Whether it is a son or a daughter, only by nurturing with heart and nourishing with love can we cultivate an excellent child. - Le Dad
Author | Dumpling mom
Source | Parents have one lesson a day
My cousin was more than 8 months pregnant and was about to give birth soon.
During this time, she kept nagging in my ear:
"Sister, this child was born, if it is a boy, I must let him practice taekwondo and exercise his body to be strong;
If she were a girl, I would raise her as a princess, wear beautiful dresses, and do fashionable styling, so that I would take her out without mentioning Dora. ”
Many parents should say that in fact, there are indeed great differences in adopting children and daughters, especially in terms of personality, so parents need to spend more time on parenting.
Today, let's talk about: there are children in the family, how parents can raise them, in order to make the children more excellent and more likeable!
01
If there are boys in the family, they must raise three qi!
3 years old to raise the atmosphere
We all know that sharing is the glue and lubricant of friendship, but also a kind of life wisdom and philosophy, but also a kind of experience.
People who share often are always convenient for others and happy with themselves.
Especially for children, it is indeed a wonderful thing to share from elementary school.
I heard a friend say one thing:
Friends brought their 2-year-old daughter Yue Yue to play at home, may be similar in age, the son performed particularly well, the snacks and toys were distributed to Yue Yue, the two people are very playful.
But just when he was about to eat, my son put all the strawberries on the table into his own bowl, did not give any to Yue yue, and others came to take it, and he also pushed people very hard, which embarrassed me.
Indeed, for families with strict tutoring, sometimes the child's disrespect can put them in a deep position and think that they have not educated their children well.
But they do not know that when the child is 2 years old, their self-awareness has just awakened, and the exclusivity of things is very strong, so they do not have a sense of sharing at all, and basically they will not know the art of sharing until the age of 5.
Therefore, during this period, parents must give their children enough patience to guide their children to share.
Otherwise, if you miss this opportunity, it will be very unfavorable for children to interact with others, and naturally they will not experience the fun of being kind to others, and they will also leave others with an impression of being stingy and not getting along.
8 years old to nourish the guts
The importance of courage to success is self-evident, and children with courage and courage are always willing to challenge new things and will not hide behind their mothers and cry their noses;
Never shrink back in the middle of the way, as soon as they encounter difficulties, they will only keep running forward, never shouting tired.
Every time I talk to the mothers in the community, they will complain: "Our children are not generous at all, and when they see people, they hide behind me. ”
It may be because the child has too few opportunities to deal with the outside world, which is the result of this situation.
However, in this open society, it is really too important for children to build their own interpersonal circles.
If the child is too introverted and timid, the chances of suffering losses are much higher, and they will also lose their own opportunities, such as jobs and money.
And what is important is that they do not dare to take the initiative to pursue what they want, and they are content with the status quo and do nothing all their lives.
In this regard, parents can take their children out more, so that they have the opportunity to communicate with their partners and slowly open the door of their hearts.
Or when parents go out to buy vegetables and visit the supermarket, they can also let their children help choose food and exercise their communication skills with people.
12-year-old to cultivate ambition
As the old saying goes, "Hardships and hardships, Yuru Yucheng." ”
If you want your son to change from a boy to a real man, you must "strain his bones, sharpen his will, stand up to his self-confidence, and temper his physical strength."
In layman's terms, it means to suffer more, to suffer more, to be independent, and to persist.
1. Suffer more and suffer more.
Children who enjoy themselves are not necessarily successful, but successful people must suffer. Parents should know that from frugality to luxury, from luxury to frugality, if children are accustomed to enjoying a superior material life, they will be lazy to work hard and lose their fighting spirit.
Therefore, it doesn't matter if you suffer a little, the more you want to work hard, which helps their growth a lot.
2. Be independent and ambitious.
Today's children, go out to the school bag to the parents to carry, go home clothes to the parents to wash, completely do not have the ability to live at this age.
You know, as boys, you will have more challenges to accept when you grow up, and now these basic things will not be done, what can you do when you grow up and leave home?
02
There are girls in the family, and they must be three faces!
5-year-old smile
There are many good words about smiles, such as "a woman who loves to laugh is the best life", "people who love to laugh, luck will not be too bad", and "people who love to laugh are the most beautiful" and so on...
A famous foreign psychologist once said that a smile is synonymous with the best and most beautiful of a person, even if she does not have a good family background and ability.
The pressure of life is very large, we have to learn to release, especially as girls, psychological pressure may be slightly weaker than boys, then there is a need for a way to release pressure.
Therefore, parents must teach their children to smile from an early age, which can trigger feelings of happiness and dispel the haze.
And children who love to laugh will give those around them a feeling of youth, vitality and vitality.
Such children are not only more emotionally better off, but also broaden their interpersonal circles, break down barriers to bad relationships, promote emotional cohesion, and will be very popular with colleagues and leaders.
8 years old to be tolerant
If it is said that boys are "taking a step back from the sea and the sky, and being a non-contentious person", then girls are "not compared with the world, and be a tolerant person".
Everyone is special and will have their own character and thoughts, so it is inevitable that contradictions will occur when people interact with each other, even if they are relatives.
The difference is that because of the consistency of blood relations, after we argue with our families, we often laugh it off, and the contradictions with others will end up with an old and dead end.
But in life, there is no need to win or lose everything, and it is easier and happier to tolerate the mistakes made by others with a tolerant heart.
So, parents, please teach your children to learn to be tolerant and learn to forgive, which will open up a new situation in their lives.
Moreover, tolerance means understanding, is the catalyst of interpersonal relations, is the fastener of friendship bridges, tolerance can sometimes turn enemies into friends, and is very helpful for the development of society.
10-year-old grooming
"Three points of looks, seven points of dress", is not it said that a person should pay attention to his own appearance?
Of course, the dress mentioned here does not refer to how gorgeous the clothes to be worn, but to the clothes that are worn cleanly and in line with the identity, and the appropriate clothing.
We often say that a good grooming is a business card that a person shows to the world, and when people from the outside world are attracted to your business card, then you are one step closer to success.
Moreover, the child has a good appearance, which not only represents the good influence of the family atmosphere, but also a side interpretation of the parents' good upbringing.
Therefore, instead of spending a lot of money to let the child buy clothes and shoes, it is better to give her good appearance than a million wealth.
The famous educator Tao Xingzhi said:
"Training and educating people is the same as planting flowers and trees, first of all, we must understand the characteristics of flowers and trees, distinguish between different situations to fertilize, water and cultivate education, which is called 'teaching according to aptitude'."
Whether it is to raise a son or a daughter, as parents, we must be good enough to follow the heart, according to the different characteristics of the child, teach according to the aptitude, and be a good guide for the child.
Only in this way can children bathe in the love of their parents, go further and fly higher!
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