The profession of parent is noble, but also the lowest threshold, there has never been any training and examination, but it can affect the child's life.
Many parents consider themselves to be adults, above their children, as if they are the masters of their children's fate, and are not allowed to make any rebellious actions against their children.
In fact, children will gradually have their own unique consciousness, they hope that parents can listen to their own opinions, but in the eyes of parents, never treat children as an independent individual, they are just afraid of trouble, hope that children can listen to their own words.
Parents educate an obedient child, it is not honorable, after all, every child should become a unique self, let the child know what to do, the courage to insist on self, the child's ability has a size, and do it is the beginning of the child's growth.
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Parents who often use the "command-style" education method always have a "high" posture
Force your child to follow orders
For many parents, they often think that their children belong to themselves, and their own practices are also for the good of their children, so they often do not consider their children's feelings, but will force their children to obey their own orders, hoping to protect their children from harm through this method.
The way parents force their children is very old-fashioned, seemingly showing the majesty of parents, but deeply hurting the children's hearts, they are eager to be seen by parents, hoping to be affirmed by everyone, but parents habitually ignore their children's feelings.
Threaten the child
Children have their own ideas, and gradually contrary to their parents, parents see that their children are so difficult to control, it is inevitable that they will try to curve to save the country, such as using a threatening way, hoping to make children feel fear in this way, so as to actively obey their parents' opinions.
Perhaps for many parents, seeing their children take a detour, the heart will hurt, they do not hesitate to use any way to hope that the child can listen to their own words, and threatening the child is also the most common way.
Don't take the child seriously at all
Obviously, children have grown up and have their own ideas, but many parents do not take their children's opinions to heart, and even think that their children's thinking is not sound, do not give children the opportunity to express themselves, and directly reject their children.
Parents do not put their children in their eyes at all, they have always regarded their children as ignorant people, under the guidance of this kind of thinking, children have long since lost their own thoughts, because they have never been respected, and they do not know how to adhere to their own opinions, and unsound education methods will often have a profound impact on children.
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The "imperative" approach to education is used sparingly because it is not conducive to the development of children's personality
Children lack a sense of responsibility
Children want to do things in their own way, but parents always force their children to listen to their own opinions, as if they are the savior of their children, over time, the children have long lost their opinions, habitually listen to others' opinions, as for their own responsibilities, they have long been thrown out of the clouds.
Children lack a sense of responsibility, do not understand the responsibility they should bear on their shoulders, encounter difficulties, blindly withdraw, hope to escape their responsibilities through this way, often look down on the people around them, and become people who cannot be relied on in everyone's mouth.
Inferiority
Children know themselves from other people, they do not know whether they are excellent, but they know that if their parents always ignore themselves, then they must not be excellent, and it is inevitable that they will have inferiority in their hearts.
On the one hand, they constantly hope for a better future, but on the other hand, they have no way to face the bleakness of their lives, they are afraid of failure, they dare not try new challenges, and they always hide in the corner, hoping to be a transparent person and avoid being noticed by others.
rebel
Obviously they have good ideas, but parents have always not paid attention to this situation, in this case, children will often have resentment towards their parents, but will deliberately make rebellious behavior.
See the child's rebellious behavior, parents do not always reprimand, perhaps it is not the child's fault, the parent's problem can be solved, then the child will also change the rebellious behavior habits.
In the process of educating children, the parents' education methods have a profound impact on children.
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As children grow up, they need to be cared for and listened to
Parents should learn to listen to their children's voices
Obviously, the child already has his own sense of independence, if the parents still want to control the child, this practice will often make the child resentful.
In fact, to educate children, we must learn to prescribe the right medicine and listen to the voices of children.
Parents blindly want to give their children better, but they do not know that their own practices have hurt their children, the communication between parents and children is not smooth, children have misunderstood their parents, and the parent-child relationship has become worse and worse.
In the process of communication, it is necessary to respect the child
In the process of communication, many parents are accustomed to taking communication as their own words, they habitually plan everything for their children, but they think that children should unconditionally listen to their own words, which often makes children ashamed of themselves.
If you are good enough, how can you not get the respect of your parents, a child who has never been respected by his parents, often thinks that everything is his fault.
Only when parents learn to respect their children can children dare to fight for their rights, even if they encounter sudden things, they can face them bravely.
Learn to withdraw from the child's life with dignity, church sovereignty
Most of the parents in China are worried that they do not love their children enough, they habitually help their children to do everything, but when the children grow up, they still interfere in their children's lives in every detail, hoping to let the children grow up smoothly in this way.
Parents give their children enough respect to let them make their own choices.
Even if the choice is full of loopholes, parents must still respect it, parents learn to delegate power, and their children's growth can be faster.
In the process of growing up, it is impossible to have no setbacks, and setbacks are also stepping stones on the way forward for children, and parents should look at them rationally.
Every child's life has countless possibilities, if parents blindly control their children, the use of command education methods, it is inevitable that children will lose themselves, they are accustomed to living in the shadow of parents, they have long forgotten their original intentions.
Parents educate their children to make their children more excellent, and they should adjust their own education methods according to their children's performance.
| Proverbs 22:6|
To raise a child, to make him walk the path of the profession, even when he is old, he will not deviate.