In August 2019, an article titled "Chinese beauty CEO spent 500,000 yuan to the United States to buy a mixed-race daughter of 5 countries, and was criticized by netizens" was widely circulated online.
The beautiful CEO Ye Haiyang mentioned in the article also appeared in the public eye again, and netizens in the comment area launched a large discussion, and these people can be roughly divided into two categories.
One is to worry about whether the child will lack of security because of the lack of his father's company, and how should Ye Haiyang explain his father's problem to the child.
Another type of person scolds Ye Haiyang for being selfish and only caring about his own ideas, but not considering the lack of his father's company in the future growth life, which will be the regret of the child's life.
So, how is Ye Haiyang Mother and Child Ye Haiyang Mother and Child living now? Did she regret her decision? As a beautiful CEO with favorable conditions, why did you make the decision to buy sperm and have children?
The history of the strong woman's family
In 1988, Ye Haiyang was born into an ordinary family in Changchun, Jilin Province, and although she could not afford to be given more favorable conditions financially, she never suffered a loss.
Parents think that Ye Haiyang, as a girl, does not require much achievement, and hopes that she can be safe and secure and marry a good in-law family in the future.
And Ye Haiyang does not think so, she knows that the conditions at home are not good, but her parents still work hard to save money and use themselves to study and go to school, so they are very strict with themselves, whether it is study or life, they try not to let their parents worry.
From the beginning of The Ocean has a wish in his heart, when he works in the future, he must work hard to earn money to repay the hard work of his parents.
Unfortunately, the day did not go according to people's wishes, Ye Haiyang's family had some economic difficulties, she knew that her parents were not easy, and offered to quit school to work.
The parents were very relieved after listening to it, but they couldn't bear to watch the baby girl enter the society so early and work hard, followed in the footsteps of the couple, and did not want the child to think of himself as a life of doing nothing, so he did not agree to Ye Haiyang's request.
I thought that the family's difficulties would improve after this period of time, but I did not expect that the difficulties would increase, and my parents had no choice but to agree to Ye Haiyang's request to withdraw from school.
Ye Haiyang was actually relatively clear about the future plan, she knew that at that time, the southern economy was developing rapidly, especially in the Guangzhou area, and the future development space was very huge.
From the beginning of the poor small county to the bustling big city, it will gradually be divided by the social class, some people are intoxicated in the red and green ten mile ocean field, and some people will be disrupted by the fast-paced life.
Of course, there are also some people who can really stick to their original intentions and fight from scratch for their original dreams, and Ye Haiyang is a minority part.
In the process of seeking a job, Ye Haiyang found that the cosmetics industry was extremely hot in Guangzhou at that time, and she knew that she was Xiaobai in this regard, and if she wanted to break out of a career, she must first learn from the experience of others.
So after Ye Haiyang joined the cosmetics industry, she spent almost all her time to learn all aspects of knowledge, and she firmly believed that she would become a big boss in the future.
After coming to Guangzhou for a period of time, Ye Haiyang's vision gradually broadened, and his personality also underwent some changes, and he was alone and wandering outside, and he had long lost the weakness of a little girl and became a responsible "tomboy".
With Ye Haiyang's contact and understanding of the cosmetics industry, she found that there is still room for development in this industry in the future, and the profits are considerable.
With the experience she has accumulated now, she can already be independent, in the past two years, she has also saved a lot of savings, so she feels that it is time to start a fight, Ye Haiyang broke away and created a new brand on her own and started her own entrepreneurial road.
There will inevitably be many hardships on the road to entrepreneurship, but Ye Haiyang always thinks of his childhood wishes and feels that it is worth it to be tired and tired, and his parents were tired and tired, but they did not say a word, and they could do the same.
Gradually, Ye Haiyang's business has improved, the scale has begun to grow larger and larger, and finally fulfilled the wish of his childhood, so that his parents can live a quality life.
Ye Haiyang has indeed done it, and has become a successful person in the eyes of relatives and friends, but Ye Haiyang's parents are actually very clear in their hearts, a little girl becomes a big boss, how many hardships there are along the way, only she herself experiences the most.
It is precisely because of this that they have the idea of urging their daughter to find a boyfriend, but they are not in a hurry to hug their grandson, but they think that their daughter is not easy, with a boyfriend the two can help each other, the career can develop better, and she does not have to be so tired anymore.
