After retirement, don't go back to your old employer.
Everything you experience exists only in your memory and has nothing to do with other people, and these reasons are also very realistic. ：
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People go tea cold.
A unit is a "camp", which is called "a battalion of iron, a soldier of flowing water." "Whoever goes is the same, it still has to work."
Before retirement, it is "a turnip and a pit", in a certain position, there are corresponding responsibilities, obligations and powers, and it will interact and communicate with leaders and colleagues because of the division of labor and cooperation.
Whether it is obedience and obedience between superiors and subordinates, or mutual cooperation between peers, they all arise from the post and should disappear from the post. To put it bluntly, it is the collusion and dispute of interests.
Everyone is actually wearing a mask and maintaining a relationship with colleagues. Leaders are deliberately majestic, subordinates are deliberately stubborn, and discriminate according to status, which has become a knee-jerk reaction of people in the workplace.
Truly appreciating a person, being impressed by his outstanding talent and noble character, such a sympathy is very rare.
Therefore, between colleagues, there is only the exchange of interests, only the use and being used, there is little sincerity, and it is impossible to develop into friends.
In the professional career of each master and doing his own way, being able to do his duty well and not sin against others or be offended by others is a very clever practice.
To retire, it means to withdraw from this game of interests, and there are no resources in the hands for the exchange of interests, from leaders to colleagues, the first time to treat you as an "outsider". All your glory, all your misery, has become a yellow flower of tomorrow, and you can't go back to yesterday, and you can't go to the future.
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It's not fun to ask for yourself.
People of different generations have different feelings for work.
For people in the 1950s and 1960s, it was the honor of the whole family to have a formal job and eat "national food". If it is assigned to a unit that can wear a uniform, every time you go back to your hometown, as long as you wear this uniform, passers-by will cast an envious look.
The sense of glory brought by work naturally gives birth to a sense of responsibility and mission in work. Even if the conditions are difficult and the work is busy, there will be no complaints, just to do every work to the extreme and perfectly.
My great uncle is an old teacher, when he was teaching, every time he printed examination papers for students, he first used wax paper to paste on an iron plate and carve it, and then on a roller mimeograph machine, mimeographed on a blank piece of paper.
Although the hands are stained with ink from time to time, the sense of satisfaction and happiness that can help students improve their grades is also often nagged by the uncle.
After retirement, uncle will also go back to school every year to have a look. He said that the campus is getting more and more beautiful, and the teaching conditions of the teachers have improved a lot, and there is no longer a need to print test papers with ink.
But the teachers no longer seem to treat the students as much as their generation, and they are eager to help the children jump out of the "farm door".
In Uncle Da's view, this is actually a manifestation of "irresponsibility". It's just that the students who were once his students already have a different point of view from him, and he always wants to say something, but he feels that he can't open his mouth.
After retirement, the original unit must have also had new developments, these completely different measures from the past, and even the negation and correction of some views and measures in the past, are not something that every old employee can accept and fully understand. Instead of witnessing it with your own eyes and touching the scenery, it is better to "see it as pure." ”
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Psychological gap.
"Seeing others is not good" is the most obvious weakness in human nature.
After retirement, the heart is not hindered, and everywhere he goes, he smiles and smiles, which naturally makes people envious.
Of course, some people have no lack of show-off, and every time they return to their original units, they want to send a signal: "I have finally lived a good life of money and leisure." ”
No matter whose office door is pushed open, they greet each other warmly and greet the latest situation. And others, out of courtesy, brought tea and poured water to give up their seats, accompanied by a few words of greeting.
As a person who came over, he also told them to "do a good job and work hard." ”
As everyone knows, people who are still at work hate being preached the most. Because the other party is a "person who came over", his embarrassing situation seems to be unobstructed, and if he wants to preserve the most basic decency, he has "nowhere to hide".
Another situation is to make yourself feel a huge gap. For example, the former subordinates have been transformed into the main responsible persons, posing as a commanding posture, and the polite words are filled with endless indifference and alienation.
Or, some of the practices advocated when they were "in charge" have now disappeared, and even used as negative "teaching materials", and everyone is secretive, such a scene will only make people feel boundless loneliness and disappointment.
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Conclusion:
After retirement, learn to turn the page of the past, minimize contact with colleagues in previous jobs, and never return to your original unit.
You must understand that the era that belongs to you has passed, and you have to quietly leave with these stories, which is the best respect and fulfillment for future generations.
Author: Like the wind is light as a cloud.
Your happiness, my blessings.
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