"The child is still young, you don't bother with him"
"What to do with a child"
"He's only 4 years old and knows something"
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In life, many parents rarely criticize and educate their children when they make mistakes, and can even find ten thousand reasons to defend their children, and even bite others.
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I once saw such a post on the Internet:
A child came to the family, and when people did not pay attention to pour mineral water on the piano, the landlord was angry and distressed. But The bear's parents said with a straight face: "He is still a child, he does not understand things, you don't want to see him in general."
Later, in the mall, the kid poured Coke on a grand piano worth six hundred and eighty thousand. The mall staff gave two solutions, either the parents of the children bought the piano or paid thirty percent.
Even thirty percent, you have to compensate nearly two hundred thousand, so casually dumped, you dumped a car out. I don't know if the parent can still say it now, the child is small, don't worry about him.
Good habits are not necessarily passed down, but bad habits are often inherited. If you indulge your children today, tomorrow the society will educate them for you!
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On a bus in Changsha, a woman asked a boy to grab a handle and practice the hoop. After being dissuaded by the driver, the woman angrily shouted: "Shut up your ass" and yelled at the driver: "I hang like this every day, you have an opinion, you are sick!" And called to complain to the driver, who parked the car on the side of the road for safety reasons.
In fact, when he heard the driver's persuasion, the child seemed to have realized his mistake and obediently sat down. Even if the woman tossed him and continued to hang him later, the child was very reluctant.
Originally a good child, it is a pity to meet such an ignorant adult, I really do not know whether it will be taken crooked in the future!
Kotaro Isaka wrote in "A Serenade": "It is terrible to think that parents do not have to go through exams. ”
Parents are the roots, children are the fruits. If something goes wrong with the child, the parent must have the answer.
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At Shanghai Disneyland, a young woman is touched on the butt by an 8-year-old boy. The woman said a few words to the boy, and as a result, she was pushed and abused by the three parents of the boy. The boy's mother even said, "If you touch it, you've never touched your ass?" ”
Originally a very small dispute, the parents gently apologized, and it was able to end there.
But the parents are forced to fight the world for their son, and she has not thought that because of her indiscriminate protection and discipline, it is likely that there will be the next time the child touches the buttocks.
You think you're not going to let your child be wronged, but your laissez-faire may be harming the next generation.
Every child is born with a blank piece of paper, and whatever color the parents paint, the child looks like.
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I once saw a spit on the Internet, and after reading it, the whole person of the security jun was not good. In our cognition, children have always been simple and kind, but this is not the case, and the malice of many children will make you feel creepy after watching it!
The content of the spit is roughly as follows: a girl's sister-in-law was more than four months pregnant, and the bear child of the relative's family came as a guest, and suddenly pushed the pregnant woman from behind, and the pregnant woman lost her center of gravity and fell forward, fortunately, she was supported in time, so she did not fall to the ground.
When asked why he did this, the child was still leisurely snacking and said disapprovingly: "I watched a pregnant woman on TV and had a miscarriage if she fell, and I wanted to see if she would also have a miscarriage." ”
The girl who heard this broke out on the spot...
Every child is an explorer and is willing to explore the unknown world, but curiosity must also have a degree, while protecting his safety, but also to help him establish a concept of right and wrong, do not let the child because of a little curiosity, be bold and domineering, do a lot of things out of the ordinary!
We protect the child, not only to protect his body, not only to protect him, not to let him get hurt, not to let him be beaten, we should protect his quality, the quality of a child, is deeply affected by the parents, if his curiosity has crossed the line, into doing bad things, it really can only show that you have not taught well!
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Do not let evil go unchecked. Parents should learn to say no to their children and not neglect their children's education because it is just a "prank" for their children. On some issues involving the cultivation of habits and respect for others, public behavior and other moral qualities can not be "compromised" to the child, "compromise" once the child will repeat the same trick next time, or even intensify.
Children can not understand? Shouldn't you bother with your children? However, it is precisely because it is a child that it is a matter of calculation! Today you forgive the child's mistakes, tomorrow the child can become a demon!
Sometimes, it is the forgiveness and indifference of adults that allow children to have the confidence to constantly become bears, do things, go out of line each time, and finally escalate into a bigger disaster.
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So how should parents educate their children?
1. First of all, we should pay attention to communication with the child, stop it in time when the child makes mistakes, and use the right way to make the child realize the mistake, can not let the child feel indifferent, in the face of the mistake must be serious and correct, so that the child fundamentally understands the truth.
2. Parents should lead by example and start with themselves. Be helpful, but do not cause trouble to others, and try not to make uncivilized habits in public and cause trouble to others. Only when parents take the lead in setting a good example can children stay away from adverse influences and avoid bad things in their children.
3. Popularizing various safety education to children is not only conducive to protecting children themselves, but also avoiding children from causing harm to others due to ignorance, and even children can use their own knowledge to help others.
Every child, like a young tree, if he is repeatedly indulged in and sheltered, just like blindly fertilizing and watering the tree, then the branches of the tree will grow and stretch out haphazardly.
Although countering violence with violence is not worth advocating, some children do deserve to be disciplined. Only by teaching children to distinguish between right and wrong, have the courage to admit mistakes, sprinkle medicine on this small tree to catch insects, and trim it moderately, can we make it vibrant and flourishing.
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