Love is a kind of emotional psychological activity, couples will be sensitive to each other's every move in love, if you hesitate in front of love, it is likely to hinder the development of love between the two, but if you have a firm mentality in love, it will make the love relationship between the two lovers more stable.
In love, it is very important to have a firm mind, which represents both the person's self-confidence and the person's hope for the relationship between him and his lover.
In psychology, there is a famous "kicking cat effect", which refers to:
The chain reaction of venting dissatisfaction with someone who is weaker than oneself or whose rank is lower than oneself.
Applying the "kicking cat effect" in love, we can get such a revelation: in the face of love, we should have a firm mentality, when we have negative emotions due to external things, we must know how to resolve them in time, and we must not vent negative emotions on the lover, so as to doubt the love between the two people, thereby damaging the feelings between lovers.
First, don't doubt love because of the negative evaluation of others.
People who are not firm enough about love will always have doubts about love because of the gossip of others.
In the female writer Jane Austen's novel Pride and Prejudice, the love between Elizabeth and Darcy has been frustrated because Elizabeth has heard other people's negative evaluations of Darcy, which has prejudiced Darcy to make her doubt Her character.
Love is a matter of a person's heart, in a happy love relationship, we should rely on our own ideas to feel love, and firmly believe in their choice of love, only in this way, in order to harvest happiness in love.
A person who is firm in love will not doubt his choice because of the evaluation of outsiders, thus making the love relationship between him and his lover more stable.
Second, don't miss out on love because of a lack of self-confidence.
The act of not being confident enough in love is also a manifestation of not being firm enough about love.
In real life, we often see such a phenomenon, a person without self-confidence, even if he has the good feelings of the opposite sex, he still has no hope for the love relationship between the two because of self-doubt about "not being able to give each other happiness".
The writer Osamu Dazai said that cowards are afraid of happiness, hurt when they touch cotton, and sometimes hurt by happiness.
People who are not firm enough in love and lack self-confidence do not grasp the ability of love, and even if love comes to their side, they will rub shoulders with love.
Third, in love, there should be a firm mind.
When pursuing love, being able to maintain a firm attitude is a manifestation of self-confidence, and only those who have confidence in love can make lovers full of hope for the future between two people.
In real life, we will always see some couples who are not rich in life, only because they have a firm mentality in love, so they can spend the difficult years in life together and run the marriage life between each other prosperous.
In love, people with a firm mindset can bring a kind of strength to the partner, so that the partner is full of hope for the future life of the two, so as to make the love relationship between the two more stable.
The "kicking cat effect" in psychology tells us that negative emotions will spread, and when a person has negative emotions, he is likely to do something wrong in the absence of reason.
From a psychological point of view, in love, there is a firm mind, it is easier to harvest love, because he not only firmly believes that he can create happiness for his lover, but also firmly believes that there will be a good future between the two.
No one likes a person who hesitates in love and is not confident enough, and when pursuing love, he should know how to maintain a firm attitude.
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