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If there is a problem with a relationship, men always think that it is a woman's problem, but they do not know that they are missing in the relationship first.
Their love, women do not feel, their care and care, as if it has little to do with women.
Obviously, he did not exert much effort in his feelings, nor did he really act, but he has always flaunted special love.
What is the point of such love?
In a relationship, women are not stupid, you love or not love them can feel, because love for a person can not be hidden, not to love a person is also.
Simply put, to love is to love, and not to love is not to love.
When I love you, I will not be willing to let you wait, nor will I say that I am particularly busy, in short, he will handle all things well and will never let you down.
Only people who don't love you will find all kinds of excuses and always say that they are busy.
01: People who don't love you won't meet your expectations
After a relationship, a lot of women find that the boyfriend has changed, he is no longer as busy as before, always very busy, when you ask him, his answer is, in order to give you a home, so fight well.
At first glance, this is indeed touching, think about him running for life, how can he bother?
For this reason, all your expectations are lowered and you feel like everything is worth it.
But is this really the case?
Actually, no, he's not really busy, he's just not willing to deal with you, so that you don't bother yourself, just find a reason.
If you believe, it will only be you who will suffer.
I have seen such a small video, which explains this very well:
After determining the relationship for a period of time, the male protagonist suddenly became very busy, and the female protagonist asked him why he was so busy, and there was not even time to date each other.
When she complained to the male protagonist, the male protagonist said that he wanted to struggle and wanted to have a home with her as soon as possible.
When the male protagonist said this, the female protagonist's heart was instantly solid.
She thought that she had really found someone to entrust her life, and if it were not for what happened later, the heroine might have been kept in the dark.
Once, the heroine and girlfriend went out on a trip and did not expect to see their boyfriend here.
He was holding someone else in his arms, a particularly sweet look, and her heart almost broke when she saw it.
The girlfriend just wanted to go up and theorize with the other party, but she stopped it, and the girlfriend asked why, in the face of such a scumbag, is it difficult to give him a face?
The heroine smiled bitterly and said that it was not necessary.
In fact, this is the case, instead of arguing, it is better to really forget it, because it is really unnecessary.
A man who does not have you in his heart, even if you are in pain, he will not come back, even if he scolds hard, he will not wake up, because you can never wake up, a man who pretends to sleep in love.
Women, really don't believe men's lies, in the eyes of people who love you, he won't make excuses for anything about you.
Even if you are busy occasionally, you will be made up when you are not busy.
In the eyes of people who don't love you, everything is superfluous, so why spend time on you if it is redundant?
Isn't that obvious?
It's just that you're stupid and don't know.
In this world, even the busiest person will also take time to the beloved, because the other party is his most important person, if he is not willing to give time, please do not give yourself a reason, decisively leave.
Writer Zhang Ailing once said:
"A man, if he is not available, it is because he does not want to be free. A person, if he can't walk away, it's because he doesn't want to go away. A person who makes too many excuses for you is because he doesn't want to care. ”
To put it simply, those who love you will have the performance of love; those who do not love will only have the performance of not loving.
02: Love or not love, in fact, it is very obvious
In a relationship, whether a man loves or not, it is actually very obvious.
Women can also fully feel, and since they can feel it, then why ask others and cling to it?
At the end of the day, it just can't be put down.
I have a female friend who knows that her boyfriend doesn't love her anymore, but she always wants to find answers through others.
On the surface it seemed as if she didn't know, in reality, she just didn't want to know.
The boyfriend is always busy with her, especially cold to her, and the chat is also a few words, extremely perfunctory. She cried and asked me:
"Xiao Bei, you said that he (boyfriend) didn't love me anymore."
I didn't think about it and replied yes, and when I finished, she muttered to herself that she didn't think even I thought so.
Seeing her like this, I said:
"My feelings are not important, my answers are not important, yours is important, since you feel it and know the answer, why should you deceive yourself?" 」
In fact, whether the boyfriend loves himself or not, she knows better than anyone.
In the face of people who don't love themselves, we always don't let go.
But you have to know that if you don't let go today, if you don't let go tomorrow, he still won't continue to love you, he's never been so busy, he just doesn't want to allocate time to you.
Love, never need a reason, when I love you, everything is good, when I don't love, I am not good, busy and tired are all excuses he finds, and they are all reasons why he wants to leave.
Why should you cling to this and get the answer from his mouth?
Even if you get the answer you want to hear, will it be less sad?
So, you have to understand that love and non-love cannot be hidden, and you can see it, so don't force it.
03: Conclusion
Every adult should not stop feelings at the age of listening to love, because it is too naïve to do so.
In this life, it is not easy to meet the person you love, but it is not easy to do it, because love is a two-way rush, it is understanding is tolerance, and it is a lifelong stay.
Isn't it?
Since you don't love, don't cling to it, leave each other decisively, and greet the person in love with the best posture, which should be the best result!
About the author: Su Xiaobei, young writer, marriage counselor. Hope to use simple words to warm your heart.