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Eleven Niang and Xu Lingyi met for the first time, when Eleven Niang was urgently recalled to Luo Mansion by Mrs. Luo.
After a day of shaky carriage rides, boats and carriages, eleven women and a group of people ready to find an inn to stay.
As a result, in the inn, Eleven Niang is kidnapped by the pirate Jiang Huai, who prepares to use Eleven Niang as a hostage to help him escape.
However, Xu Lingyi's personal bodyguard Linbo was ordered by Xu Lingyi to capture the pirates, and he refused to easily let go of the thieves sent to the door.
Under the confrontation between the two sides, Jiang Huai held Eleven Niang hostage on the bridge, and at this moment, Xu Lingyi came to the rescue.
Eleven Niang took the opportunity to stab Jiang Huai's hand with an embroidery needle, Jiang Huai let go of Eleven Niang in pain, Xu Lingyi took the opportunity to shoot Jiang Huai, and Jiang Huai pulled Eleven Niang into the water with him when he fell from the bridge.
After Eleven Niang fell into the water, Xu Lingyi hurriedly jumped into the water to save her, and when Xu Lingyi was holding up Eleven Niang, who had fallen into a coma in the water, the pirate secret file hidden under the water stabbed Xu Lingyi.
Xu Lingyi endured the pain and sent Eleven Niang to the surface, at this time Lin Shixian (whose real identity is Ou Yanxing), who was leisurely taking a boat to watch the scenery, incidentally took over the injured Eleven Niang and was responsible for sending her back to the inn, and Xu Lingyi silently went back to bandage the wound after seeing that Eleven Niang was safe.
During the whole process, because Eleven Niang had been in a coma, she did not remember that it was Xu Lingyi who really saved her from the water after she woke up.
As for Xu Lingyi, when Linbo asked him: "Why didn't Hou Ye let me explain clearly, you obviously wanted to save people who were injured, but they only remembered that you shot an arrow. ”
Xu Lingyi replied: "Because we failed to act, we let them be in distress and frightened, and they were safe and sound, which is already a great fortune for me." ”
Xu Lingyi said only a few words, which made people see through him as a man who was cold on the outside and hot on the inside, and looked cold and ruthless on the surface, but in fact, he was sincere and kind to people and did not like to shout and take credit.
Such a man has great affection and righteousness in his bones, but because of his light and arrogant nature, it is easy for people to misunderstand his good intentions.
After the eleventh lady married Xu Lingyi, the reason why she did not have a good feeling for him at first was because she misunderstood Xu Lingyi too deeply.
Because Xu Lingyi did not explain to Eleven Niang his life-saving grace to her, When Eleven Niang woke up, she thought that it was Lin Shixian who saved herself.
Coupled with Holly complaining on the side: "I have never seen such a hasty death of an official, when the young lady was still in the hands of thieves, they directly released the arrow, if the arrow is slightly crooked, then the young lady you ... (Dead set). ”
After Holly said this, Eleven Niang also felt that Xu Lingyi was a cold and heartless man.
Here it really hurts Xu Lingyi for three seconds.
Obviously, I have done a good deed but because I am unwilling to say it, it makes people misunderstand their own good intentions.
This point is actually a big taboo in the relationship between husband and wife, and I will talk about it next.
Eleven Niang mistakenly thought that Lin Shixian had rescued herself from the water, so she took the initiative to go to Lin Shixian to thank her.
However, Lin Shixian took the initiative to confess that there was someone else who saved Eleven Niang, and he only assisted from the side.
Lin Shixian does not pretend to take the kindness of others, and from this point, it can be seen that Lin Shixian is also a kind and principled man after all.
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In the later plot, Xu Lingyi and Lin Shixian both have a heart for Eleven Niang, but who Will Eleven Niang choose, perhaps in this falling water incident has already laid the groundwork.
First of all, from the order of appearance, in love, the order of appearance is very important.