Ye Haiyang's former classmates, as well as some of her peers, are mostly married and have children, like her, there are really not many people who put all their energy on their careers, and she is a strong woman who is alive and free.
However, Ye Haiyang has been pushing back after being asked by her parents to "urge marriage", she said: "I want to take advantage of my youth to work hard for a few more years, and let's talk about getting married." ”
Ye Haiyang's mother said with concern: "Mom knows that you have an idea when you are young, it is not that it is painful for you to work hard alone, if you have a boyfriend, the two can also help each other." ”
However, no matter how much his parents persuaded him, Ye Haiyang always found various excuses to shirk it, and his parents also understood that marriage was not something they could decide, and her daughter's reluctance to say more would not help.
In fact, Ye Haiyang did not envy the people around him who got married and had children, but he always had some scruples in his heart, and he also had other ideas because of this, but he had not thought about how to communicate with his parents.
Going overseas to "buy sperm and have children"
According to relevant surveys, in 1970, the proportion of women aged 30-40 in China was 1% unmarried, and by 2010, this proportion had expanded to 5%.
It is worth noting that China's population base has been growing in the past four decades, which means that the actual data is very different from the 1% in 1970 and the 1% in 2010.
This proportion is even more amazing in some first-tier large cities, and the proportion is very huge, is it because with the development of society, young women in China have become averse to marriage and fear of marriage?
In fact, the reason for this situation is that the divorce rate has risen all the way in recent years, and marital conflicts have become commonplace, and women are relatively weak when it comes to children.
In many divorce cases, children are sentenced to fathers with better financial conditions, so that the majority of women feel worthless for the pain they paid for their October pregnancy.
This phenomenon has made the majority of women fear of marriage and children, and the children born will be taken away by the father at will, and the mother of the child will end up with nothing.
More and more divorce disputes lead to not wanting to get married, easy to divorce, Ye Haiyang often thinks when he sees this kind of news, if you can not get married and have a child, how good it would be, so that you can save a lot of trouble.
Under this general trend, more and more women choose to donate sperm IVF, which is often referred to as "buying sperm and having children".
Ye Haiyang often pays attention to the news in this regard, but according to his understanding, the domestic sperm bank is not open to single women, which is a fact that is difficult to change.
Therefore, if you want to buy sperm and produce children, you can only go abroad to achieve it, which makes Ye Haiyang fall into a dilemma.
She would love to have a child herself, but if she goes abroad to find a solution, the child born will be of mixed race, can her parents accept it?
Ye Haiyang still decided to tell her parents what she thought, and surprisingly, her parents did not show great resistance after listening to it.
Just constantly telling Ye Haiyang that this is not a trivial matter, we must carefully consider it, and indeed with her current economic conditions, there is certainly no problem.
However, the lack of father's company in the future child's growth life will not affect the physical and mental development, which is a question that should be clearly considered.
Ye Haiyang also thought about this question raised by her parents, but she believed that raising her children was to cultivate them into independent personalities, strong wills and healthy psychology, which she was sure that she could accomplish alone.
Moreover, Ye Haiyang also firmly believes that he can give his children a sufficient sense of security and will not cause psychological defects due to the lack of his father's company.
The attitude of her parents gave Ye Haiyang great confidence, and she saw an article when she learned about IVF-related matters.
As early as 1994, several women in Jilin made a request not to marry, but want children, and this request was approved by Jilin Province.
Now that all the problems have been solved, Ye Haiyang began to contact foreign IVF agencies.
During this period, many friends learned about Ye Haiyang's IVF, and many people tried to dissuade her, hoping that she could reconsider.
However, the things that Ye Haiyang decided from childhood to adulthood would never change, no one could influence his thoughts, no matter how his friends persuaded Ye Haiyang, he still insisted on contacting the IVF institution.
Finally, in 2017, Ye Haiyang contacted the IVF agency and arranged the company's affairs properly, and went overseas alone.
After Ye Haiyang came to the IVF institution, he found that he could freely choose the various conditions of the donor, this kind of thing may be once in a lifetime, Ye Haiyang must choose carefully.
In the end, she chose to re-screen donors from ivy leagues (American college alliances, including Harvard, Yale, Columbia and other prestigious universities).
In terms of appearance, Ye Haiyang's requirements are white people's skin color, yellow hair and brown eyes, and after careful screening, there are still many left to choose.
Ye Haiyang added additional conditions to her cheerful personality, and after determining the type, she began to prepare according to the doctor's requirements.
