We can often see such news on TV or on the Internet: children run away from home after being criticized by parents or teachers because of their poor grades, or even jump off a building to commit suicide.
There are also some students who are originally very good, because they are jealous of other people's achievements, or because of the pressure of study or life, they have violent tendencies, and finally do things that harm others and themselves.
When lamenting the lack of life education, we must also see the factors that cannot be ignored - our children urgently need to make up for the frustration education class.
All of the above phenomena make us find that in addition to life education, our children also need to make up for the frustration education lesson.
When it comes to setback education, some people always think that setback education is to let children experience more setbacks and sufferings, so that their ability to bear will increase, and their ability to resist setbacks will also improve.
Others believe that frustration education is about not praising children, and even if they have achieved success, they must put forward higher requirements and harsh evaluations.
As everyone knows, after such "setback education", it makes the child's heart more fragile, more confident in himself, and his psychological quality is worse, and when facing setbacks and difficulties, not only does he have no ability to resist, but it is easier to escape and lose control.
So what is the real frustration education? True frustration education is encouragement, is to teach children to have an optimistic attitude, is to let children from difficulties and setbacks, exercise the positive and optimistic quality.
Frustration education is a compulsory course for growth
In today's education, changing the way of exaggerating children's education has once become a habit of many parents. Children who originally grew up in the honeypot from childhood are even more complacent in the incessant praise of their parents. If you encounter some unpleasantness or be criticized one day, it will become a "great grievance", and the "glass heart" will begin to break.
But we must know that life is not "exaggerated", and it is very normal to encounter some setbacks and dissatisfaction on the road of life. The test results are not satisfactory, the homework is wrong, the building blocks are collapsed, the memorization is always impossible to remember... These are good opportunities to teach children to face problems and solve them.
Let children in the process of growth, use setbacks to correctly educate them, let children correctly realize the meaning of setbacks, and face setbacks with an optimistic attitude, so that children become strong, anti-setback ability and adaptability are improved, which is crucial for children's growth.
It is not a bad thing to let children have more experiences on the road to growth, but it is of great significance for growing children. In this sense, frustration education is a compulsory course in life.
Attach importance to the role model of words and deeds
As we all know, parents are the first teachers of children, and on the road of educating children, the words and deeds of parents are very important.
If we encounter unpleasant things in life and work, we are depressed or discouraged, then the child will certainly not be strong. On the contrary, if we can actively face it and find a way to solve it, children will naturally learn the role of strength from us.
When we encounter setbacks, we may wish to tell our own stories to our children, discuss our failures with our children, and let the children understand that everyone will encounter failures. Encountering failure is not terrible, what is terrible is defeated by failure! Let the children witness their own defeat and victory together, which is a good "setback education".
The road of life can not always be smooth, no matter whether it is a shoal or a ravine, we can not replace the child to cross, the child crossed, always have to let the child to experience, to face, to solve.
"The sword blade comes out of the grinding, and the plum blossom fragrance comes from the bitter cold." Only let the child experience setback education, let the child be a towering tree that has experienced wind and rain, cultivate the healthy personality of the child in the setback education, and let the child meet the excellent self!