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Setback education is not to fight against educational setbacks, but to let children experience more tests on the road to growth. In order to overcome difficulties and meet success, parents implement a kind of crackdown education for children to dare to fight and win. For children, this kind of education will make them lose self-confidence and is not recommended for parents.
Neinei, 10, lost in a ballet competition, his father Wu Zun told her. Wu Zun is a member of the Flywheel Sea, and after the dissolution of the regiment, Wu Zun "disappeared" in the entertainment circle for a period of time. In the show, his "Ten Covenants" for the future son-in-law let people know that the man has become a good father and spoiled his daughter to heaven.
Now, 10 years old, she's a big girl. Losing the game in her hobby, the little girl's failure in her first attempt also made her cry. As a father, Wu Zun did not spoil his daughter as before, but told her daughter about her failure. As a father, Wu Zun told his daughter that failure is not terrible, and that it is more courageous to be frustrated, and this sentence has also attracted the praise of Bao Ma.
Faced with failures and setbacks, children cry just to get a better start, rather than lamenting to themselves and never trying again. Many parents have been worried about their children's frustrations in education, and they see setbacks as a way to help their children grow better. But they don't know that this will only make the child lose the confidence and courage to try new things.
So, what is frustration education for children?
First, what is good frustration education
In life, every moment there are people who fail, and every moment there are people who succeed. So what is a good frustration education for children? What does frustration education represent? For children, failure is a good frustration education. Life is never easy, and it is a failure for children to study hard but not get good grades.
Kids trying to dance without getting good grades is a failure. These failures are setbacks, and good setbacks will make children more depressed, more courageous, more depressed, and never give up.
For children, blows are not a good frustration education. In the family, in order to educate the child's frustration, the parent will hit the child, which is definitely not a good frustration education. It can only be called a crackdown education, not a setback education. When parents are constantly repeating "you can't do it" and "you're far from success," they won't end up helping their child succeed.
For children, good frustration education is a good attitude when they encounter difficulties in life. Children can only succeed if they are clear-headed. Wu Zun said to his daughter: "Proud of you, it's okay, although you didn't win the award, but your efforts are in everyone's eyes, and your father loves you." "Standing on an unfamiliar stage, whether her performance is successful or not, can she get a good position."
It is important for children to have the courage to stand on the stage, and children have the courage to face possible failures and are already successful. All parents have to do is tell their children, "The process is more important than the outcome." "To like the process in the game, to enjoy the process, not necessarily to be successful, to relax their mood. So for children who fail, how can parents help their children through setbacks?
Second, how parents can help their children through "setbacks"
1. Relax
When a child encounters setbacks, the first step for parents is to help the child ease their emotions and let them out of the emotions of failure. Only when children calm down can they hear the advice of others. When children experience setbacks or difficulties, they will have negative emotions. At this time, the children's crying and irritability manifested themselves. Therefore, parents should not stop or complain about their children's behavior. When the child calms down, he is telling the child the right way to ease his emotions.
2. Find out the reason for the failure
When the child's emotions calm down, parents can help the child find out the reason for the failure, and can also let the child say the reason for his failure, so as to help the child reflect and solve the problem. Parents should not be indifferent to their child's failures, which will make the child feel that no one cares about him. Let children learn to reflect and they will not worry when they encounter difficulties in the future.
3. Challenge again
It doesn't matter if the child fails the exam or the competition. All children need to re-establish their confidence and try again to win progress. Therefore, parents should help their children recover from setbacks and challenge them again.
summary:
Harder than winning is overcoming yourself. Therefore, parents should know how to give their children self-confidence, rather than hitting their children's self-confidence. Wu Zun is now a good father, and in order to be a good father, he is also working hard. For the children, their greatest courage and confidence came from their fathers. Therefore, it is recommended that fathers in married families not only be a good husband, but also undertake the education of their children, and should not set an example of "bad fathers" for their children!