Believing in goodness and retaining goodwill is the greatest counterattack against the evil of the world.
Author: Kakashin + Chestnut
Parents Research Institute (ID: mama_cn) original debut
01
The "stepmother" is responsible for abuse, the father is responsible for watching, and the mother is responsible?
Simply not human!
A few days ago, after a child abuse incident in Guizhou was exposed, it triggered the anger of the whole network.
The 4-year-old girl was small, and after being beaten by her stepmother, she was burned by this woman with alcohol, and if it were not for the neighbor's kindness to send the child to the hospital, it might not even be able to save her life.
On the doctor's diagnosis book, it is impressively displayed:
Hydrothermal scalds on both lower extremities
Upper gastrointestinal bleeding
Severe anemia
Double lung pneumonia
Generalized soft tissue injuries...
In other words, there is no good place in the child.
After rescue, even if Xiao Xiao saved his life, he may face amputation and multi-organ failure.
She's only 4 years old!
The child who should have been hiding in the arms of his parents was lying on a hospital bed, his body was full of the marks of being beaten, and a pair of small feet almost festered, making people can't bear to look at it directly.
Little nightmares start with parents divorcing.
Originally living with her grandfather, she was taken to the county seat and lived with her father and stepmother Zhang Moulan.
This beastly stepmother did not take good care of this stepdaughter, but instead did everything in her power to abuse and beat her.
In the two months after leaving grandpa, Xiao Xiao was tortured into inhuman form.
Zhang Moulan also has children herself, and when she lays down her dead hand, is she not afraid in her heart?
The child's cries, her screams, can't be heard?
At this time, where is the child's father?
For such a long time, did he not even notice?
This question is even more tearing apart a terrible truth: this biological father is watching! Acquiescing in such atrocities!
The fierce cruelty of the stepmother made the little body suffer, while the bystanding and connivance of the biological father really made the little one feel desperate!
At present, the police have detained two people.
The wounds of the body will be good, but the wounds in the heart will be indelible for a lifetime.
Lying on the hospital bed, the little one spent his 4th birthday with scaly wounds all over his body, but his mouth kept muttering timidly: "I don't want daddy 'mom', I don't like them." ”
It is said that children love their parents the most unconditionally;
Behind this "don't" is how much fear and disgust she has!
This incident caused an uproar on the Internet: everyone scolded the pair of "stepmothers and fathers" who were not even as good as dogs.
At this time, when she learned the news that XiaoXiao was hospitalized due to abuse, her birth mother was confinement due to remarriage and childbirth, and "could not" visit the hospital at the first time.
If this reason is understandable to some extent, then it is extremely chilling to run to the hospital after she has sat full of confinement, to symbolically stay in the hospital for half a day and leave, and to say nothing about the child's future life.
Once divorced, is the cutting of biological flesh as crisp as cutting meat?
My own daughter has been abused, and shouldn't the most painful thing be this October pregnant mother?
However, everything is so selfish and cruel.
Kissing father is like a stepfather, stepmother is like a demon, and kissing mother is like a passerby.
We can't help but ponder:
Is it inevitable that the "stepmother" will be as cruel as a beast to the stepson and stepdaughter?
But the answer is also cruel: not necessarily, because there are many biological parents in life who are the child's calamity.
02
The moment I found my parents, I lost my home
Liu Xuezhou, a 15-year-old boy looking for relatives, has died.
After leaving a suicide note, he committed suicide by taking dozens of tablets of drugs on the sea in Sanya.
In his suicide note, he recounted his experiences from birth to the present, and wrote at the end of the article: "The sun shines on the sea, and I also return to the sea." ”
(The full text of the suicide note, full of his bitter life)
This boy who frequently brushes the screen on Douyin and Weibo, his short life is really too bitter.
When he was 4 years old, his adoptive parents died unexpectedly due to an explosion, and even the house with the family was destroyed. Homeless, Liu Xuezhou was fostered by relatives and grew up in a displacement.
Later, after seeing Sun Haiyang's search for a son, he also had the idea of looking for his biological parents.
Could he have been trafficked too?
Will his own biological parents also be like Sun Haiyang who are struggling to find themselves?
With these doubts in mind, he began to search for his family.
With the help of the police, he quickly found his biological parents.
On the day of the reunion, he excitedly posted a photo with his father in the circle of friends, with the caption "Today is a happy little friend."
He also told everyone that his mother would tell him to dress and keep warm on WeChat.
Liu Xuezhou, who lacked love and tasted cold eyes, was moved into this way for an ordinary word.
But only later did he learn that the red clothes his mother had worn when he saw him were not to greet him, but to celebrate the birthday of her remarried son.
But Liu Xuezhou, never had a birthday.
Originally, I thought that children who had suffered so much finally returned to their parents and could enjoy the love of family affection. But the development of things shattered everyone's three views.
Liu Xuezhou was not abducted, he was sold by his biological parents for 6,000 yuan, and this money was used by his biological father to pay the bride price of his mother, who was the third in command at the time.
Dad married Mom with the money he sold!
So ridiculous!
What flesh and blood affection, in the eyes of this pair of parents, the child is the red yuan.
Because he found his parents, Liu Xuezhou could not get the orphan subsidy, had no financial resources, and had no foothold, when he proposed that his parents could buy a house for him or rent it, the parents instantly tore the mask of family affection.
