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Seeing other children are very lively and happy to play with other children, while their own children are always more shy, do not like to talk, do not interact with others.
Every time you take the child out, the child hides as soon as he sees the living person, and lets the child call aunt or uncle, but the child just does not bark, hides behind you, does not want to be seen, I believe you are headache and helpless.
If the child continues to be like this, you may feel embarrassed because the child is not enthusiastic enough, and feel that you have neglected the guests;
I will also worry about the child's future interpersonal relationships, afraid that the child will have no friends, but if you want to change, you can't start, you can only do it in your heart.
So what can be done to help improve the problem of children's fear of life? For this problem, I recommend that parents do a good job of these points.
01
Parents should convey a positive attitude to their children and not label their children casually.
Many parents, when their children are afraid of birth, will always blurt out:
"Hurry up and call Auntie, this child, why are you so rude" "Auntie talks to you, can you have a little reaction", "My child is more introverted and does not like to talk" and so on.
These words are actually invisible, which will make children feel that they are such introverts and people who are not good at communication.
Therefore, in the future with people, they will be more afraid of interacting with people, always unconsciously marginalizing themselves, and going farther and farther on the introverted road.
Therefore, when the child is afraid of life and wants to escape, the child should be comforted with inclusive and encouraging words, so that the child feels respected, and the possibility of guiding the child to become active in the future will be greater.
02
Be patient and give your child enough time to adapt.
Parents are the best teachers, if parents can maintain enough patience and invest time in guiding their children, I believe it will always have an effect.
It is impossible to become a big fat person in one bite, and everything must be done step by step, follow the good temptation.
You can let the child start by saying hello to the aunt and uncle, and after the child can greet people naturally, then slowly transition to let the child try to chat more topics in front of outsiders. Continuous practice will slowly form habits, and gradually children will be more relaxed and comfortable in front of strangers to show themselves and become more talkative.
03
Lead your children to go out and meet different people and grow up in the world.
If you want to eliminate the fear in your child's heart better, you need to take your child to contact the environment with many people, and you will not be afraid if you are used to it.
Participating in more outdoor activities and knowing more things will also make children more knowledgeable, and when playing with other children, there will be more topics and more self-confidence, which will make it easier to get the good feelings of other children.
In any case, people are either born social geniuses, and many social geniuses are also cultivated through the cultivation and practice of the day after tomorrow.
For children, parents are like a "safe harbor", they can do a lot of things in front of their parents with confidence, and when they meet strangers, they are silent because they are not familiar.
I would like to say that parents must first be able to understand the child's psychology, first understand and then guide, do not always blame the child and then force the child to communicate, otherwise the child will not really be happy even if he can chat.
Parents can provide a suitable environment for their children, so that children have the opportunity to exercise the ability to get along with people as much as possible, let go of the fear of getting along with people, which is also an inevitable process for every child to go through, parents should maintain a good attitude, correct response, one day children will overcome the fear of life.
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