Coincidentally, the information of the sperm donor who survived after all the conditions were met stated that he was a mixed-race child of four countries.
If you successfully combine with Ye Haiyang's eggs, then the child born is a mixed-race child of the Five Kingdoms, and it will definitely look very handsome, and you can't stop the excitement when you think of these Ye Haiyang.
When the doctor implanted the embryo for her, she did not use anesthesia, the whole person was awake, she stared at the instrument display screen on the side, and witnessed the whole process of successful implantation.
A white dot is seen in the leaf ocean in the display, that is, the embryo, and the doctor carefully pushes the embryo into the uterus.
When she saw that the little white dot was successfully pushed forward, Ye Haiyang unconsciously left two lines of tears in the corner of her eyes, and her dream for many years was finally realized, and she finally got pregnant as she wished.
After the successful implantation of the embryo, Ye Haiyang, who originally had a big grin, became cautious everywhere, afraid that if he did not pay attention, he would lose his hard-won happiness.
Like most pregnant mothers, Ye Haiyang will often search the Internet for some strange questions, and when there is any abnormality, he will think about whether it will have an impact on the fetus, and be careful everywhere.
Ye Haiyang's mood was not difficult to understand, it took a lot of energy to finally conceive a child, and he would definitely want to give the child the most meticulous love, afraid of something wrong.
The whole IVF from sperm selection to the final success of Ye Haiyang spent more than 500,000 yuan, which is somewhat difficult for ordinary people to understand.
But in Ye Haiyang's heart, all this effort was worth it, especially after seeing the moment after the birth of the child, she felt that she was the happiest person in the world.
Ye Haiyang gave her newborn daughter a nickname, Doris, and gave her best food and clothing, and she was eager to pour all her love into her daughter.
However, the originally happy and sweet life fell into a public opinion storm because Ye Haiyang went overseas to buy sperm and children.
"Widowed Parenting"
Pregnant women are very emotionally unstable in the postpartum period, which is why many pregnant women suffer from postpartum depression after childbirth.
Ye Haiyang was a big grinning person, and she didn't feel that feeling depressed after giving birth, but what she didn't expect was that trouble still came to the door.
Some photos and videos of Ye Haiyang originally recording the IVF process to the birth of his daughter have attracted the attention of the majority of netizens.
A stone stirred up thousands of waves, and Ye Haiyang's story attracted many negative comments after it spread on the Internet.
Many netizens have reprimanded Ye Haiyang for being too selfish, just for the idea of being a mother in the garden himself, he will ignore the long-term development of the child in the future and give birth to his daughter, and the child who lacks the father's love will definitely have more or less psychological defects.
What's more, Ye Haiyang did this just to put on a show, but in fact, it was to advertise her own cosmetics brand, and now after she exploded on the Internet, the cosmetics brand she founded was also well known to people.
These negative comments are like boulders falling from the sky, pressing Ye Haiyang a little hard to breathe, she does not understand why someone would be so malicious, she just wants to have a child, want to become a mother, what is wrong with this?
During that time, Ye Haiyang would often secretly wipe away tears, but every time she saw her daughter's innocent smile, she felt that she cared too much about other people's eyes, so why bother with what others said, it would be better to be herself.
Ye Haiyang thought about it for a moment, he had said that he would definitely give his daughter a sense of security, and now there was a lot of criticism outside, and he should stand up and protect his daughter behind him.
Ye Haiyang finally responded positively to many negative comments: "I gave birth to a child myself, we live our lives behind closed doors, and we have not harassed other people in society, and I am trying to give her the love of a mother and father, I do not feel that I am selfish, I am doing it in women, I am trying to live, is this also called I am selfish? ”
Ye Haiyang finally came out of the shadows, she no longer cared about the opinions of others, as long as her daughter can be healthy and safe, then she is happy.
As for the question raised by some netizens about "how to explain her father to her daughter in the future", Ye Haiyang has also thought about it.
She also took her daughter to take a photo, in which Doris stood in a watermelon peel, while Ye Haiyang had a piece of watermelon peel on his head, and the two had many watermelon seeds attached to them.
Ye Haiyang said half-jokingly that in the future, if her daughter asked where her father was, she would tell her daughter that she had jumped out of the watermelon.
