Some college students fall in love to complete the tasks assigned by their parents;
Some college students fall in love because others have talked;
Some college students who don't fall in love are timid;
Some college students don't fall in love because they won't;
The parents of the boys said: Now there are no girls of the right age left in the radius of dozens of miles, let the children talk about a girlfriend at school, when it comes to college graduation, there is no action, the favorite thing is still holding the mobile phone to brush videos, play games!
The girl's parents said: She said that she would do part-time work during the holidays and would not come back during the holidays. Also sent a photo of a part-time girl, and later contacted the counselor to say that she did not do part-time work at all, contacted the girl to say that she was not with the child, I heard that it was in love! It is said that on national day, I went to Xi'an with my classmates for a few days, and I did not say whether I was a male classmate or a female classmate, and it was too worrying to raise a girl.
First, college students' views on love
Classmate 1 asked: I have been in contact with my other half for almost four months, why do I still think about her? What is the problem? How to adjust?
Classmate 2 said: Falling in love is not a simple thing. While treating love emotionally, college students should learn to analyze love rationally and fall in love in the right way. To put it simply, it is necessary not only to understand the "Tao", but also to have "techniques".
Classmate 3 said: The law of homogeneous attraction, what kind of partner you want, start with self-improvement.
Classmate 4 said: Don't fall in love for the sake of falling in love, true love is to exchange trust for trust!
Classmate 5 said: The essence of love is to consciously take responsibility and learn to correct the correct concept of love.
Classmate 6 said: Two-way rushing is meaningful, premature intimacy is not necessarily love, learn to distinguish!
At present, China's junior high school students are studying hard, and after entering their ideal university, they believe that their goals have been achieved. Some colleges have a loose pace of study, prompting college students to have the time and energy to find things they like to do, including studying, playing, and falling in love. College students have different family backgrounds, exercise opportunities, outlook on life and values, which lead to their sense of responsibility and moral concepts in love are completely different.
Second, the psychological characteristics of college students in love
1) Strong autonomy
College students treat love, have a prominent personality, attach importance to their own feelings, are impulsive, and generally do not seek the opinions of parents of both men and women in love.
2) The love motivation is simple
Many Chinese college students in love do not consider future employment, housing, graduate school or life, but just want to fall in love.
3) Weak self-control and resistance to setbacks
Couples in love are often unable to grasp and control their actual psychological or emotional behavior in love, and may do things that hurt each other. If a relationship is frustrated, it may have a serious impact on their learning and life and psychology.
4) Immature and unstable
Some lower grades have begun to prepare for love is no longer an isolated phenomenon; due to their shallow social practice experience, simple thinking, and lack of determination of life goals, this also causes them to be simple, naïve and immature in their treatment of college love problems.
5) Blind pursuit of love first
Some students in school put how to maintain marriage and love in the first place, and how to negotiate a good relationship as the first task in life! Once they encounter a setback in love, they will have a lot of negative disappointment, these students can not handle the relationship between love and learning and waste time, energy leads to a significant decline in academic performance, resulting in anxiety, and then cause these students to have emotional irritability.
Some students have only "two-person worlds" because they are in love, and they are separated from the class group, which seriously affects normal interpersonal communication.
Third, how to fall in love correctly
1) Correctly understand love and correct the concept of love. Love is two feelings of mutual pleasure, affection, is a natural flow, integrated into one.
2) Learn to build a solid foundation for love. Cultivating and developing a view of love should be based on a correct outlook on life and values. With such a foundation, love and love can be solid.
3) Establish lofty ideals and enhance the realm of love. As the saying goes: in the spring, a plane tree will be planted, attracting a golden phoenix. Firm belief, good interests and hobbies should serve lofty ideals and aspirations in life.
4) Solidly learn cultural expertise and consolidate the foundation of life. Consolidate the culture and expertise of the university and lay a good foundation for love. These are also conducive to the start and promotion of college students' careers, and are conducive to the happiness and harmony of future families.
5) Take the initiative to learn the psychology of love, and when you encounter setbacks and pains that cannot be shaken off, help from a psychological counselor. (Editor-in-Charge: Zhao Yubin)
Tong Zhaojing, a national second-level psychological counselor, doctor, postdoctoral fellow, associate professor, master tutor, has long been engaged in mental health education, psychological disorder treatment, counseling and counseling, group training and lectures of universities, primary and secondary schools, enterprises and institutions.
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