How to spend the first winter vacation after the "double subtraction"?
Winter vacation life has begun, and students are returning to their families to spend winter vacation time with their parents. This is the first winter vacation after the implementation of the "double reduction" policy and the implementation of the "Family Education Promotion Law of the People's Republic of China", which is a "transformation and upgrading" for family education. Parents' concepts, thinking, behaviors and strategies directly affect the quality of children's holiday life, affect the quality of children's growth, and affect the quality of family education. How can parents accompany their children to this winter vacation with high quality? Under the guidance of the Principal's Office, the Psychology Center of Xingyang School has formulated two lists according to different school segments, different academic conditions and different age levels of primary and secondary schools, let's take a look at it together!
Elementary school chapter
A large part of China's traditional education is family education and family education, which constitutes the basic background of Chinese education. The Law of the People's Republic of China on the Promotion of Family Education is first of all to re-establish a close connection between the two and achieve two-way interaction: to standardize, promote and lead family education with the will of national education, and to make family education cooperate with national education represented by school education. Secondly, it is also to return to the essence of the function of education: education is a matter that belongs to the whole society, not only to school teachers.
Before there was the "double reduction" policy, and then there was the "People's Republic of China Family Education Promotion Law", how can you be a qualified parent? Share with you the following "three stages" and "ten ones" actions to empower parents and accompany their children to a quality vacation.
First of all, we must first change our own ideological concepts, "useless is of great use", and slow down the rhythm of children's growth, which is the respect for life.
Secondly, the winter vacation is a good time for children to maintain good habits, learn self-management, enrich cognition, and accumulate strength for the next stage of learning and growth. Let children live a happy and meaningful winter vacation, and scientific holiday life planning must not be less. Winter vacation is a good opportunity to make yourself grow, you may wish to grasp the three stages of the micro-course to make a good plan. In addition, if you want to grow up during the holidays to be more natural, enjoyable and creative, I provide the following "Ten Ones" action brackets, hoping that parents will have a textured winter vacation.
1. A family New Year's dream list
On the occasion of the 2022 New Year, the whole family will work together to plan a family New Year's dream list. During this period, you can let your child act as a project host or planner. A small list can fully mobilize the child's sense of family responsibility and participation, organize, plan, implement and present by the child, exercise the child's comprehensive ability, and through this activity, it can also unite the heart of the family, enhance the emotions of family members, and make family members more responsible, existential and happy.
2. A special parent-child activity
Parent-child activities can be a ride, a trip, a practical study, a survey visit, watching a play, listening to a concert, watching an exhibition, etc., or parent-child activities that cannot be realized during the child's schooling period, which can be implemented as parent-child activities. Through parent-child activities, parent-child emotions are enhanced, and children's research, aesthetics, innovation and cultural literacy are enhanced.
3. A pleasant reading salon
Organize parents or parents in the family to read a book together, or enjoy an educational movie together, or carry out a reading salon on an educational phenomenon in society, form a "circle of friends" for parents to grow, and promote parents' self-help growth.
4. An in-depth talk about family style
In order to cultivate good social morality, family virtues, personal morality, and cultivate good moral character, parents must pay attention to the in-depth excavation of high-quality educational resources such as "family style" and give play to the value of "family style" in the growth of children. Special family activities such as parent-child genealogy, family style story telling activities, original family style picture books, and original family style micro-movies can be carried out, so that family style can be passed on among family members and affect the growth of children's lives.
5. A family annual calendar
2021 is an extraordinary year, the country has the story of the country, the small family has the story of the small family, you can carefully select the typical monthly events with the children as the annual calendar of the family, through the production of this calendar, review the story of the family this year, and stimulate the family's struggle in 2022.
6. A family postcard of the year
If a family had gone through four seasons in 2021, if they had made an annual postcard for the family, which one would it be? What kind of text will be accompanied? Parents may wish to take their children to a family council to select a picture suitable for making an annual family postcard and design the text content with pictures. Draw, shoot, and make this annual postcard with your children, send it to relatives and friends, and share family culture.
7. A cultivation plan
As a parent in the new era, there are old and young, and there are their own struggle life manuscripts in the middle. Instead of writing alone, invite your parents and children to participate in your New Year's cultivation plan. Listen to your parents and see what kind of child your parents want you to be? Listen to your child's voice and see what kind of parent your child wants you to be? Then integrate into your cultivation plan.
8. A volunteer service practice activity
The growth of children must be closely related to social practice and life. Parents should be bold, willing and good at bringing their children to social life and to the "campus" of practical activities to learn, exercise and experience. You can participate in some activities organized by the community, community or local Youth League Committee, Young Workers' Committee, Women's Federation and other formal norms, or related volunteer service practice activities, creating opportunities for children to practice, exercise and serve.
