Wen | Purple Leaf Girl
Some people say that the essence of marriage is chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, in the face of sufficient materials, their marriage, perhaps so, they do not worry about eating and wearing, the days are lived step by step, if you feel flat, you can take your family to travel and relax.
However, this kind of day, for many couples at present, has become a luxury, marriage, for them, more bitter, more sour, sweet and bitter.
Living in the city of Wuhan, it has been the 8th year, Wuhan office workers have such a sentence, living in the Optics Valley, all year round, can not go to Hankou several times; living in Hankou, can not go to the Optics Valley several times a year;
Once the Valley of Light, the lights are dimmed, the traffic is busy, and now look again, after ten o'clock at night, how many people are still wandering in the Commercial Street of the Valley of Light;
What is the reason behind this situation?
Nine to six commuting, too much energy, are desperately running to earn money, to maintain a seemingly decent, but in fact a devastated city life, especially the 80s, 90s and young people, they not only have to face the pressure of housing, but also the pressure of raising children, let me ask, such a young couple, their marriage, is really simple chai rice oil and salt?
01 Without suffering from others, don't mention the word "easy"
Every family has a difficult scripture, which is a sentence that people can slowly read after marriage; secondly, there is a sentence of poor and lowly couples who mourn, husband and wife life, and whenever they are not rich, they are indispensable to quarrel;
Although there are no couples who do not quarrel, some couples quarrel and quarrel, and they divorce;
Today's marriage, compared with the past, in the past, every meal of cabbage and turnips can eat two or three bowls of rice, and now, it can be said that there is no meat and no joy.
The marriage of the poor, for the rich, has no money and cannot solve the problem; but what if you live at this level and cannot escape from this circle, you want to marry for a long time and be stable?
Writer Jane Austen wrote in Pride and Prejudice:
"Whether you can be happy in married life is entirely a matter of chance. A couple's temper before marriage is very thorough, or the temper is very similar, which does not guarantee that the two of them will be happy. They always get to the back and get farther and farther apart, annoying each other. Since you have to live with this person for the rest of your life, you had better try to understand his shortcomings as little as possible. ”
Admittedly, since you have become a husband and wife, you still have to grasp each other's shortcomings at all times, so why bother.
Some people say that marriage is to live with each other's shortcomings, love is to get along with each other's advantages, this sentence, not without reason, but ignored an important detail, since the shortcomings of the other party are known, the next marriage, how to get along.
02 A happy and long-term marriage requires long-term praise
"Three thousand weak waters, only take one scoop to drink, prosperous three thousand, only for one person to drink all sorrow and joy." A good marriage should be so,
In the face of bittersweet and bitter, couples living at the bottom, what to take to maintain the longevity of marriage?
Marriage is more inclined to spiritual pursuit; people often say that marriage is a safe haven, and when both parties marry, they must live and die together, share weal and woe, and comfort each other, only in this way can we find a little warmth in a cruel social environment.
Understand this, and then run a marriage, you will find that although life is hard, as long as you work hard, you may not be able to find happiness in suffering.
No one is perfect, everyone has shortcomings, but it cannot be denied that one person has no advantages at all; although marriage is bitter, even if it is denied by countless people, as long as the husband and wife are in the same heart, appreciate each other, praise each other more, and recognize each other, love will die, and marriage will always exist.
Between husband and wife, often praise each other, not only can enhance the feelings of husband and wife, but also increase a person's confidence; poor marriage, not afraid of the current difficulties and obstacles, afraid of losing the confidence to change their destiny,
In the face of suffering, once you confess your fate, it is difficult to turn over, if even your own pillow people do not recognize yourself, marriage, even if you choose to bow your head lowly, work hard and complain, you will eventually make the marriage go to a chicken feather, quarrel continuously.
Therefore, whether the marriage will be long-lasting, for couples living at the bottom, it is important to be recognized by the other party, do you agree with this view?