Kids always like to ask why?
"Xiao Bao, can't you climb up to the branches to play?"
"Why not?"
"You can't pick flowers from trees, and you can't break branches."
"You can't make a lot of noise in the elevator." "Why?"
My child, when you don't let her do this or that, she always likes to ask why. In fact, if you think about it carefully, I also feel quite fortunate, at least a 4-year-old child will be used to asking like this.
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As a mother, I didn't answer her questions seriously, sometimes perfunctorily, sometimes I really didn't know how to answer her questions. Last week she said she couldn't pick the flowers and plants at will, she asked for a long time, and I felt that my answer was nonsense, and then I had to look up the book.
I just read a picture book about outdoor play that day, and then I read with her at night, she said,
"Mom, I know why we can't break the branches, trees and flowers are part of nature, if we break the branches, the tree will die, we pick the flowers, the bees and butterflies will have less food." 」
As a result, she became more interested in the life of nature, and every night she wanted to continue to read the follow-up books, and we watched the Fabre Insects series together, which she said would continue to read other books.
We adults are immersed in the mobile Internet every day, in fact, a large part of it is also driven by curiosity.
Whether it is at home, or by public transportation, as long as we are idle, most people will choose to be a low-headed family, mobile phones in hand, can be a day. Even if you need to take a high-speed train for 10 hours, it will not feel like a long time.
So what drives us to be addicted to mobile phones?
It is a pastime curiosity that never ends like the new and hate the old! We like to see things that are not happening around us in the online world, and we will choose to watch it for the first time. After reading it, you will often use "the world is big, there is no wonder" to describe these things that make you feel "breathtaking".
Being a senior melon eater is a significant feature of most of us who have curiosity, because what we need is to keep eating melon, eating one and looking forward to the next bigger melon, and the current mobile Internet just gives us the ultimate convenience.
This curiosity can bring us a momentary sense of pleasure, but it cannot last long, but it makes us lose the inertia of further curiosity.
Young children's curiosity is inseparable from the involvement of parents.
When the child can't speak yet, she usually babbles and then uses her little fingers to point at that and her mouth to hum.
If an adult gives a child a timely response, such as when the child points to a cup of water, tell her,
"This is a water cup, is the baby thirsty?" Want to drink some water. Then hand the cup to the child.
If the child often refers to this and that, but the adult is indifferent, then slowly, the child's "finger" action does not get feedback, she will slowly not use her hand to point, nor will she babble, and after a little older, she will slowly not even ask why.
Why is it that the curiosity of most adults remains only at the level of entertainment and is not explored further? To treat children's curiosity, we should actively guide it.
Many people say that only children's curiosity is important.
In fact, the curiosity of our adults is not weaker than the curiosity of children, otherwise we would not spend so much time on mobile phones every day, but there are very few people who really use curiosity to the extreme.
When we have doubts about a certain information, we will immediately look it up on the Internet, and we will find that there are many answers, and it is easy for us to find the one we recognize in these answers. The answer came too easily.
For example, I am very interested in the psychology of depression and want to understand the psychological principles behind it. I also found a lot of answers from different fields on the Internet, and I also had some understanding of this knowledge point in my heart, but I was reluctant to nibble on a thick psychological book.
Don't have time? Don't have the energy? No. I have the time and energy to look at my phone.
The root cause of not doing it is because we are all focused on the current pastime curiosity, as for cracking the secrets behind it, because it requires more energy, it is less willing to do it, and over time, it has created a kind of network-dependent inertia.
When I think this way, I have to think deeply about the curiosity about the children.
If our children's curiosity is also shallow, then the children's curiosity when they grow up is likely to follow the set of shallow tastes when they are young.
Why are we humans so different from other mammals? When the offspring of horses and sheep are already able to run, they are in the stage of mate selection, and our human children are still climbing. In the long childhood of dependent parents, we humans have learned to love and be loved, how to learn, and more importantly, to ask why.
When the child asks a lot of why, in the process of learning and groping, she has a child's unique idea. That's why there is a saying: every child is different.
Reflect on this:
When your child asks you questions, talk to your child more:
When children grow up, driven by curiosity, they may have the potential to specialize and learn, and be able to dive into research.
So, take care of why the children ask, we can answer that we don't know, but actively guide the children to find the answers they want in the books.