New Year's greeting is a traditional custom of Chinese, parents take their children to the elders to pray to the New Year, say a few auspicious words, and collect some money for the new year, just to try to be auspicious. For the Matter of New Year's Greetings, outgoing, bold and lively children will sweetly say hello and say a few auspicious words; but when they encounter children who are timid and afraid of life and do not want to say hello, they will not open their mouths for most of the day, which will inevitably make parents feel embarrassed. At this time, parents will have two reactions: one is: reprimanding children for not understanding things, timidity and fear of life, forcing them to greet and greet the New Year; the other is: to help children resolve embarrassment" This child is a little timid and afraid of life, introverted and shy...", as everyone knows, these two practices will cause them a certain negative impact on children.
The harm of being forced to socialize
In the cognition of many parents, it is normal for children to say hello to the New Year, because when they were young, they were also forced by their parents to say hello to various relatives, and they did not feel any impact! In fact, this kind of forced socialization is really not a small thing for children. In this small social environment, all the strangeness, embarrassment and cramped uneasiness are fleeting and then forgotten by adults. But for children, it will be deeply imprinted in the mind. If parents reprimand in person, or keep labeling their children as "timid and afraid of life, introverted and not fond of calling people", the impact is even greater.
1. Destroy your child's sense of security
Visiting relatives and friends during the New Year, many relatives and friends who are familiar to parents are strangers to children who meet for the first time. At this time, most of the children are insecure, nervous and afraid. Studies have found that when children under the age of 10 come into contact with strangers, the left brain produces a resistance signal, resulting in a subconscious action of self-protection. If you blindly force your children to pay homage to unfamiliar people, it is easy to destroy their sense of security.
2. False self-perception
Children are reluctant to pay homage to the New Year, and many parents will help explain in order to resolve this embarrassing scene, such as "the child's personality is a little introverted, don't be surprised", "The child is actually quite polite, but a little shy." "A parent's explanation makes young children who can't distinguish between words easily fall into self-denial, thinking that they are timid and introverted children, thus forming a false self-perception, becoming inferior and having no self-confidence."
3. Children will become rebellious
Forcing children to pay homage to the New Year is also forcing children to obey and be obedient, which is a kind of face display for parents. But for children, their own feelings and needs are ignored and suppressed by their parents. In the long run, as children get older, their rebellious psychology will become heavier and heavier.
4. Children are increasingly repulsive to socializing
Children's fear and shyness toward strangers is an innate ability to protect themselves. Forcing children to pay homage to the New Year and reprimanding them will make them less and less like to interact with people, and thus more and more repulsive to socializing.