Text/Little Snow Mom
After the baby is born, many parents now have no time to go to work, so the elderly have gradually become the "main force" with the baby, but pay attention to the side, we can find that it seems that the phenomenon of the child's grandmother before the age of 3 is more and more, and after the child is 3 years old, the grandmother takes over from the grandmother's mobile phone.
What's going on in this situation? Who will take the child before and after the age of 3, and what is the impact on the child and the elderly? Let's talk about it.
Grandma took the baby to 3 years old, and Grandma gave "cut the beard"
Cousin pregnant that will, brother-in-law in the company just promoted to the supervisor, the company's affairs are particularly busy, worried that after the birth of the child no one to take care of, the second trimester of pregnancy to consider who will come to help.
The cousin actually wants her mother to help in her heart, after all, it is the person who knows herself best, so she communicated with her mother during pregnancy, and the old man was also distressed about her daughter, considering that it was the daughter who needed her time the most, so she agreed to help her daughter.
During confinement, because it is his own mother to take care of, from the confinement meal to the care of the child, the cousin is particularly well taken care of, the child is also helped to bring, the cousin feels that she is very lucky, there is a mother who loves her so much.
Three years have passed, the child is three years old and should go to kindergarten, because most of the time in life is the grandmother to accompany themselves, the cousin's child and the grandmother have a very good relationship, it can be said that the first important person in the heart is the mother, the second important person is the grandmother, the old man is also happy to enjoy it.
Later, the cousin-in-law considered that the child and the grandmother had less time together, so he often proposed to take the child back to the grandmother's house to live for a period of time, after all, they were the elders of the child, and the child's grandmother also said that she thought about the child a lot.
Don't want the child to live in the grandmother's house for a period of time, they are not willing to live, shouting to think of "grandma", the couple is very embarrassed, the grandmother is not comfortable in her heart, after going back, the family also made a lot of contradictions.
The child's grandmother is also a reasonable person, so she took the initiative to propose to her cousin to let the child's grandmother come to help, after all, they are the child's relatives, there is no need to make a family disharmony, as long as the child can still remember his own good.
In fact, in real life, there are still many such cases, before the age of three, the child's grandmother belt, after the age of three, the grandmother cut the beard belt, and the purpose of this is actually more wise for the grandmother.
Why did Grandma quit the "main force" with the baby after the age of 3?
On the one hand, Grandma is more distressed about her daughter
Grandma is willing to help take care of confinement with children, from the bottom of her heart, more is the heartache of their daughters, after all, grandma and grandma are not the same, grandma is more inclined to take care of children, thus ignoring the feelings of the daughter-in-law, and grandma can better understand the daughter's mother's not easy, so taking care of the daughter is to let the daughter be better recuperated.
On the other hand, I am worried that my daughter and mother-in-law will not be at odds
For many families, the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law during the confinement period is normal, because the contradictions caused by the difference in living diet, living habits, parenting concepts, and consumption concepts are too much, and the postpartum mother itself is not suitable for emotional fluctuations, if the mother-in-law contradiction is serious, the mother-in-law is tired and does not say that it is not good to rest.
And the grandmother's advantage in this regard is relatively large, her daughter's temper is the most clear, the mother and daughter get along with each other, the contradiction is small, and even if there is a problem, the mother and daughter do not have an overnight vendetta.
The first three years of the child is more difficult to bring, wait until three years have passed the child also slowly grown up, this time the grandmother will also think that the child should be close to the grandmother, otherwise it is easy to hurt the two families and the family, the child's grandmother can also remember the mother's family's efforts, the attitude towards their daughter will be better, can be described as well-intentioned.
Who comes to help with the child, in fact, more consideration is given to the reality of the situation
Now young parents are busy at work, the child does need someone to help bring, the person who helps is the child's grandparents, or grandparents, in fact, more are considering the actual reasons.
First, there is no time, the party is not convenient
Want the elderly to help with the baby, sometimes also depend on the two sides of the elderly who has more time, like some elders are still working, not fully retired, or that there are brothers and sisters in the family need help, one side of the elderly may not be able to free up, in this case can only consider the other side of the elderly to help, this is also no way to do things.
Second, the old man's body is not suitable
Taking care of children is a very tiring thing, it takes time and energy, children also need to see whether the body of the elderly is suitable, if the elderly are in good health and the reasons to help, it can naturally help a lot, but if the elderly are not very good, not suitable for too much work, then try to forget it, don't take care of the children, but also the elderly are tired, then the busy is still young people.
Third, look at the will of the elderly
The vast majority of the elderly still love their children and are willing to help, but there are also a very small number of elderly people who may prefer to make money, or are not willing to take children, this situation is not nothing, forced to not come, but also to fully consider the actual factors.
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