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How a woman's life will be lived is actually traceable.
People say: Planting melons to get melons, planting beans to get beans.
In this life, all the gains and losses are actually caused by cause and effect. What "cause" you have planted, you will inevitably taste the "fruit" one day in the future.
Therefore, whether a woman has a "good life" or a "bitter life" depends on what she has done.
Every woman hopes that she can be a person with a good life, born in a well-off family, enter a good company when she becomes an adult, meet a good person into marriage, and the two support each other to complete this life.
But in fact, what a woman looks like in the end of this life is by no means the arrangement of fate, but the result of her own efforts.
Jane Austen's novel Pride and Prejudice tells the story of the different lives of Mrs. Bennett's five daughters.
Women make different choices about life, and eventually will live different lives, if you want to know whether you are "fateful" or "fateful", you have to look at these three places:
Women with "love brains" often don't live this life well
Love is not the whole of a woman's life, many people understand this truth, but when they encounter love, they will still be dizzy, regardless of whether they marry each other.
Choosing the wrong person will affect your life, just like in Pride and Prejudice, Lydia is seduced by the lying Wickham, even if the man has spent all his property, he is still willing to elope with him, but her behavior not only harms herself, but also humiliates the entire family.
Women trapped in love are blind, and women should keep a clear head whether they are in love or not.
Don't be fooled by the man's rhetoric, don't listen to the man say how much he loves you, see what he is willing to do for you, the man who really loves you will be willing to pay for you.
Those women who remain rational in their feelings can screen out men who are really suitable for themselves, and those women who are "love brains" will often lower their bottom line again and again for men, and finally men will not cherish such women, and such women will eventually lose themselves.
Remind women not to completely lose themselves as soon as they fall in love, whether they are in love or not, women should have their own lives.
You should keep the center of gravity of your life, don't always revolve around men, have your own life, such a woman will be happy no matter who she marries.
And a woman who completely loses herself when it comes to love, and finally the man will feel that you are too clingy, and finally abandon you, and the focus of your life is all on the other party, once the other party withdraws from your life, you will feel like the sky has collapsed, losing the spiritual pillar, and living a muddy life.
Women with "good fate" do not blindly follow the opinions of others
From the very beginning, Mrs. Bennett instilled in her daughters the idea of fishing for a "golden turtle wife", as long as the other party had money, no matter what the other person's character was, they would go up to it with all their strength.
Mrs. Bennett and her daughters have been practicing this idea, but it is very cheap in the eyes of rich men.
So, Darcy initially refused to communicate too much because of their vulgar appearance.
But Elizabeth rejected this idea, and even though Darcy was very rich, Elizabeth could not look at Darcy's arrogant appearance.
She is only willing to marry like-minded people, not a rich man with money and no soul.
Elizabeth's difference made her stand out from the crowd of women, and Darcy's gaze stayed for her, not knowing that it was for her beauty, but also for her pure soul.
If Elizabeth had blindly followed her mother's and worldly views and pursued money and fame, she might have been lost to everyone.
But she chose to stick to her concept of love and not to go along with the world, and she finally waited for the prince charming who suited her best.
Stubbornness and prejudice can lead to many detours
Some people are able to let go of their prejudices and see a different world, while some people stubbornly hold their old views, saying that people laugh at the well and look at the sky.
People are easily blinded by a leaf, but people who understand how to let go of prejudice can take many detours and let go of their preconceptions in time to meet the right people.
Elizabeth and Darcy almost missed each other because of a misunderstanding, but fortunately, they both let go of their inner stubbornness and prejudice and finally came together.
Elizabeth thinks that Darcy is a man with high eyes and conceit, and Darcy also mistakenly believes that Elizabeth is as greedy for money as her sisters, but after the two have experienced various things, the misunderstanding is solved, which reveals that the original human prejudice is a mountain.
They are a good fit, and they can put aside their prejudices to see each other as they are.
In fact, there are still many such self-righteous times in our lives, and with this preconception, you will miss many of the scenery in life.
Originally, we could see the wider world, but because of the prejudice in our hearts, we chose to avoid seeing it, which is actually our own loss.
If you want to go longer and farther in life, you must learn to let go of prejudice and not to understand the world through the mouths of others.
Everyone's view of the world is different, we have to measure the world with our own footsteps, to see the world with our own eyes, and what we personally experience is the real world.
A sentence through the mouth of several people will change several layers of meaning, the same is true of people, everyone's attitude towards others is different, because others choose to miss this person with an evaluation, maybe what you miss is just your "right edge".
Only by letting go of their own prejudices can we truly understand others, let go of prejudices, and have more possibilities in life.
Time Emotion Classroom:
In this life, what is the fate of a woman, it is not the arrangement of fate, nor the giving of men, but the result of her own efforts.
As long as you have a clear understanding of yourself and life, and clearly know what you want, you can dominate your life and finally get what you want.
So women, if you feel that life at this moment is not what you want, don't complain about yourself, don't blame others, what you have to do is to examine yourself, to see if there is a problem with your own personality, whether it is wrong in the way you do things for people.
If you find the reason, you will be able to find the right way to live, so that your life can flourish.