Ye Shengtao said: "Education is the cultivation of habits. ”
One. What is education? In a simple sentence, it is to develop a good habit. Good habits form a person's self-discipline. Self-disciplined people will shape a good character, and your character will make your life.
1. The best time to form good habits in education is from kindergarten to primary school, that is, between 1 and 12 years old, why is it the best time to form habits in this period of time? Because from the time from toddler to teenager, they are like a blank piece of paper, plasticity and imitation are very strong. At this time, the most noteworthy and most difficult is companionship and teaching by example.
2. The best place for education begins at home and is supplemented by society (school). The growth of children is inseparable from the material support and ideological education of the residence and parents, and the time at home is also the longest, involving eating, drinking, and sleeping, and there are many learned experiences in all aspects. Forming good habits of eating, drinking and sleeping contributes to good health, and health is the cornerstone of people's pursuit of a better life.
Buffett said: "Habits are so light that they cannot be detected, and they are so heavy that they cannot break free." ”
Two. What are good habits? Originating from the bits and pieces of life, it is so subtle that it can no longer be subtle, and the journey of a thousand miles starts from the feet and accumulates sand into a tower. If there is a festival in life, there is good sleep and healthy health; self-reliance and self-love in learning, can consciously complete homework on time, read independently, have discriminating thinking, can use civilized language and behave appropriately with others, be friendly to relatives, classmates and love; keep order in behavior, emphasize public morality, help people's interactions to be more friendly and smooth, and avoid many right and wrong and positive conflicts.
Three. How to form good habits, day after day of behavior will form habits, and behavior is determined by people's inner way of thinking, that is, thoughts guide action. Think of our PLA soldiers, from eating, sleeping to daily exercises are orderly and uniform, and their achievements are also derived from the guidance of ideas and deliberate practice to achieve their fine style of being able to fight well and fight hard battles.
For adults with independent thinking and discernment, they can find their own thinking patterns from reading books, watching videos, or communicating with wise people, as long as they have enough in-depth experience and emotional understanding, they can improve their cognition, change their way of thinking, and have the opportunity to change their own behavior.
For children, because their thinking is not developed, it is impossible to think about problems and do things with height, breadth, or depth, and the best way to be a parent is to lead by example, imperceptibly, and moisturize and silent like spring rain. Educate people first to educate themselves, correct people first correct themselves, and only when they grow up first will they have the opportunity to tutor children to grow.
At the same time, the soil in which children grow is also very important. It is also a word that we are more hotly discussed now, called the original family, which is a metaphor for a good family style and a harmonious husband and wife relationship. Mutual respect for father-son, mother-daughter relationship. And the correct view of family education.
Good habits are quite depositive and are positive gains. It is an investment that is invisible but has a very considerable return, and will continue to improve people's quality of life and quality of life in the future. Bad habits are equivalent to debt, there are disputes, there are contradictions, there are conflicts, constant overdrafts, and it is not enough to make ends meet. Overdraft a life of overshoots. It is difficult for people to get up from the swamp, and it is impossible to appreciate the great rivers and mountains without the heart and weakness, and feel the bits and pieces of life.
Aristotle said, "Man's deeds are always repeated over and over again. Therefore, excellence is not a single act, but a habit."
Many parents are afraid of losing at the starting line, afraid of not being able to keep up with the pace of learning, and have no special skills. Always want to help your child when you have your own ability. If effective education is not carried out according to the laws of children's growth, it is often counterproductive. I very much agree with such a sentence, as a parent. It is to be friends with children, sincere attention and love to accompany, to ensure physical and mental safety, as for learning knowledge and skills, rest assured to the school and society. His true talent can be who he is.
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