he did at the age of 13.
Not only is it "someone else's child", it can be called a "fairy-like" child.
The galloping life of the "naked running brother" has made countless people envious.
His father, He Liesheng, became famous for this and was known as "Eagle Dad".
After becoming famous, "Eagle Dad" successively published books such as "Eagle Dad Education" and "I Am Eagle Dad", opened "Eagle Dad Public School", and hyped up his own education methods.
He launched the "Correction Class", "Military Sports Training Class", "Super Brain Learning Ability Class" and so on.
Among them, the price of many courses is ridiculously high.
The 6-day training camp cost as much as 4980 yuan.
I don't know if people who share the "Eagle Daddy" educational philosophy will actually send their children to his training class.
But apparently, many parents only saw the brilliance he showed, but ignored the shadows under the strong light.
In fact, although the "naked running brother" is intelligent, it is still far from the point of prodigy and genius.
He flew a plane when he was 5 years old.
According to people familiar with the matter, Chinese mainland the application conditions for a flight pilot's license, and must be at least 17 years old.
The plane driven by the "naked runner" is actually in the flying club of the general aviation airport, accompanied by an instructor, to experience flying.
He was admitted to Nanjing University at the age of 8.
But in fact, the "naked runner" is not participating in the college entrance examination, but the self-examination of the School of Continuing Education of Nanjing University.
No age, no education, no background.
He applied for a total of three courses in the Sales Management (Specialty) major.
In the end, the "naked runner" passed two of them with a score of 73 points in marketing, 63 points in management principles and 50 points in consumer psychology.
In order to achieve a quick start, "Eagle Dad" spent two months to complete the junior high school course for his son, and another month to raid the high school course.
In this process, "Eagle Dad" only teaches "useful":
"Physics, mathematics, chemistry, biology, you can't use it in this life."
"Geography study only needs to understand the 'up north down south left west right east', each country's customs and customs to understand the point."
"English is also not needed, now there is a translator, directly can be interpreted simultaneously."
But after removing mathematics, English, geography, physics, chemistry, biology and other subjects, what is left of the "naked runner" to really learn?
The teacher who had given him a lesson said that the language foundation of the "naked running brother" was not good.
Many basic concepts are not clear and can only be memorized by rote.
I believe that seeing here, everyone should understand:
"God" is not actually a "naked running brother".
It is the father who stands behind him, and he is the truth of the "genius" and "prodigy".
It is the father who deprives his son of the right to receive compulsory education, and forcibly forces the child to the road of "genius" through self-examination and other "curve overtaking" methods.
But is this success "overtaking in corners" or going astray?
In life, many parents are not as extreme as "eagle dads".
But it is undeniable that they all live in their hearts a "naked running brother".
Previously, a primary school student in Yunnan won the news of the national award for "C10orf67 in the Function and Mechanism of Colorectal Cancer Occurrence and Development", which swept the network.
According to the officially released diary, the boy became interested in the tumor one day in 2018.
Subsequently, he went online for two consecutive days to check the information.
On the fourth day, the teacher taught him a term, gene.
By day eight, however, he was already proficient in gene expression techniques—a project that the average undergraduate wouldn't necessarily be able to complete in four years.
The boys' research projects were evaluated by professionals as "having reached the level of master's or even doctoral students in medicine or life sciences".
What's going on here?
It turned out that the boy's research project was conducted at the Kunming Institute of Zoology of the Chinese Academy of Sciences.
The institute happens to be the work unit of the boy's father, Chen Yongbin, and the boy's award-winning project is highly consistent with the father's usual research scope.
Perhaps, in the eyes of the father who secretly opened an accelerator for his son's life:
Fast and extraordinary are good, slow and ordinary are bad.
However, as the French thinker Rousseau wrote in Emile:
"Nature wants a child to be like a child before he becomes an adult.
If we disrupt this order, we will produce some early ripening fruits that are neither plump nor sweet. ”
Remember the 9-year-old "genius girl" Zhang Yiwen who took the college entrance examination?
In the face of the envious or surprised eyes of the crowd, her father talked.
It is said that her daughter only attended kindergarten for one month from childhood to adulthood, knew more than 2,000 Chinese characters at the age of 4, and now has obtained the same academic certification as a high school graduate.
Finally, her father ambitiously declared:
"I plan to get her to graduate with a Ph.D. at the age of 20, and then do scientific research and enter high society."
However, that time, Zhang Yiwen fell dismal with a score of 172 points.
A year later, her father once again sent her to the examination room, only this time, at the age of 10, she took the single-trick exam of Shangqiu Institute of Technology.
In the end, Zhang Yiwen scored 352 points and was admitted to the school's three-year college.
But now, after graduating from college, she has no unit to go to.
I can only return to my private school as a teaching assistant and help my mother correct her homework every day.
At this time, she began to quarrel with her parents frequently.
In her opinion, it was her parents who irresponsibly led her down the wrong path and delayed her.
After watching the tragedies of "prodigies" and "geniuses", I couldn't help but sigh:
For most parents, there is a difficulty in this world, which lies in accepting the ordinariness of their children.
Today's parents are always extremely anxious, seeing that other people's children show a little talent, they are anxious to scratch their ears and scratch their cheeks, and they are eager to win at the starting line, eager to make their children become legends.
But forget that a weak body cannot bear the risk of being ripe.
American psychologists have done a famous "twin ladder climbing experiment".
The experiment was a pair of twin children, older brother and younger brother born only a few minutes apart.
The researchers first asked the older brother to train himself to climb stairs for ten minutes a day, while the younger brother did not do any training.
After 6 weeks, it only takes the older brother 26 seconds to climb the stairs, while the younger brother takes 45 seconds.
Starting from week 7, a two-week climbing training session for my brother began.
Before the competition, the brother practiced for a total of 8 weeks, and the younger brother only practiced for 2 weeks.
But unexpectedly, in the end, the younger brother won the game, and it took him only 10 seconds to climb the stairs.
This study tells us:
The training of children is not the more the better, and it is not the sooner the better, but to do the right thing at the right time.
For ordinary parents, the most important thing to do is to have the determination to let the children take it slowly.
After all, education is meant to be three points, seven points, and so on.
After planting a seed, we just need to water, fertilize and loosen the soil on time.
The rest, leave it to time.
If you are too anxious, open the soil again and again to see if the seed germinates, and pull the seedling up over and over again to see how it grows so slowly, not only does it have no meaning, but it will wither and die.
The same goes for children.
Let him step by step from primary school to middle school, and then to university, to receive systematic and formal compulsory education.
By competing and growing up with his peers, he has the opportunity to get better in a step-by-step manner.
Don't forget, most children's lives are destined to be ordinary.
As parents, we need not only the tenacity to encourage children to pursue excellence, but also many times, to accept ordinary wisdom and courage.
【Source】
Xiaoxiang Morning News "13-year-old 'naked running brother' is going to study for a doctorate"
Yangtze Evening News Network "Nanjing Man Special Training Four-Year-Old Son Running Push-Ups Naked in the Snow"
Beijing News "Eagle Dad" let the child drive the plane, from the ancient hero out of the teenager"
Beijing News "The Accelerated Life of "Naked Running Brother""
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