In fact, Ye Haiyang recorded all of her daily life from waiting to be pregnant to having a child, including herself and her daughter, and when her daughter grew up, she would share it with her daughter and tell her daughter the truth of the facts.
She believes that her daughter can understand her approach, because she has given Doris all her love, being a father and a mother, taking care of her daughter's diet and living, and keeping all dangers behind her.
And her biggest wish is that when her daughter grows up, she can say to her: "Daddy, Mommy, hard work!" ”
Because Doris's genes are very good, she learned to walk before she was one year old, and when she was just over a year old, she began to run around the ground, and her learning ability was very strong.
However, Ye Haiyang could not accompany Doris all the time, she still had the company's affairs to deal with, and the big company could not be leaderless.
Ye Haiyang often needs to travel, at which time Doris will be left to his grandmother's care, and as Doris grows up, many interesting things happen between mother and daughter.
Once, Ye Haiyang had not returned home for more than a month because of work matters, and after being busy with the things at hand, Ye Haiyang flew back to Changchun overnight.
After returning to the community, Ye Haiyang did not want to be idle for a moment, and he was eager to immediately park the car in the basement, and then rushed upstairs to hold his daughter in a circle.
However, when she descended to the basement, she found a little girl standing in front of her, waving her little hand excitedly, and it was her daughter Doris.
At that moment, Ye Haiyang's heart was warmed, how could there be such a cute little angel, her daughter was the best gift god gave her.
There are warm moments in the days of getting along, and there are also times when they are mad, and Ye Haiyang's temperament itself is a little anxious.
Once she went out to get a glass of water, and when she came back, she saw Doris fiddling with her computer, and she thought happily that the little guy would play with the computer at such a young age.
But when she saw the computer screen she was stunned, the computer was entering the recovery interface, Doris may not know what to click on, deleted the files in the computer.
In an instant, Ye Haiyang's anger came up, but she knew that she could not use violence to teach children, so she was very frustrated and fiddled with the computer, hoping to send it to the repair shop and restore the documents.
At this time, Doris suddenly came over, and the childish little mouth "snapped" at Ye Haiyang's face, and Ye Haiyang instantly smiled and opened his eyebrows, and all his troubles disappeared.
There was even some self-blame in my heart, I almost threw a tantrum at my daughter because of this matter, but fortunately reason had the upper hand, so I didn't do something stupid.
After Doris grew up, Ye Haiyang would occasionally take her on business trips, and during the period, there was also an incident that almost made Ye Haiyang regret it.
After all, Ye Haiyang is a mother for the first time, and she will inadvertently fall into the blind spot, she does not know that children can not swallow the fruit directly, and directly fed Doris a plum.
Just when the mother and son were opening a video with their mother, seeing this scene could make Doris's grandmother anxious, and hurriedly asked Ye Haiyang to take the plum in Doris's hand away.
Fortunately, Doris was not choked during the swallowing process, when Ye Haiyang realized that the child had to eat fruit to get the fruit and dig it up with a spoon.
Today, Doris has grown up happily under the careful care of Ye Haiyang, and she often takes her daughter to travel, taste various foods, and accompany her in all ways.
Ye Haiyang also often shares his daily life with his daughter on social platforms, and with the passage of time, the voices that questioned the original gradually disappeared, replaced by netizens' understanding and support for this single mother.
Everything is moving in a better direction, Ye Haiyang came up with the idea of having a second child, of course, in addition to "reporting" to her mother, she also asked for the advice of her daughter Doris, who was very supportive of this and wanted a little sister.
Family, friends and netizens gave Ye Haiyang a lot of courage, she finally made up her mind to go to Russia for the second artificial conception, with the first experience, this time Ye Haiyang is a light car familiar with the road, the whole process is very smooth.
On May 26, 2021, Ye Haiyang posted a video on Weibo that documented ye Haiyang's entire flight to Russia for embryo transfer again, and when she witnessed the fertilized egg implantation process again, she was as excited as the last time.
However, compared with the last time, she has more courage in her heart and more confidence in parenting, as a woman, Ye Haiyang bravely broke through the shackles of the world, which is undoubtedly admirable.
The story of Ye Haiyang also reflects some problems, more and more single women choose IVF to buy sperm, which is a problem that deserves attention and should be paid attention to.
Finally, I wish Ye Haiyang's young daughter a healthy and smooth birth in 2022, and I also hope that the majority of women in the new era can brave the eyes of the world and bravely move forward towards their own pursuits.