Lip service can be, once it violates their own vital interests, turn their faces ruthlessly.
His mother blocked his WeChat before, and even blamed his adoptive parents: "If they don't take you away, there will be better conditions for the family to take you!" "The implication is that they will sell you no matter what, and your adoptive parents will die early, and your life will not be good!"
And Dad, who has 4 companies under his name, can afford to rent a house, but he is reluctant to do so.
Therefore, he called his own son a "network beggar", saying that he wanted to be popular, hype, sell misery, and guide netizens to go to The Internet storm Liu Xuezhou.
In just over twenty days, Liu Xuezhou was abandoned twice.
He was sold by his biological parents in his childhood, bullied and molested when he grew up, found his parents but was blocked, and was violently attacked by the Internet...
Gain and loss is the cruelest reincarnation in the world.
It can be said that the moment he found his parents, he really lost his home.
We must admit that there are indeed parents in this world who do not love their children.
In reality, words such as abuse and abandonment often appear in social news, and the initiators are biological parents, which proves just one thing:
Whether it will hurt the child has nothing to do with intimacy, only with human nature.
03
When I met you, I regained my mother
Returning to this case of child abuse in Guizhou, a netizen in the comment area said:
"There are a couple of stepmothers who can treat other people's children like their own children. With the stepmother, the child is destined to suffer."
In fact, not all remarried families are like this, and not all stepmothers are vicious and vicious.
Guo Qilin once said: "My mother and I are closer than my father." ”
This mother is his stepmother Wang Hui.
At the age of seven, Wang Hui broke into Guo Qilin's life and assumed the position of mother.
When he was a child, he took care of his food, clothing, shelter and transportation, and when he grew up, he went out to work and socialize, and Wang Hui also made a phone call a day, afraid that he would not be able to take good care of himself.
Once, Guo Qilin was injured in the eye because of a blast scene, and when everyone came to care about him, only Wang Hui scolded him on the phone:
"Are I lying at home with your dad and can't earn money, pointing you at feeding us?" Big deal, we don't shoot ah, what is this for. ”
Guo Qilin burst into tears on the spot.
He understood that it was a manifestation of a mother's heartache for her son to the extreme.
It is precisely because of this that in Guo Qilin's heart, the stepmother Wang Hui has long been no different from her birth mother.
And when we lament that Guo Qilin has culture and high emotional intelligence, we can't ignore the love and dedication of our stepmother Wang Hui.
A remarried family, whether it can live well or not, all depends on how this stepmother deserves.
But I have to admit that the stepmother is really difficult, especially for the child's education, often in an embarrassing position that cannot be scolded.
In the talk show "Thank You for Coming", the way a stepmother educates her stepson is appreciated by the host Tu Lei.
When her son had to attend a key high school at his own expense, she did not hesitate to borrow money from her mother's family to pay sponsorship fees to her son.
In the third year of high school, in order to facilitate the delivery of meals to the children, I deliberately rented a house next to the school.
The rushing, busy figure is no different from the biological mother of other children.
But she is not blindly accustomed to children, when she learned that her son fell in love early, although she was anxious, she was patient enough to tell her children that it would affect her grades.
Over the years, in the role of loving mother and strict mother, she finally cultivated a good child who is successful in her studies and is self-motivated.
When asked how many points she gave herself in the role of stepmother, she confidently said: 100 points.
She could afford those 100 points.
Sometimes, whether you are close or not, you really don't rely on blood to maintain.
Sincerely for the heart, your kindness to the child, they all see in the eyes, remember in the heart.
A few days ago, when a college student in Shandong returned home from vacation, he used his scholarship to buy a pair of gold stud earrings for his stepmother.
The stepmother, who received the gift, showed off with surprise and excitement: "Look, my son bought me earrings. ”
The child usually saves money, and after having money, he thinks of his stepmother for the first time.
Because of this stepmother, she raised him for 18 years, treated him as if she were her own, and did her best.
When you were a child, you fought for them, and when you grew up, they would also protect you.
Whether you can be a good mother or not depends on the character of the person.
Some people, who are not biological, can be better than their own children and win the sincerity of their children;
Some people, even if they are biological flesh and blood, can ignore it, and even abuse and abuse.
Blood only determines whether you are the genetic birth mother of the child, but it does not determine whether you deserve to be called a mother by the child.
A compassion is enough to make the stepmother like a biological child;
A motherhood is sober enough to make the stepson grateful.
04
We must admit that blood relations are not the root cause of the child's calamity; human nature is the source of the child's suffering.
Stop saying step-parents are toxic;
Tragedies are frequent, only because the devil is in the human world.
There is evil in the heart, and malice does not distinguish between relatives and aliens;
Kindness at heart, kindness is enough to warm the left and right.
In the face of tragedy, what makes us believe in human nature and believe in people's hearts?
It's because we can feel more warmth around us.
There may be evil in the world, but it will always be washed away by good intentions.
Believing in goodness in one's heart and retaining goodwill is the greatest counterattack against the evil in the world.
I hope that all people, before becoming parents, learn how to become a person with goodness, love, and hope in their hearts.
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Parents Research Institute (ID: mama_cn), research on new knowledge of family education for 1-6 years old, is the mother's educational notes, is the father's baby guide, is the child's growth energy station. Please contact the Parents Institute for reproduction. Author: Kakashin + Chestnut.
Editing in this issue: Chestnuts