The first person to meet Eleven Niang was Xu Lingyi, and it was Xu Lingyi who really saved Eleven Niang.
From the perspective of fate, although Lin Shixian is also very kind and excellent, but because he appeared too late, so in this relationship with Eleven Niang, his fate with her is too shallow, even if Lin Shixian later deeply loved Eleven Niang, but he is destined to miss her forever.
From the perspective of saving people, the one who really saved Eleven Niang was Xu Lingyi, and Lin Shixian only took a hand in it.
This is actually a metaphor for Lin Shixian' just being a passer-by in the life of Eleventh Niang, perhaps they once had a good feeling for each other, but Xu Lingyi really saved Eleven Niang, so he is the real official of Eleven Niang.
Speaking of official mates, I suddenly thought of an interesting story: a long time ago, there was a scholar who met a young lady on the way to the exam, the two fell in love at first sight, and finally made a private lifelong appointment, and if the student returned from the exam, he would propose to the house.
However, when the scholar returned from the championship, the young lady married someone else, and the scholar could not afford to be ill from then on, and he was going to drive to the west of the crane.
At this time, a monk passed in front of his door, heard about this, and felt a mirror from his arms for the student to see.
The student saw a murdered woman lying naked on the beach in the mirror.
At this time, a person walked over, he looked at it and shook his head and left. Another man came over, took off his green shirt and covered the woman, and left; the scholar was surprised to find that it was him, and the monk asked him to look again, and the third man came over, dug a pit in the sand, and carefully buried the woman.
The monk said: The woman who died on the beach is the lady's past life. You are the second person to pass by, you have given her a dress, and she loves you in this life, just to return your affection. But the person she wanted to repay for a lifetime was the last one who buried her.
Perhaps Lin Shixian was the one who had given Eleven Niang a piece of clothing in his previous life, and Xu Lingyi was the one who buried him in his previous life.
Therefore, the eleventh lady really wants to repay and marry Xu Lingyi.
This also corresponds to the fact that Xu Lingyi in the play is the benefactor behind the real rescue of Eleven Niang.
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Finally, I must say that Xu Lingyi's falling into the water incident also exposed a big taboo in his husband and wife relationship.
It is that he likes to do good deeds behind his back without leaving a name, and other scenes are good or bad, but in marriage, I think this is a big taboo.
If two people really love each other, doing something good for each other should let each other know, rather than silently hiding, in the long run it is easy to have emotional contradictions.
In the later plot, the reason why Eleven Niang was prejudiced against Xu Lingyi at the beginning was not because he liked to be silently good to Eleven Niang, but did not take the initiative to inform Eleven Niang, but as a result, Eleven Niang misunderstood him.
Therefore, it is necessary for husband and wife to communicate frankly and be good to each other.
For a counterexample, recently in the brush "Know It or Not", seeing the feelings between Gu Tingye and Minglan triggered a little thinking for me, Gu Tingye cares a lot about Minglan in his heart, and does not like Minglan to give him a concubine, which will make Gu Tingye feel that Minglan does not love him enough.
However, Gu Tingye did not explain to Minglan this opinion in his heart about Minglan, and had to choose to use the cold war anger to express his dissatisfaction with Minglan.
As a result, Minglan was completely confused, not knowing what he had provoked Gu Tingye, causing the contradiction between the two people to become deeper and deeper.
Therefore, if there is anything that makes each other dissatisfied or unpleasant, couples can take the initiative to communicate with each other to solve it instead of sullen in their hearts and compete with each other in a cold war way, which is extremely emotionally draining.
In the same way, do something good for the other party, do not hold it in your heart, and let the other party know appropriately, which can reduce a lot of misunderstandings and contradictions.
Although we often say that doing good deeds without leaving a name is a very noble quality, I think this is not suitable for couples to get along, and it is still necessary to be transparent between husband and wife for the other half.
Transparency can be less contradictory, and less contradictory marriage is naturally happy.
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