9. A selection of stories that move China
On the occasion of retiring the old and welcoming the new, you can organize a family version of "2021 Moving China Stories" in the family. Take your children to review the major events that have happened in the country this year, and jointly select the three events of the family version of "2021 Moving China Story". Political enlightenment can be appropriately carried out to cultivate children's feelings of home and country.
10. A New Year family portrait
The first day of the first lunar month or Chinese New Year's Eve has a special meaning for Chinese, parents can take a New Year family portrait with their children, carefully select scenes, design shapes, arrange formations, photo frames, etc., make New Year gifts for family members, and start a new life of living tigers and auspicious new life in the Year of the Tiger.
Finally, we must learn how to get along with our children. The way to get along between parents and children lies in the "five more": more listening; more communication; more companionship; more cooperation; more democracy. In addition, parents should do a good job of demonstration, regular work and rest, do not rely too much on electronic products, spend more time with their children to play, read together, I believe that with the joint efforts of parents and children, they will definitely harvest a colorful and meaningful winter vacation.
Secondary School
When the traditional "family affairs" rise to an important "state affair" in the new era, "double reduction" background, how to do a good job in family education, promote the healthy growth of adolescents' physical and mental health, Xingyang School launched the "family education micro-classroom" for students' parents, helping students' parents or guardians to establish the appropriate role of family education, in line with "rules" and "Tao", and care for growth.
So, in the face of anxiety, how should parents do it?
1. Parents become parents who empower themselves
Many of the cases encountered before are parents urging children to learn every day, but children just don't want to learn, ask parents if they like to do things, and even hold on, in the process of raising children, parents lose themselves. You can be imperfect parents, emotional first aid is very important after the outbreak of conflict, parents' strings do not have to be so tight, everyone has moments when emotions are out of control, parents lose their temper with their children, it does not mean that they will definitely leave hurt and shadow on their children, as long as you remember to communicate with the child afterwards and apologize calmly, good parents do not mean that there can be no emotions, rather than avoiding emotions, it is more important to teach children how to understand emotions, deal with emotions, how to take children when emotions appear, Turn this failure into an opportunity to understand each other. Insist on setting aside time to do your own thing, pay attention to your hobbies and pursuits, never give up self-growth, be a better parent, you can have better children, this may be the most moving place to raise children, we are leading the growth of children, children are also leading our lives.
2. Parents hear TA, understand TA, and love TA
(1) Respect for the child: Respect for him is an independent individual, so that the child has the right to express is the first step of respect. Don't rush to define, don't want to do it, does tantrum mean that it is difficult to manage and disobedient? Does expressing your feelings mean not being a good kid? Grab a hug and pat your child first, ask him what he thinks, what's going on, and focus on solving specific problems, not who loses and who wins, who is right and who is wrong.
(2) Empathy: What do you want to do when you are young? Sometimes you might as well think about it in a different position, is what your child needs to do now that you love to do? So moms and dads can try to go back to their own teenage years and think from his point of view. I love you is the premise of empathy, parent-child frequency, same sorrow and joy is a happy thing.
3. Parents communicate and give affirmation on an equal footing, so that children feel very happy with themselves.
(1) Put down the mobile phone: Many parents complain that their children have regained the right to use the mobile phone as soon as they take a holiday, and they can't manage it. It is very simple: the agreed time, the timeout is taken back and not let him play, if it does not matter if you cry, you can comfort and hug him, but the rules must be established. Of course, the premise is that as a parent, first of all, do not indulge in mobile phones, especially in front of children, otherwise where does the confidence to educate children come from? You need to be an example. When making a mobile phone plan with your child, you should also set a quota for yourself and implement it carefully.
(2) Do things together: Watching the program together can make people put aside their personal feelings and express their views on the content of the program itself, so as to achieve the purpose of non-violent communication. Working together to accomplish something fosters tacit understanding and the qualities of collaboration and inclusion.
4. Parents confirm the child's value to the world and the value to the family.
After entering junior high school, many children "lie flat", why? They feel that the world does not need him, can not find value, life has no meaning, anything can be done, so the child needs to know that he is needed, needs to know that the world needs him, when encountering key topics to discuss, do not avoid, practice discussion, feel that they are trusted to have a sense of security, a sense of value. Be honest, let the child participate in the family decision-making, and take responsibility for the direction of the family. Parents always have a day to leave, and a reasonable exit is great love, parent-child relationship, and ultimately the goal of separation. From a larger and higher perspective, let children realize the value of their hobby actions to the world, and find some related books and documentaries to watch together.
Written by: Zhang Ziyi, Qiu Yun Review: Psychological Center Photo: Zhang Ziyi
Editor: Luan Ting